How do I jerk off without porn and without feeling shame afterwards? Ive been addicted to porn for the last decade, it was my childhood. Jerking off without porn feels like hell and I cant seem to bring myself to ejaculation no matter how hard I try. But I literally don't ever want to go back to porn. What do I do?
>>33393327 (OP)also stop jerking off - it's not good for you.
>>33393327 (OP)I would recommend slow deescalation. Go from videos to still images and then to clothed images and then use only your imagination
>>33393431There are no literally no downsides to jerking off.
All of this will sound very twee and gay. Sry.
Stop trying so hard to bring yourself to orgasm. That's counterproductive. Instead, take time to reacquaint yourself with your body and the way it can make you feel. No more five minutes of furiously jerking it to handful of 45 second clips on /gif/: you want to make a bit more of a production out of it. Clean up your bedroom. Do things to make the space feel comfortable. Some people find they like candles or scents. Shower beforehand so you feel clean. The idea is to do things that help you feel sensual and sexy and relaxed.
Block off some real time, a half hour maybe to start. Start with foreplay for yourself. Lightly stroke parts of your body that aren't your penis: your thighs, your nipples, your lips, your testicles, your perineum, your armpits. Keep your breath deep, slow, relaxed. Build sensation until you're feeling aroused and getting hard. Play with different ways of touching your penis. Buy some lube and use it. Focus on sensations instead of fantasies.
You want to develop a different relationship to your body and self-touch. You can actually feel a lot more pleasure when you approach masturbation as "self-love" and are as nice to your own body as you would be to a partner's. And it will help you rewire some of the habits you got in
>>33393734>>33393734Problem is I don't feel sexy no matter what I do I feel like I'm raping and molesting myself and torturing myself before during and after masturbation. It genuinely feels like hell.
>>33394239> Problem is I don't feel sexy no matter what I do I feel like I'm xxx and xxx myself and torturing myself before during and after. It genuinely feels like hell.Sad. Do you think monkeys that jerk off for fun are also torturing themselves? Something is off here, maybe it's your timing, maybe you need to buy some Vaseline.
Nobody is forcing you to do this.
>>33394239I think you have some much more serious issues around sex than you may have suggested initially. I stand by my advice as a way of exploring what feels good. But if you have such strong issues around intimacy that even your own touch feels like a traumatizing violation, you may honestly benefit from getting some mental healthcare.
