Gonna try to keep this concise. I have a female friend. My best guy friend used to have a thing for her. Ive always considered her a good friend, we genuinely vibe, and while I've been semi-flirty with her, i never really considered her an option.

She's been away on foreign exchange until a couple months back. My friend has expressed mild interest in trying to pursue something, but he's fairly nonchalant about it and it's clear by now nothing will happen between the two of them. However, I've found myself falling for her pretty hard. We banter all the time and seem to have good chemistry. She's even been sort of flirty with me (e.g. she's called me "Anon-ie boy" - obviously didn't say "anon" - or "sporty boy" and so forth). I've thought about pursuing something, but I've been antsy because of my guy friend. Bros before hoes, right?

Today I learned from a different friend that she does, in fact, like me. She's told people about it. Openly. Truthfully, I know I'll regret it if I don't make a move. I really like her. I've never vibed with any girl like this. But I'm afraid I'm going to destroy my friendship with my guy friend.

I guess it should be common sense or bro code, but I just wonder what I should do. The friend who told me she liked me is pushing for me to go for it despite it all, but I'm doubtful. Should I talk to my friend, or is the only winning move not to play?

>>33398149 (OP)

I didn't read all of this emo shit. If he's your friend he'd be happy for you. end of story

>>33398149 (OP)
Normally, it's a dick move, but it in the circumstances you outlined it's fine. However, you should still give your bro a heads up that, "hey I know you like her, but haven't been pursuing her and she has a crush on me so I'm going to date her"

>>33398157
I'd hope so but people are weird

>>33398300
True. I mean on the surface he seems laid-back about it all, and he probably know he missed his shot years ago. But I feel like he might be harboring feelings deep down nonetheless. Gonna be awkward.