>>33390773>And what can I do? Please if there's a way to solve this let me know, this has completely ruined my life.You already know what to do. The struggle with having too much mothering and too little fathering is you will always know what to do, but you never know how to do it. And whenever you figure out how, very little motivation or energy to follow through. Just stuck in the water and no swimming forward through problems.
This is because women, nice as they are, only provide comfort and validation. That's all. Comfort keeps you from risk, risk is what gets you to grow. Validation keeps you from feeling like you failed. Learning from failure is what promotes development. Men are the ones who can give you resolve & encouragement. The blueprint on how to kill your problems and the encouragement to dare you to try and try again.
Mothers and women can't teach men how to be men. Only men can. Nobody has heard a woman tell her son: "Get back up. Don't give up, keep going. Let it hurt. Just push through. Find a way. There you go, good man. I knew you had it in you. I'm proud of you, son."
Without that in your upbringing you are stuck. Unless you dare yourself to say "fuck that" and refuse to lay down. You swear an oath to yourself that you will make a man of yourself no matter what. You find solutions to the problem. If the problem is dad-shaped, then find the closest stand-in role models to assist you. Find strong and wise masculine role models wherever you can, learn from them, integrate them and embody them. Seek encouragement where available, but also seek risk and struggle. That helps you grow.