Is my mom trying to seduce me? - /adv/ (#33390447) [Archived: 233 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/20/2025, 2:38:30 PM No.33390447
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>She rest her head on my shoulders
>Pees with the door open
>Seen her naked countless times
>Used to flash her tits at me at the beach when I was a kid
>Used to vent a lot to me when I was a child because she had no one to talk to
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 2:56:33 PM No.33390544
>>33390447 (OP)
No
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 3:26:06 PM No.33390670
>>33390447 (OP)
No
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 3:29:35 PM No.33390692
>>33390447 (OP)
No. But she did commit emotional incest. Emotional incest is non-sexual. It’s when a woman – typically a single mother, or at least a woman married to a deadbeat – unleashes her emotional neediness onto her own child in the absence of a male figurehead to give that to. It’s also done as a response to circumstance, rarely done on purpose. Basically the woman plays the game of build-a-boyfriend with her own son because her man fucked off or doesn’t give a shit.

Women like this are called ‘devouring mothers’. Devouring the son emotionally to soothe herself. Burdening him with adult-sized problems or issues despite being in the body of a child. Venting, nagging, being emotionally needy or possessive, even clipping her son’s wings and talking him out of growing and developing, sabotaging his chances of being his own individual man and moving out. All to keep him around as a stand-in for the man who abandoned her. It’s kinda fucked. And no you won’t get fucked from it. You get fucked up though.
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 3:46:09 PM No.33390773
>>33390692
>You get fucked up though.
And what can I do? Please if there's a way to solve this let me know, this has completely ruined my life
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 4:05:39 PM No.33390853
>>33390773
>And what can I do? Please if there's a way to solve this let me know, this has completely ruined my life.

You already know what to do. The struggle with having too much mothering and too little fathering is you will always know what to do, but you never know how to do it. And whenever you figure out how, very little motivation or energy to follow through. Just stuck in the water and no swimming forward through problems.

This is because women, nice as they are, only provide comfort and validation. That's all. Comfort keeps you from risk, risk is what gets you to grow. Validation keeps you from feeling like you failed. Learning from failure is what promotes development. Men are the ones who can give you resolve & encouragement. The blueprint on how to kill your problems and the encouragement to dare you to try and try again.

Mothers and women can't teach men how to be men. Only men can. Nobody has heard a woman tell her son: "Get back up. Don't give up, keep going. Let it hurt. Just push through. Find a way. There you go, good man. I knew you had it in you. I'm proud of you, son."

Without that in your upbringing you are stuck. Unless you dare yourself to say "fuck that" and refuse to lay down. You swear an oath to yourself that you will make a man of yourself no matter what. You find solutions to the problem. If the problem is dad-shaped, then find the closest stand-in role models to assist you. Find strong and wise masculine role models wherever you can, learn from them, integrate them and embody them. Seek encouragement where available, but also seek risk and struggle. That helps you grow.
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 4:31:25 PM No.33390925
>>33390853
Do you have issues with women? Sounds like you speak from experience. Did it fuck your life up, women-wise?
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 4:34:06 PM No.33390944
>>33390853
Thank you Anon. I won't lie, I have an Oedipus Complex and I have been jerking off to the memories of my mom being to close to me for too long, to the point where I failed to achieve an erection whenever I attempted to have sex
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 4:39:17 PM No.33390964
>>33390925
Not anymore, and well-spotted, I do speak from experience. It fucked up my life, as a whole and with women. I depended too much on women. The image of them (porn use) and also their involvement (craving relationships to the point of dependency). I never directly felt unmanly or questioned my masculinity, he'll, sometimes I'd overcompensate and front that I was manly. But in my efficacy, my capability to sort shit out, life problems, goals, structure, self-discipline, I had precisely zero of that in the bank. So all of the things that make a man a strong man, I was bankrupt. I had all the comfort yet the nagging word 'defective' burned in the back of my mind. So I'd drown it out by running to women like an opiate. Anyway turned out that pattern was a 1:1 match with my upbringing. Coddled by momma, had a dad who refused to pass down encouragement, only vitriol and anger. Once I figured that out I set my sights on learning elsewhere. Been doing that ever since a d it's been serving me well.
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 4:45:40 PM No.33390995
>>33390944
>Thank you Anon. I won't lie, I have an Oedipus Complex and I have been jerking off to the memories of my mom being to close to me for too long, to the point where I failed to achieve an erection whenever I attempted to have sex

No problem brother. And yeah that complex shows up frequently in such a dynamic. That's normal as far as the word goes in an abnormal set-up. I was exclusively into MILFs to the point of obsession.

