Hi. I want to change my personality so I become less stupid looking. I'm not good with people and I just end up being really akward. Should I try to be a misterious girl? Like speaking just a little, being serious and dressing kind of goth? Or maybe like be cute and stupid? I am just not natural. Everything comes out in an akward way.

What do you like in a girl? How is your dream girl? I am asking about how much she speaks, what does she dress like, what vibe does she give, what hobbies does she have, what does she do in her day to day life?

I know its pathetic to ask for a life guide but i am really curious.

Thanks!

>>33392028 (OP)
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>>33392034
Slurp slurp slurp.... keep replying and more incels flood into your atrocious thread...... slurping intensifying!

>>33392028 (OP)
First off, you have to be 18 to post here.
Assuming that you are and you're having an identity crisis, the trick isn't to change your personality, it's to refine it. Work on your rough edges/negative traits and replace them with positive traits you'd like to have. Alternatively, you could completely change your personality and slowly lose the ability to feel joy as you die inside. Your call.

>>33392034
>>33392043
What are you two slurping? It sounds good.

>>33392028 (OP)
What you become has to come from your preferences; no-one can give you a general plan. You could look for role models that you find appealing, and study and emulate one thing or another about them.

>>33392043
what do you mean?

>>33392028 (OP)
Learn to be educated and professional. I heard that in business school they have classes that basically teach social skills. Classes, work, and extracurricalar activities/clubs give you an opportunity to learn and practice how to interact with people in an organized way, where you get constructive feedback.

>>33392049
the thing is i do not have a personality. everything i do feel like an act and i want to know how to perform well.

>>33392028 (OP)
I have mommy issues so i like outgoing tomboys with degrees in pyschology. But thats just me.

Anyway, what ive found to work for making guy friends is to be as outgoing as possible. Talk just to talk. Be good at small talk. Crack jokes. Being mysterious alpha etc is just bullshit sold by online influencers. Dunno how it is for women desu.

>>33392089
Also fucking protip: NEVER USE YOUR FUCKING PHONE WHEN INTERACTING WITH SOMEONE, outside of showing them something

This is the #1 thing ive noticed with people who struggle with socialization.

>>33392061
good idea thanks!

>>33392075
yes maybe i should choose to be polite and exercise my social skills i guess thanks!

>>33392089
ok so speak a lot instead thanks!

>>33392092
ok makes sense thank u

>>33392081
Is this a serious thread? If it is, just don't worry. You're a chick, just act the way you want, things will be okay. Having a weird personality is okay as a girl. The only reason guys here spend all day trying to pretend to be someone we're not is because we're old, short, and ugly. We have to do that, or we wouldn't be doing it either. Relax, you're not like that and you will be okay. Just live.

I've met girls who have dramatic fashion styles even though they're kind of antisocial. Fashion is fun because you don't actually have to talk to people to do it, and it draws them to talk to you and makes you look interesting. Experiment with what you like. You can try goth or alt styles, you can try e-girl exaggerated feminine styles, you can try "Dark Academia" or other trendy stuff. Cottagecore. Whatever you like. Eventually you will see what looks good with your body type and what you feel comfortable wearing every day. It's fun if you have some artistic sense, matching the colors, fabrics, etc.

Also, the more intelligent and successful you are with your career, the more leeway you have to be eccentric (and the more money you will have for that). So work hard on that. Money is what makes the difference between eccentric and just crazy.

>>33392116
yes maybe i could turn weird into excentric that is an amazing idea!! i am not pretty but at least i could be like interesting and complex and "original". but that kind of feels like distracting people from my actual personality instead of having a cool one. though weird complex girl could be it. like saying the ramdom shit i already do but in a cool way? how do i achieve that appart from clothing. and i feel like dressing goth without being goth is a bit rude to the subculture and poserish. i do not like post punk enough to be a goth. and now there is like the goth fad. maybe more like you said like dark academia coquette?
so 1) creating a cool look 2) being succesful 3) relaxing (maybe i should meditate though it stresses me out more but maybe if practice i might be more relaxed??) thank you!