I’m 25 and I’m clearly interested in a 16 year old. It’s legal in our country but I haven’t made any advances because I know it’s not the right thing for her and it’ll only hurt us both in the short and long term. But mainly her. I don’t even know if she likes me or not, and I’m sure it’s for the best that I never actually know. I think we both have a healthy online friendship, or at least the best it can be. I just want to know from someone who’s experienced here what’s the best way to just get over myself and stop being enamored by someone who’s much younger than me, regardless of legality, and move on to better and healthier things. Should I just stop talking to her? I really can’t think of anything else that would help the best way possible.

Any anon that says I should just go for it, fuck off

maybe you could tell her how feel but also tell her you dont want a relationship or anything like that and your just getting it off your chest so you can move on? im sorry that might not be good advice

>>33393116 (OP)
>It’s legal in our country
You might wanna double check that. Most people on the internet do not understand AOC laws. They just see the number and think that's the end of it. For instance many countries the AOC is 16, but that's only good for an age gap of 3 years. Meaning a 16 yo can consent to a 19 yo but not a 25 yo.

>>33393116 (OP)
Yeah man, you gotta stop talking to her. It will suck for the first little bit but eventually you will move on. I know with unrequited love or breakups it can feel like the pain will last forever and that it would be better to make it work. But if you are resilient, patient, and get through those days or weeks or months, you will get over her and move on.

>>33393116 (OP)
>>33393172
To add on to this:
>go out to a party or a club by yourself or with friends
>get exposure to other women
>spend time with friends or make friends
The worst thing you can do is talk to her, or sit around being online all day. Your mind will be able to move past this so much more quickly by having a busy life

>>33393172
>>33393177
It sucks because we share a lot of interests that are very niche that I don’t share with real life friends or even other online friends. So in my view she’s a 1 in a 7 billion person, someone that I can share about my interests without feeling like I’m getting into a debate, fight or lecture (something common in this specific hobby). I’m also just not used to hanging out in real life, but I guess that’s something I have to also get over myself. I’m gonna miss her so much bug it’s the right thing to do. Sorry for the vent reply.

>>33393116 (OP)
You have to let her go, but it's a very good thing that you're mature enough to understand that's not what you should want. Maybe it will be different in the future and you'll meet again. My grandfather met my grandmother when she was 16 and he was 26. While you shouldn't follow in his footsteps, my gf is 24 and I'm 34, so it's totally doable, but right now is not the right time for you.

>>33393416
Best thing for me right now is probably not to get my hopes up on anything with her, especially now. But I really appreciate this post and the story.

>>33393162
You’re actually the retard here. Those are Romeo and Juliet laws, whoch are different from the actual consent. For example, a 17 year old can mate with a 15 year old, but at 16 they can mate with 80 year olds.

>>33393751
wrong, i'm not talking about romeo and juliet laws, those are a different thing entirely focused on lower than 16 yo consent

>>33393401
Eh Anon honestly, you will find someone else. I've been in love a few times, the first couple always feel like meant-to-be's and irreplaceable. Well, the girl I'm with now makes all previous ones look like nothing, despite the fact that at the time they seemed perfect. And with my experience now I know that even if my current relationship were to end today, as much as I love her more than anything, I would find someone else eventually. It's totally normal to feel like she's 1 in 7 billion believe me I have been there. I'm just saying given time, you won't feel that way anymore. Especially if this is an online relationship, which I have done, and is a horrible horrible idea for so many ways.

>>33393900
Thanks, anon. I really appreciate this.

>>33393116 (OP)
16 year olds do not see 25 year olds as equal, they see them as cool adults.
Even if this is considered adult in your country, you are abusing that image to fuck a teenager. it is not mutual appreciation.
She 100% has a heightened appreciation for you because of that fact, which will either make her a less independent and growth stunted person as she grows older, or make her dislike you years into the relationship, meaning you can be in your 30s ready to settle down while she ready to move on.
Even if it is legal in your area for someone in their mid 20s to date someone in their mid teens, it is exceptionally dumb

>>33393116 (OP)
>Should I just stop talking to her?
Yes.

>>33394759
Great answer

don't stop talking to her. there is no reason you cannot be a trusted mentor once you have your urge under control. she might actually be enjoying harmless flirting with an older man, and learning skills that will benefit her in life. if you have already been talking and she hasn't annoyed you, she's probably a wise person for her age and someone who would make a good friend, with a little guidance