>he’s had a history of being abused by multiple girlfriends.
>we were talking about music and he automatically liked every band i mentioned, even though i knew it was a lie.
>kinda like he was afraid to disagree with me.
>not that i want him to disagree with everything i say, but it’s almost like he was scared of a negative opinion/reaction.
>he’s an indiefag and i’m a metalhead but somehow he likes xasthur???
>the heaviest thing he said he listened to was the stone roses.
>but somehow likes autistic screeching music?
>(im not an elitist i swear, he was just being a faggot)
>within a few weeks of talking, he was offering to buy me games on steam.
>was kind of a nice gesture but i didn’t want to give the impression that my affection and attention can be bought.
>very clingy and will text back in seconds when i don’t reply for hours.
>regularly tries to get another girlfriend weeks after breaking up with the last one.
>i think he needs a gf to feel emotionally validated.
>vapes.
>vaping is for women, men should smoke cigarettes.
>daddy issues.
>is almost 30.

he seems like a sweet funny guy and i hope he does find the right girl for him. but why am i so repulsed by this? i feel really guilty.

U are male

>>33390118 (OP)
You were right to reject. I’m impressed by your instinct femanon, good job. You were correct about every single assessment except one or two.

>vapes
>vaping is for women, men should smoke cigarettes
Woman I only vape because I used to smoke 20 - 30 cigarettes a day. Also trying to quit vape too. Both cigs and vape are shit, adult version of a baby pacifier to help with stress.

Both are gayy

>captcha GAYYR

You are repulsed because he’s a Mr. Nice Guy. Mr Nice Guys are the most unpredictable and arguably dangerous type to marry. Because they show you they don’t confront their own negativity at all, they run away from inner conflict or showing healthy anger or healthy stress or healthy suffering. They dont even think healthy versions of negativity exist. So you cannot trust them to control themselves on the day they lose their cool. You will witness something akin to a volatile tantrum. And volatile tantrums are dangerous as fuck when its an adult man sized body throwing its weight around.

Disagreeable men at least know how to wield negative emotions responsibly.

>>33390166
>OP makes thread about annoying supplicant
>first reply is IMPRESSED by OP's instincts!!!
kill yourself

>>33390195
That would be true if I gave a shit about OP personally. I don’t, she’s an anonymous post on my screen. I can still give props to the right decision making though. A lot of girls are fucking dumb as dirt when selecting and filtering out manchildren, simps, fuckboys, etc. Was refreshing to witness good instinct for once

>>33390203
>he thinks op is a girl
Kek

>>33390118 (OP)
If this isnt a troll, please understand the irony of complaining about who insecure and needing of validation someone is while youre posting online looking for support validation because you feel guilty about a very, very basic life decision you should be able to make yourself without polling a crowd of incels.

You dont like him. Move on. His issues aren't yours. Simple as that.

>>33390259
Yeah I do because OP sold it well. If it's a man then I'll take the L. OP types in all lower case, typical female quirk. Also went on a whole tangent criticising someone only to add "but i feel kinda bad for thinking this way/he seems sweet I wish him the best" at the end. Typical female approach, passive-aggressive, masking resentment or contempt with an icing of false sincerity. If it's bait then I give it a strong 8/10

>>33390118 (OP)
why are you insecure about it, looks like you met someone whos even more insecure? It normal for anyone who isn't a narcissist or a scammer to be repulse by it. I've had the same with a gril I met. She was normal online, seemed like she does have self confidence. But it became weird and something was off over time, and when I met her irl the first she said was
>haha, do you want to run away now
and it wasn't a joke, it was obviously a tryhard insecure joke. And during the date I ordered beer she had to comment
>haha, you need alcohol to endure the date
like fuck off u insecure faggot. They tend to always seek validation for their insecurities and it's annoying.

>>33390166
i like guys who are nice but “Nice Guys” just seem to want to act very feminine in relationships. not that id like someone distant emotionless and always needing to be the dominant one, but i also don’t want to play mommy for a grown man’s insecurities at some point down the line.

>>33390268
this whole board is dedicated to validation seeking.

>>33390278
i don’t resent him, i genuinely do hope he finds the right girl because i think he could be a good partner if he stopped acting like a faggot. i don’t wish ill on him just because he wasn’t the right person for me.

>>33390291
Yeah and props for avoiding that. You avoided pic related. Anyway those other anons have a point, there's no point complaining about feeling bad about it. Because ironically you are mommying the guy and he ain't even here to get his booboo's kissed by your posts.

>>33390303
>i don’t resent him, i genuinely do hope he finds the right girl because i think he could be a good partner if he stopped acting like a faggot. i don’t wish ill on him just because he wasn’t the right person for me.

Yeah you do. You devoted a whole breakdown on why you think he is a faggot. People only do that for things they find contemptible. Which is fine, go ahead and contempt to your heart's delight. Just be honest about it. Pretending to care is false speech

>>33390323
i acknowledge his faggotness but i am at peace with it.

>>33390278
this, and im a girl and i can spot bait very easily. btw congrats OP, im always drawn to insecure whiny men who are only into /mu/ stuff. i really love them tho so I can endure this. although I would hate for someone to feign interest in anything i like, just tell me its shit

>>33390323
the longer i hold contempt for him, the more bitter i become. i don’t want to be complaining to my future partners about how shitty and annoying my past ex/talking stage was. it makes me cringe so bad when my friends rant about their shitty exes from like 5 years ago because it’s usually their fault for being complicit with a retard and they’re still butthurt about it and i don’t want to become that person. if i’m just accepting and positive about what happened, i won’t have that problem.

