After learning how boring relationships are - /adv/ (#33396637) [Archived: 135 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/21/2025, 10:13:21 PM No.33396637
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I can't believe I missed out on this because I was too much of a pussy

But also, when you're idealized, people expect you to save them and resent you if you don't. By definition, the relationship needs to not be boring, otherwise you're discarded

Any advice for me before I kms?
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Anonymous
7/21/2025, 10:30:49 PM No.33396724
>>33396637 (OP)
Your ex isn't representative of everyone else.
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Anonymous
7/21/2025, 10:39:05 PM No.33396776
>>33396637 (OP)
Your relationship being toxic does not mean everyone else’s is.
Anonymous
7/21/2025, 10:39:29 PM No.33396780
>>33396724
If she isn't, who is?
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Anonymous
7/21/2025, 10:46:14 PM No.33396834
>>33396780
Does there have to be an archetype for you to understand?

>Who is?
She is. She represents herself. And she alone presumably fucked you over. If you want to extrapolate data from the experience to help you, do so, that is sensible. But don't ask 'who', ask 'what'.

The what is her behaviour patterns. Identify those and save them to memory. When you spot the same similar behaviour patterns in other people, bail the fuck out.

>Idealizing you
>Growing cold when you didn't perform like a monkey for them
>Discarding you

Just avoid people with that behaviour pattern
Anonymous
7/21/2025, 10:51:07 PM No.33396877
>>33396637 (OP)
>has first relationship
>it doesn't align with all of his frustrated fantasies
>any advice before I kms
Nope. I'd say you've drawn the right conclusion.
Anonymous
7/21/2025, 11:25:47 PM No.33397109
>>33396637 (OP)
I won't read wtf is OP on about threads.