I am a person who isn't particularly good with dating. I get caught up in thinking about what women expect of me as man. Mostly because I just have no idea what women want from me as a man. I feel uncomfortable because friends have told me things like "Well women our age(late 20's - early 30's) want a assertive man." I am not a very assertive person and I am also a person that needs to take things slow. I have never known how to really convey that to a woman because it seems like a trait that men typically don't have. I have never been one to want to sleep around or fuck as many women as possible and I always felt weird about that. Friends have said stuff like "So you mean to tell me if the hottest woman at your job walked up to you and bent over with cheeks spread, you wouldn't have sex with her?" The fact that I would NOT have sex in that situation made my friends laugh and I took it as a harmless joke but it did make me think. I believe that a woman would probably want to have sex before I am ready which isn't how it typically goes right? Like what do women expect of men in that regard? Would she be expecting me to want to have sex basically immediately? or what? I have no idea what anyone wants from me. I would like to try and find out ways to convey how I feel without it being weird but I get the feeling that no matter what saying "I want to wait a bit to have sex" as a man would be weird.

>>33382723 (OP)
>"Well women our age(late 20's - early 30's) want a assertive man."
That's true of high schoolers and college chicks as well, and middle aged women too.

You can be like nice and emotional and all that and still be assertive.

>Friends have said stuff like "So you mean to tell me if the hottest woman at your job walked up to you and bent over with cheeks spread, you wouldn't have sex with her?" The fact that I would NOT have sex in that situation made my friends laugh and I took it as a harmless joke but it did make me think.
I'm with you on that one, once the post-nut clarity hit you still have to talk to this woman and if she's someone you don't have anything in common with and don't really like other than she has a nice body, it's ultimately not worth trying to chase her ass.

> believe that a woman would probably want to have sex before I am ready which isn't how it typically goes right? Like what do women expect of men in that regard? Would she be expecting me to want to have sex basically immediately? or what?
Well if like a girl well enough and we have plenty in common or at the very least we get along great and learn from each other etc etc etc I will fuck her at the drop of a hat. But if this was like her twin sister or altered clone or something where her personality and interests and lifestyle are completely different except for her looks and body, I wouldn't be interested.

You just kinda sound like a turbo virgin who's scared of sex in general. I was like that, with girls I liked well enough sucking on my dick and forcing my hands on their friends' tits and grinding on my crotch while I was all "oh uhhh uhm oh uh what if someone hears us! oh no!" but I was like 17 at the time.

Once I had sex, I understood all the hype behind it.

>>33382723 (OP)
Context. Sex needs context. You're not weird for not wanting to openly plow down the rando office lady with her pussy on full display out of nowhere. There's the animal within and then full on "Crossed".
You are who you are. You don't have to try on the assertive persona if it doesn't fit you. Just treat things like they aren't a big deal and most shit gets a pass

>>33382723 (OP)
Women are a huge category and don't all want the same thing. Different women want different things

>>33382740
I am definitely a turbo virgin. I actually have a lot of problems with the act of having sex. I basically feel under too much pressure and I can't see a situation in which I could have sex calmly. I think this means I am most likely an anxiety ridden mess but not sure how to fix that. Or if it can even be fixed. I am just been trying to tank through it.

>>33383263
Every man feels this pressure. We all want our dick to work 100%, but sometimes it just fails and that's fine. A good woman knows that too. And if she acts weird when you can't deliver, then she is not a good woman for you.

Allow yourself to make errors and learn from them. There are worse things than getting rejected.