My bf is 27 and has zero friends
I’m not exaggerating. He has a good government job, few hobbies but no close friends.
I don’t know how it’s possible, he has a leadership role at his job and somehow he can’t organise stuff with guys too?

It doesn’t bother me but I guess I find it weird he doesn’t think it’s something to improve on?
He tells
Me he mainly has “online friends” but anytime his phone goes off it’s always default notifications or just his brother asking something
It just gets a bit weird when I’m going out or go somewhere from the night.. and I ask if he has plans and he’s always home.

I’ve tried to “set him up” with some of my friends bfs or my other guy friends , but he either doesn’t vibe with them or just doesn’t click. I think his only true friend is another girl at work, but she’s like 46. I don’t even know what they’d talk about.
Am I overreacting or is this extremely odd?

No it's extremely common for zoomer males to have no friends, especially if he's already locked down with you

>>33398137 (OP)
I'm turning 43 soon and I also have "zero friends". I've basically always been that way and at most had one friend at a time. Though they were the ones that would put in the most effort to spend time with me, or I could just parasitically spend time with friends of my wife or a friend group because my wife wanted to go out.
I'm not incapable of small talk. I'm not "worn out" by social interaction. I'm not an aspie nor am I socially awkward. I just have no inherent desire to seek out friendship. The social interaction I get from coworkers and my spouse is more than I could ever need and I have no initiative to try and obtain more. And I've basically always been this way.
You're eventually going to realize that he's not broken because of this, it's just how he is. You are overreacting in the sense that yo are assuming he wants or is motivated by the same things as you. He's probably a lot more content than you are while having what you consider to be "less" than what you have. And there's nothing wrong with his contentment.

>>33398137 (OP)

having friends as a woman comes naturally. But for a man, it is a skill. It takes work and effort. If its not a priority to him, then oh well

ur just dating a sigma

>>33398137 (OP)
You're disgusting. Why are all women like this? Can I not just be happy with my partner and with the loneliness?

>>33398137 (OP)
I didn't have any friends at that age either, anon. It's not that weird, but maybe you're all he needs. It's a shame because if you break his heart, he really will be alone, but he'll recover eventually. I found friends after I got divorced at 27. I wouldn't trade them to have her back. So you have a choice to make if you want him to have friends.

>>33398137 (OP)
27 is when peoples' outer social lives start falling-off. The only thing that makes it weird is you don't have children. If you were raising kids that hole in your life would be occupied by the biological purpose of existence and the psychological fulfillment of family. He can just play with legos while you chungus with your roastie pals until the both of you are utterly and completely alone in the world. If you haven't already, you may want to invest an inordinate amount of emotional stock into a stupid fucking animal that would sooner eat your face starting with the eyes if you died your 1 bedroom apartment, before it ever shed tear or regretted not hanging onto a single moment with you just a little bit longer.

>Am I overreacting or is this extremely odd?
none? plenty of men of all ages were, are and will be alone. like, throughout history
how fucking detached are you?

damn OP really rustled some jimmies.

>>33398137 (OP)
Given he has a gf and a good management job, he's obviously not incompetent, seems like he really just doesn't want to be some social butterfly.

Another anon pointed it out already, but the fact that you're a woman is probably why you find this so bizarre. The average guy doesn't have nearly the social life the average gal does, and more than a few guys go their whole lives near-completely isolated, something that simply doesn't even exist as a concept for 99.9% of women.

>>33398137 (OP)
>I don’t know how it’s possible, he has a leadership role at his job and somehow he can’t organise stuff with guys too?

That's exactly why he is the leader. Leaders do not make friends with those they command. If they did, they'd lose the ability to lead. Leaders need to keep emotional distance from their dependents at all times. That way they can lead without emotions compromising them or the people they intend to lead into prosperity.

>>33398137 (OP)
I get the sense that beyond a certain age most men are almost incapable of forming close bonds with other men.

I bet ops bf is slaying that office milf pussy instead of dealing with her nagging kek

>>33399452
You are correct. But the bond doesn't need to be close to be sacred or valuable. I haven't spoke to my childhood best friend in almost 5 years. But we both know we are best friends. When we reconnect, we pick up where we left off as if nothing happened. No hard feelings no petty emotions or insecurity, just a solid understanding through and through.

