I never see guides on how to help people like me even on reddit. I’ve never had much luck and most of my dates never end in anything continuing (only been on like 3 in total in my life— didn’t even hold hands in any). I think they realize I’m not what I seem by appearance and actually just a meek high functioning autistic guy.
Does anyone have tips? I’ve never met someone who genuinely liked me and I do feel its harder as a black guy because of the racial stereotypes even within my own community. If you are a black anon with autism can you please reply with tips on what helped you be in and maintain relationships

>>33394077 (OP)
The same way a non autistic white guy gets girls my dude, you find a girl that is your type and you ask her to do something fun together.

First, though, you should make sure you yourself are presentable. Are you fit? Do you take care properly of personal grooming? Do you have literally any interests or something that makes you more interesting than watching paint dry?
Then, comes the part of finding one. Someone that is your type will probably hang out in similar circles and places as you. If you hang out in all guy discords and have 0 interest in going outside to literally anywhere maybe try to change that.

Two more things
1) Girls usually like guys who are a bit autistic / airheaded / stupid
2)Almost all of my black friends who have even a hint of fashion or youth in them wear their hair down or on the longer side and are clean shaven. That Cap/fade/durag+Lebron beard makes you look like you are 40.

>>33394229
I’m fit and tall which is why people are surprised when they meet me for real

I dress well I think. People complement me on my fits

I am clean shaven with long hair. I look 18 years old which is probably to my detriment. My genetics prevent me from growing facial hair I swear.

I hang out with ton of girls but most have boyfriends or would never be attracted to me

>>33394968
It looks like you got a lot of good things going for you. Here is some broad advice that may help or not.
>Talk about things you actually care about
I usually show off my collections or talk about anime first, because I care about those topics and want an SO that gives a damn about it too
>You are not "getting a girlfriend" you are starting a relationship
Find someone you give a damn about and actually look forward to hanging out with. Girls are people, not a pussy with legs and a torso
>Silence is important sometimes
There is a balance to yapping and chilling. This is more of an art than a formula, but you are not supposed to force convo and fill up every moment with yapping. Take a moment to enjoy the atmospere. Silence and facial language is better than yapping.
>Facial language
I know some autistic people struggle with this, so just try to manually smile every once in a while during key moments to show that you are engaged, sometimes nod in agreement.
>Also
If a girl is not into you it is usually not your fault and not the fault of "your game", be confident, be direct with what you want, and most importantly be yourself. If all of this fails, move on (obviously not always, fix yourself if you have issues and ask friends, especially the girl ones you were talking about on tips about how you look, how you act, and what you might want to do since they know you and can give better answers)

Again, girls like guys with slight tism or a bit dense, so just be confident in yourself and the rest will be fine.

>>33394229
>1) Girls usually like guys who are a bit autistic / airheaded / stupid

Where do you get this from?

>>33395579
This is pretty common knowledge imo, and matches my own experience.
When I am being dense (not on purpose) girls tend to think it is funny or endearing.
Maybe it is because girls have higher emotional IQ or something.
Just for the sake of research I'm going to go ask atoga.

>>33395579
>>33395622
Got this response asking atoga
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>>33395622
Fair enough, I can see how being too perceptive can put people on the backfoot

>>33396065
Also I think it is just cool in general for everyone to see someone confidently speaking about their hyperfixation. Passion is addicting