Has anyone here ever beaten social anxiety? How did you do it?

I've tried therapy on and off, found out that my social anxiety probably stems from trying to please my super strict religious parents who policed my thoughts and words 24/7, but knowing that hasn't helped a lot.

I have an office job and I feel physically sick every single day. I often have to hide in the bathroom to hide my anxiety

exposure. rejection therapy

have you tried exercising

>>33398614 (OP)
If you’re feeling ill every day literally meds. It’s not that big of a deal to be on them, and you can always stop. T. Me.
As for your underlying psychology, duh fucking therapy, like talk therapy. Takes time. It can be solveable.
And excercise, and relaxation techniques like progressive muscle relaxation and deep breathing. These are the skills you can bring out when feeling extra stressed.

people will do anything to get attention from their parents as kids, thats how we develop as children..

relationships form naturally from positive and negative feedback loops.

if you start pleasing your parents, and they start telling you good job, and you start doing it more, and they start reacting more every time, it turns into this symbiotic spiral of your strategy for socialization, I suppose.

The fact is that it isnt working for you (or it is, thats kind of up to you to decide), you need to break free from that.

social anxiety is basically the inability to express yourself because other people aggress on you every time you try. its almost impossible to start aggressing on others in an environment where they have claimed mastery over you by aggressing on you over and over until you're numb to when they're doing it.

I recommend just trying to be present to the moment and observing how people are really acting and how you really feel about it. Try your best to be present to the pain you are actually feeling, in the smallest most simple moments you can. I don't know if this will work, good luck.

>>33398627
>>33398628
I hate going to the gym so I've instead started going to table tennis lessons once a week. It's super fun but I still get extremely anxious. If someone is nice to me I think I'll let them down, if someone is neutral I just think they hate me and can't wait for me to quit and stop bothering them in class

>>33398630
I don't think meds is the solution, it's more of a behavioural issue. I don't feel so anxious at home and alone

>>33398648
What I found from therapy is I didn't receive positive feedback from my parents. It was either negative or ignoring me. My therapist said that this led to me always having to guess what they were thinking and what was the right thing to say

So the way my social anxiety manifests is if I don't immediately know what someone else is thinking, I always assume the worst. And people don't walk around announcing their thoughts, so I'm always assuming the worst

Plus, when someone is nice to me on the table tennis class for example, my first thought is I will fuck this up so I hurriedly find some excuse to cut the conversation short and not say the wrong thing

>>33398693
is your therapist right about that?

>>33398708
Yes. An average day for me is
>open the office door
>worry if I should greet this person this way or that way
>either way I think I fucked it up and this person is angry I went to the office today
>sit on my desk, worry people are thinking what an asshole I am for not catching up with my coworkers
>want to grab coffee but the thermos is kind of small and I don't want to take away the coffee from the regular coffee drinkers
>I see someone coming over, tense my whole body up in anticipation
>they ask about a project, I tell them how it's going
>after they leave I replay the conversation over and over in my head and kick myself for never knowing the right thing to say

This goes on and on for 9 hours

>>33398735
the problem is that you're waiting for my approval on it desu, its not really my place to tell you anything more.

>>33398735
>This goes on and on for 9 hours
LOL. Attention issue. Heaven forbid that OP might simply focus on his work and disregard other concerns.

Man I can't even leave my own house. I get panic attacks when I need to do something in the yard because I'm so paranoid about neighbors seeing me outside. So I just don't do it and stay inside. I have no idea how to make friends or interact with the world. I see myself as unworthy of being around others because I'm not good enough. I'm a 34 year old virgin