>>33390357
right?? i thought i was crazy for being annoyed by it at first then i realised that an almost 30 year old man pretending to like shitty preteen metal to impress a girl is kinda gay.

>>33390358
>the longer i hold contempt for him, the more bitter i become. i don’t want to be complaining to my future partners about how shitty and annoying my past ex/talking stage was. it makes me cringe so bad when my friends rant about their shitty exes from like 5 years ago because it’s usually their fault for being complicit with a retard and they’re still butthurt about it and i don’t want to become that person

Yeah but here you are making a thread to complain to us and we’re not your future partner(s). That’s the funny twist.

>If I’m just accepting and positive about what happened, i won’t have that problem.
Thats the same pussy mindset that guy had presumably, at least thats what Mr Nice Guys do. Except the world excuses you for it because you’re a woman and women have this dumb habit of always craving happy endings to swaddle themselves with to shirk their own accountability away. Or the negative consequences of their actions or inactions. Makes em feel all warm and fuzzy and spotless and pure. Happy endings for everyone involved mentality. Its weak and stupid, also why its usually women who catch wacky fetishes for criminals and rapists and petition for their release. That and also vote for swine to immigrate to their countries and fuck up the culture. Typical female shit. A true classic, an OG woman moment.

Anyway nah your logic is flawed,

>if im just accepting
>and positive about what happened
It wasn’t a positive experience though. Lying that it was is the opposite of acceptance, it’s denial. Acceptance isn’t a feel good word to use when it feels convenient. Its an honest word that sometimes means accepting negative shit as well as positive. Means wearing the big girl panties and just accepting shit sucked and moving on.

>>33390397
>Yeah but here you are making a thread to complain to us and we’re not your future partner(s)

i treat 4chan like my diary lul

>>33390415
Fair enough. Just pen this into the diary then:
>Dear diary, today I met a pussy. He was nice. But I realised I already have a pussy, I don’t need another one. I am a female and I avoid conflict. I need a man who can handle it for me. The nice guy probably can’t handle unhooking a bra without his little hands shaking. I’ll pass. The end.

>>33390295
Yes, but, again.. this is OP posting complaining about someone being a way OP is acting right now.. and Im moreso on the "I met a guy and I dont like him. What do I do?" Don't date him. An audience poll was not required here.
People are cognitively offloading basic decision making and relationship navigation to the internet. Its an awful trend.

>>33390924
So also post that on 90% of other threads on this board

>>33390953
I do.

>>33391019
Bro is the complaints police

>>33390118 (OP)
So? You did the right thing.
If you stayed you would've ended up wasting your time and ending up hating him. Once a "nice" guy has you locked you down then the relationship goes to shit. You move in together and realize he's lazy and immature and passive-aggressive. He finds you boring and is more excited to white-knight for his dysfunctional female "friends" he's beta-orbiting then actually have a good relationship with you. Or he acts like a child so you have to nag him to be reasonable adult, then he masochistically gets off on hating you nagging him, then he blames you for his dissatisfaction in life. Likely he'll grow to see you as the Skyler White in his life.
Or it could be even worse, he could break down into a stereotypical jealous controlling abuser, once the mask falls off.

>>33391062

My man, if you dont see it, youre one of them. You have got to be brain fried to not realize its very silly what OP is asking us here.

I used the term "cognitive offloading" look it up. Its a real phenomenon. If yoh have to come to the internet to solve all your basic little problems and issues, you lose your ability to solve problems at all.

It is actually mentally destructive for you to come to the internet with shit like what OP is bringing us. They dont like the guy they're seeing. They don't have to continue.
Asking us if theyre a bad person, or if they shouldn't hate them, or why they dont like them contributes to their brain just never thinking their own shit through again. Not once, but if they're doing it right now, rest assured they do this regularly.

This isnt a thread about "should I go to school or start a trade" or other advice thats reasonable and actually requires experience and knowledge people might not have. Thats a good thing to ask advice for.

This is someone asking us to hold their hand through a basic social interaction and tell them how to feel and why. Cognitive offloading.

>>33390118 (OP)
Insecure repulsed at insecure lel you repulse urself you repulsive femoid

>>33390118 (OP)
>vaping is for women, men should smoke cigarettes
I can’t decide if I agree with this or not. I agree that smoking cigs is more manly and frankly my preferred method, but calling vaping a female thing doesn’t seem right. Its just a take I’ve never seen. I swear vaping damages my throat more than smoking.
Also what advice are you seeking, or are you just preening about rejecting a guy, or is this some gay anti-woman larp? (If so, youre good at it I’ll grant you that)
>>33390166
Spwp wow that was atrocious

Absolutely incredible people fall for these baits
Women don’t post here

Is it really a surprise that women don't like beta numale bitchboys?

Kill yourself, OP.

>>33393708
omg is that you???

>>33393708
i am sorry for rejecting you but you’re still a faggot cuck.

>>33390118 (OP)
That's the male version of BPD, you dodged a bullet