Men don't need close bonds because the bonds they do have typically last a lifetime. We make a friend, we then know we dont need to have playdates or constant connection we take confidence that we'll catch up when we're 70 years old to share life stories around the hearth and a few beers.

Whereas women demand close bonds, extremely suffocatingly close. And then it implodes because feelings got too high and they stepped on each other's feelings over small shit and then all of a sudden Stacy hates Becky because she didn't consider Stacy's feelings when deciding to announce her baby shower on the same week she announced her birthday party. (Stacy didn't actually care, but the fact Becky didn't ask if she cared was the thing that Stacy is pouting about).
So, 5 year friendship goes bye bye as if it didn't exist to begin with.

Female bonds are fickle as fuck. At least male bonds are built to last

>>33398137 (OP)
Why the fuck does this even matter you stupid bitch? I haven’t had friends for 10 years and I’m 34.

What value do other men offer me in my life? Nothing. I don’t want to interact with or be around other men. They’re ugly, potentially dangerous, creepy, etc. I don’t want them around

What the fuck is wrong with you? Leave him the fuck alone. If he wanted friends he’s clearly more than capable socially of garnering them.

Leave him alone you dumb bitch. Worry about yourself

>>33398155
same

>>33398940
+1

>>33399474
+1

>>33398137 (OP)
>government job
>zero friends
story checks out

Omg he's literally me!!!!
That's all I have to contribute

>>33398155
I'm around your age as well and am the same.
Nothing wrong with who I am, I can still see parts of my personality that could be improved but generally I'm pretty content and happy with who I am and my near lack of social interactions.

>>33399714
I work in an industry that has older mature mild pussy and I just want to hammer the tool into them so badly.

>>33400769
mild
>milf

>>33398137 (OP)
I think this entire thread is ignoring the actual biggest red flag OP mentioned, which is that she has male friends

>>33398137 (OP)
>"It doesn’t bother me“
>creates a thread for that topic
k

But anyhow, why do you think he needs friends? Maybe he feels comfortable being himself and spend time pursuing his hobbies. Not everyone is a shallow cluster of cells that needs to "experience the world" by getting drunk or doing some other stupid shit nobody even fucking cares about and that doesn't have any value to it.

>>33401135
Also this.
It sounds like the guy is pretty chill and established, while OP is a valid cunt like most women are.

>>33398137 (OP)
Girls/women/whatever are just more social than men.
You see it when everyone is still toddlers, most boys will run off with an action figure to go play on their own while girls will like hover around one another seeing what's up being more social.
In grade school or whatever when you start to notice "That Kid" - the one who eats alone - it's almost never a girl it's a guy 99.99999% of the time.

A lot of guys are more than happy to not be on social media and then obviously to not have any IRL friends other than people they've chatted with through video games.

I'm someone who varies between having 0 friends and having dozens of them just because people change or move and plenty of things happen every 5 years or so. I'm also generally a huge misanthrope who slowly found out and accepted that not -everyone- is a terrible piece of shit.
I know that when dating a girl, one of her needs/desires in a relationship is
A. for me to hang out with her group of friends, maybe just on the weekends sometimes but moreso for birthday dinners and christmas or whatever holidays
B. for me to have her hang out with my group of friends as well. Even if there's not a single other female in the room, just at least to be presented as The Girlfriend Kinda like you would present her to parents or siblings.

Kudos for sticking with him, not every girl is on board with being with someone who's got no friends.

I'm 24 and I'm exactly like this. I just find people not that interesting because they usually don't share my same interests or passion in the things I like. The only other person I ever bonded with besides my actual gf is my highschool best friend, we were very close because we were both big nerds.
I believe your bf just needs to find someone who he can share his interests

>>33401561
>asking about something means it bothers you
Kek

I'm also 27 and I don't have friends or even online friends. I honestly just really hate people.

>>33399008
>op really rustled some Jimmie’s
Because people are seeing it form their pov, not a Normie (assuming) girl
To Normie foids if you don’t have a bustling social life, of course it’s fucking strange

>>33398137 (OP)
Literally me except I don't have a brother