>been with gf 4 years now, plan to get engaged within the next 6 months
>she used to be very athletic but had to stop now that her job+school takes up too much time
>she's been steadily gaining weight this whole time, gone up a few sizes in all her clothes
>she went from thin and fit to chubby with a pot belly
>she's obviously very self-conscious about it and started walking around trying to cover her stomach up but denies it
>she isn't happy about it but won't do anything about it, won't eat right or start working out again no matter how much I encourage it
>I saw her in a bikini for the first time this summer recently and I just don't find her attractive at all anymore
Call me shallow or whatever but frankly this would be a deal breaker for me, not to mention how much worse it'll be after we have kids. I don't want to hurt her or put her down but I don't really know how to approach this otherwise. Also, she's autistic so trying to talk to her about anything can be a minefield.

>>33399032 (OP)
The real question is if you think this will ever change. Like, you mentioned school plus work. Does she graduate soon? Can you put up with this until she graduates?
More concerning is that she can't talk about. That seems like a bad auger for the future