Thread 33386941 - /adv/ [Archived: 249 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/19/2025, 8:34:01 PM No.33386941
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How do I strike up a conversation with strangers at a bar? How do I tell if they're open to being approached/talked to?
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 9:04:24 PM No.33387060
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 9:29:05 PM No.33387169
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I mean people approach others at places like this and have success but they have capability already to do so to some extent. The differences aren't going to be obvious to everyone.

I think depending factors can include things such as the type of venue (dive bar, pool hall, rooftop, etc), the constituents that influence a situation at then-present hand, individual factors such as for example degree to which a person has extroversion, how they're feeling that day, how often they've done this, confidence, degree of prominence with traits like openness to experience or neuroticism, how they handle anxiety.

I've been visiting pool halls for about a year just out of interest in the game and over time I've become more comfortable very much so, in asking randos if they want to play a game. I have an existing difficulty with social anxiety and it's been a charming experience, gradually being more comfrotable with strangers in the sense of frequenting public venues, over time
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 9:42:40 PM No.33387236
>>33386941 (OP)
>How do I strike up a conversation with strangers at a bar?
learn magic tricks
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_magic_tricks
>How do I tell if they're open to being approached/talked to?
it doesn't matter as long as you're good at magic tricks
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 3:01:53 AM No.33388419
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>>33387236
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7/20/2025, 3:03:11 AM No.33388424
>>33388419
I don't do magic, but I know an alcoholic 40 something year old bald man with a power donut that plays guitar and does magic tricks and it works great but he has been practicing both for like 20 plus years
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 3:07:49 AM No.33388443
Ask them if they work at a hospital. If its a woman you will be a right a majority of the time. Or atleast healthcare adjacent. Then immedaitely start talking about something else, by asking more and more questions
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 10:09:54 AM No.33389827
>>33386941 (OP)
If there's a TV on, comment on the game or news or whatever
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 7:42:34 PM No.33391718
>>33386941 (OP)
Most people are at a bar to socialize.. you’re probably going to come off as desperate if you try starting the conversation though since you’re not confident. Just sit at the bar drinking and watch the tv… eventually someone will say something to you. Smile and laugh a lot, be agreeable and say generic crap like “it is what it is” or “right, right” and ask questions about shit even if you know the answer. Let them do the talking so they feel important. They’ll remember you and then next time you run into them other people will notice you are “popular”
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 8:23:56 PM No.33391926
>>33386941 (OP)
Why do you want to talk to them in the first place? Honest question, not trying to sound like a jerk OP.
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 8:29:59 PM No.33391953
1. they re probably drunk and there to socialize so i dont think it would be hard in the first place
2. just say something. ask them whats their name where are they from... basic shit, talk a bit bout yourself until you find something interesting to talk about i guess? if someone is not nice then leave and talk to another person
3. why do u even want to meet bar people? they probably are a bunch of drunks
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 8:30:29 PM No.33391958
>>33391926
For me I was alone at a bar a few months ago, met an old fella who served in the infantry, conversation steared towards Vietnam and all the books I read on special forces especially LRRPs. He was generally pretty impressed and asked if I had served in the army, told him "No I just like reading about history and warfare"
Good times!
Just strike up a conversation with someone and see where it takes you, you'll end up:
Talking about something you know
and/or
Listening to someone else about what they know.

If the conversation bores you or the other person both parties tend to disengage. Unless the other member is an ass hole and just likes the sound of their own voice.
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 8:35:17 PM No.33391973
>>33387169
Do you generally talk to them as you play pool?