>be me
>aro/ace
>constant fear of dissapointing my parents if i dont have kids/get married and stuff
>im kinda scared of being in full-on relationship
>i never had a crush but want to be really good friends with someone, i like affection too (platonic)
How do i deal with this fear of being a dissapointment? Im scared of the future...


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>>33396873 (OP)
Your feelings of aro/ace is real. The label however is not real. Try to avoid getting sucked into the identity games. It might be tempting to play along, because it gives a temporary sense of self, a fleeting sense of control over the things you can't help feeling or not feeling, but don't take the bait. It will stagnate you and rob you of actually getting real personal development.

>Fear of being a disappointment
>Aromatic, asexual, where you have no desire to get close to someone romantically or sexually.

Those two things are connected. You know this, right? You fear disappointing others or being judged by others intensely. And you also know that romantic and/or sexual connections are very intensely intimate and high-stakes connections. So it follows: Your lack of desire for romance or sex is because an intense connection means risking intense and inhuman amounts of fear of disappointing. That's why you feel you are aro/ace.

You're someone who fears the risks of connection. That's all. And if you wanna stand a chance at dispelling fear or growing bigger than it, you should avoid sticking to labels. It will only make you surrender. Only the surrender masquerades as a false identity.

Don't be afraid. God bless you and take care of yourself.

>>33396873 (OP)
>be me
>aro/ace
Twitter's down the hall and to the left.

>>33396974
Not OP, but this opened my eyes to a few things about myself. Thanks anon