I have an intense fear of talking to women. I was never very self-confident because I grew up isolated during the pandemic, and I was also obese. Now I'm just overweight, but I still struggle with self-confidence.

This really affects my life.

I'm obviously depressed from not living the life of a young adult. You know, going to parties, kissing, hanging out with friends and stuff. But it's not only that. I can't afford to look to women in the street because I fear they will find me creepy. So I just avoid them. I've been made fun on by girls multiple times. I've seen them glare at me, them make fun of me, and much more. The worse part is I know that my anxiety around women is to blame for those bad experiences, but women's reactions just feedback my anxiety.

I have only been approached once by a girl and she asked me about what I'm doing in life and stuff like that. She wanted to meet me at a surface level, because we'd been training for a sports competition together for a little while. But that's pretty much it. Every other person treats me in a belittling way.

I'm very tired of my life. It seems like I lack not only in my social life, but in my other lives as well. Academics is a big example.

To illustrate what I said, yesterday I went to dine at a nearby mall and decided to stop by the bookstore. I went to the manga session and there was a girl around my age with her father. I was in the mange section and decided to check out the pages of a manga adaptation of a book I've read, Battle Royale. But the girl and her dad were beside me. I thought they were going to move or something, but they stood beside me for a while. Maybe they were waiting for someone or something. I got self-conscious and left the bookstore, lol. Pathetic behavior, I know.

On my appearance: white, 5'7", BMI of 27,5 and a slightly good face. I'd rate myself somewhere between 6 and 7 out of ten. I have a couple of flaws such as a big nose, but good features such as thin eyebrows.

>>33401094 (OP)
lol hit the gym faggot.
I felt the same way but going to the gym made me feel good in my body and I like when people stare at me because I have alright sized muscles now and just look nice in general.
I was doing full body workouts 3x a week when I started and my body was too sore for me to concentrate and give a shit about what others were thinking.

>>33401094 (OP)
>On my appearance: white, 5'7", BMI of 27,5 and a slightly good face. I'd rate myself somewhere between 6 and 7 out of ten. I have a couple of flaws such as a big nose, but good features such as thin eyebrows.
bro no one gives a shit about those numbers if you're still gonna be all "UwU imma shy little human bean >__< :3" after you lose the weight

who cares if you slightly embarrass yourself or don't have anything to say at first, go talk to ugly women you're not attracted to

>>33401341
I've been going to the gym for 1 month. I haven't seen any progress. I'm doing a hard cut and I still managed to lose 1,5 kg of muscle. But my bf% dropped from 26% to 23%.

>>33401372
if you're losing muscle it's because you're not getting enough protein, you shouldn't be losing muscle, you can even gain muscle while cutting.

>>33401395
I made sure to consume a lot of protein. I'd aim for 140g every day and I always ate at least 100g. I cut all my carbs 2 days before doing my new BIA, perhaps my muscles were just weighing less because they barely had glycogen. The analysis is based on your gross weight, so maybe I haven't lost as much muscle as I think and my BF is in reality lower.

Or I really did lose muscle, lol.

Bump

>>33401341
i hate you gymfags more then i hate doomers

>>33401094 (OP)
>but good features such as thin eyebrows

This is actually a bad feature if you're male. Thicker eyebrows are a plus.

Anyways, your problem is that you're putting women's opinion on a pedestal and you fear rejection. You need to stop giving a flying fuck what women think of you. You can be gigachad and girls will still sometimes accuse you of being creepy for whatever trival reason because women are generally stupid like that (periods, emotions, apathy, not feeling it etc. etc. ). As long as you're not pushing boundaries, you can just walk up to a girl and say hello. Doesn't have to lead anywhere either.

9 times out of 10 if you compliment a girl she'll say "thank youu" or "awww you're so sweet". She isn't going to laugh at you or expose you on Twitter.

Who gives a flying fuck
Find some activity where you're supposed to meet people
I don't know study or work at some place and then offer to help a little instead of just keeping to yourself
Talking to women is stupid easy, the hard part is fucking,

I know u dont wanna hit the gym but u gotta go at least 3x a week. But the gym wont make u lose weight, eating nutritious food at a calorie goal (a deficit use an online calorie calculator) and hitting 1:1:1 macros (look up what that is) for a few months will get you where you need to be. Try to eat as many grams of protein as lbs of bodyweight that you want to be every day. This will upkeep ur musculature aasuming u get good sleep (critical). Its gonna take willpower and lifestyle changes but that is what attracts people. You cannot lose weight without a coloric deficit, calories in must be less than calories out.

>>33401661
take pictures and compare it in the future. If your BF is lower then your muscles should actually pop out more. Worst case scenario you should just keep your muscles, but you shouldn't be losing them.
and yes don't neglect carbs either, they're needed to build muscle properly.
>>33402201
why?
going to the gym is a life changer for many men.