It's because sexual arousal depends entirely on familiarity. Familiarity is what tells the mind 'this is safe. This has been revisited 1,000,000 times and you did not perish. Seek this situation to have sex/get horny'.

And that's exactly what it'll do. It will seek out what was familiar. Even if what was familiar ate at your soul. It does not care. It only cares for the survival of the body. That's its only task. So it seeks out fetishes or sexual dynamics that closely resemble the emotional landscape you felt as most familiar. And if what was most familiar to you was being coddled or devoured emotionally by an older woman who was bigger than you mentally and physically, that's exactly what it's gonna pick in your porn search history.

You can safely ignore it. It's not something that needs to define you. Only (you) get to say what sort of man you are and what you will be.
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 4:48:17 PM No.33391011
>>33390995
Thank you Anon. It's a bit late here so I gotta go to sleep but if this thread is still up I will reply tomorrow but yeah I hope I can fix this issue, do you have any advice on quitting masturbation?
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 4:55:02 PM No.33391037
>>33391011
>I hope I can fix this issue, do you have any advice on quitting masturbation?

You will. Dare yourself say you will often enough and you will, you have it in you to do that so it will be so.

For masturbation, you need to put your own dick out of a job. Notice your hands get bored and seek a task. No task at hand, but your dick. People say man's best friend is a dog. It's half true. We got other best friends than just dogs. Such as tools, weapons, objects. Man brain loves tools. Holding them and using them. Because it gets shit done, it's efficiency and power to wield as an extension of yourself.

So throw yourself at tasks, crafts, skills, hobbies that uses your hands, that uses tools. Puts the dick out of a job. You'll reach for that instead of yourself. Horniness becomes transmuted into ambition or motivation. You use that as a fuel to do something rather than whack off.

Sounds crazy but what's crazy is it works. You won't be doing crazy shit or impressive feats at first, don't worry about it. Build up to it. Pick one small task to do each day that involves using your body. Anything. Start from there and add onto it progressively week by week.

Chronic masturbation is a beast you gotta slowly kill. Can't be killed in one shot.
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 5:04:53 PM No.33391073
>>33391037
That's actually very motivating and encouraging Anon, it seems like I could use it as a way to grow, like instead of a weakness but I wonder in what direction, but I guess that's part of the process, thank you so much for your advice

>Puts the dick out of a job

Btw, English isn't my first language, can you elaborate on what this means to make sure I understood it correctly
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 5:09:34 PM No.33391090
>>33391073
>Btw, English isn't my first language, can you elaborate on what this means to make sure I understood it correctly

Yeah no problem. It means you won't need to jerk off to soothe your craving. You will no longer require masturbation to release bottled energy once you have an activity or outlet to use to release that energy into instead.

When a man has no passion or task or purpose, he will have unreleased energy. So he gives that job of satisfaction for his dick to handle. But that self-satisfaction is insubstantial, it is not enough. Because nothing grew, nothing changed, nothing was added to that young man's life.

So putting the dick out of a job = give the job of self-satisfaction to something better, something that provides actual outcomes or results instead.
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 5:13:32 PM No.33391103
>>33391090
>You will no longer require masturbation to release bottled energy once you have an activity or outlet to use to release that energy into instead.
That makes so much sense Anon, it's like something suddenly clicked. That's completely true, whenever I masturbate is to release tension, but there are other ways to channel it, I never thought about it that way

Thank you so much for your help, I didn't really see it from that perspective. Now I do need to go but I'm going to come back to the thread tomorrow but if you aren't around I want you to know that I'm very grateful for your response and help
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 5:24:47 PM No.33391138
>>33391103
>That makes so much sense Anon, it's like something suddenly clicked.

Exactly. And it was able to ‘click’ because it is proof that you have what it takes in you. The task is to just dig up your capability which you already have. So rest assured, you can do this.

No problem and you are welcome. Thanks for listening and taking the time to post bro. Sleep well
Anonymous
7/20/2025, 5:37:05 PM No.33391196
>>33390964
Were you able to build a healthy and satisfying, both sexually and emotionally, relationship afterwards? Without MILF/porn shit?
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 5:42:52 PM No.33391225
>>33391196
>Were you able to build a healthy and satisfying, both sexually and emotionally, relationship afterwards? Without MILF/porn shit?

Yep, got a wife and a kid on the way. Wife’s same age as me. Satisfies me both ways too. No need for MILF/porn shit when you get the real thing anyway by marrying a good honest woman and making her mother to your kid(s). That’s the funny silver lining to being into that fetish is in the end it pays off anyway. Means you’ll be increasingly attracted to your woman as she ages with you.