I have this friend who is 36 years old and a virgin. The point of this thread is I'd like to try to help him and need some advice on how to get through to him. I am the only one he has confided this to, which he did almost 10 years ago. He thinks none of our other friends know, but they totally do. We've all talked about it. He is mortified of anyone finding out because he thinks they will make fun of him. Like I said, we've all known since even before he told me and nobody cares. The dude was 27 and never had a girlfriend, it was pretty obvious.

Anyways, as I see it he has a few problems that make it impossible to talk to him. Firstly, he refuses to get therapy because he thinks it won't help him. He also has a reddit account that I've seen and belongs to a bunch of incel groups. Not the angry "fuck women" type from 4chan but more of the sad pathetic feel bad for me type. So he sits around thinking nothing will ever change with all these moping losers. He's been posting there for over 10 years. Lastly, whenever I or someone online gives him advice, he never takes it because he interprets it as "not listening to what he's saying" and also for some reason he thinks nobody cares. He also refuses to see an escort because he thinks it doesn't count and that he would just be mortified of anyone finding out about that instead.

He claims to want to get rid of his virginity so badly but he takes no advice from anyone and thinks that his fate is essentially sealed because its been too long. How do I get through to this retard?

>>33392227 (OP)
>How do I get through to this retard?
You can't. And honestly, at 36, it is simply too late for him. Ten years ago you would have been able to help him, but not now.

Losing your virginity to a prostitute is pretty messed up, but at 36, that might be the only option.

>>33392246
>Ten years ago you would have been able to help him
Okay, so pretend it's 10 years ago and tell me how? Because he's had the same mindset since he told me back then. I tried to help him immediately and it was all, oh it's too late for me, oh nobody listens to me, its not that easy to change, oh if i sleep with a woman now she'll be able to tell im a virgin etc

>>33392252
>Okay, so pretend it's 10 years ago
There's really no point. His entire outlook on life would have to change, and he is too old and too inflexible to be able to do that now.

>>33392227 (OP)
How much money are you willing to put into this? Have you considered hiring an escort for him and having her pretend she's just a normal woman looking for a one night stand?

Hes not cut out for sex. He isnt a hunter. He wont even hunt a prostitute. His dick is functionally no different than a clitoris. You need fire and blood to fuck. Most of these long term virgins dont have it in them. They dont trust themselves enough to assert themselves with their cock.

Is he a diamond in the rough? Or is he fat, ugly, unemployed, and living with his mother?

This makes a big difference.

>>33392296
If you're gonna troll go somewhere else please. You clearly have nothing to say
>>33392334
Kek I appreciate the clever plan but that would have to be one cheap hooker.
>>33392349
I'm not disagreeing with you but why then does he think he wants sex so badly?
>>33392413
I know what you're saying, I wouldn't say he's one of those remarkable guys who just got unlucky. He's fairly average looking, maybe like 40lbs overweight. He has a job and lives with a roommate in an apartment. Although he did live with his mom until he was around 30 or so. Our friend group has girls in it, I've seen him talk to them. He doesn't act like a retard or lose his spaghetti. He just has absolutely zero game. There was a girl who liked him years ago but he did absolutely nothing about it. When I asked him he just gave me the same old reasoning, too late for him, nobody understands, nobody cares what he's going through etc. His retardation exists purely in the area of sex and romance. He functions relatively normally outside of that.
He's not a 400lb yugioh collector or anything if thats what you're wondering. But he's no chad either.

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