hello people, i'm trying to deal with a conundrum right now. i'm like very, very attached to this person i met online. it's the kind of wholesome relationship you have with a person, she's the best person i have ever met.
the thing is, i believe she is trying to give me signs of not wanting a relationship, and being honest, i don't know how i could not fall in love with her. i feel terrible, because i know that she probably doesn't want a relationship, and i know she likes having me around. i want to stop loving her, before i start losing my mind. do you have any advice? thank you in advance

>>33401960 (OP)
Either tell her how you feel and watch her either be effused or disgusted OR stop speaking to her, she's using you as free attention whenever she finds someone better you will be dropped like a sack of shit and it will hurt 1000x more than it does now.

>>33401960 (OP)
You can't. What you should do is confess your feelings, whatever the outcome, and go from there. If she isn't into it, then it's time to leave. You're not going to stop liking her by being with her more.

>>33401968
>she's using you as free attention
if she did then maybe i would feel less bad about confessing. it's not the case
>>33401971
i'm scared of doing this. i really am... i am not sure i will meet a person like her again in my life

>>33401960 (OP)
this is one of gods little tricks he plays on usto make us want to crack

i was in the same situation i told her the truth and it lead to her hating me once they know you have those feelings for them everything is taken in a different context even if you mean the same

do a risk assessment do you love this person enough that you can find happiness with them being a part of your life even if they do not love you back if so do not tell them simply love them as you do now

if you can not bear this weight and need to tell them make sure they they are available too talk with their focus entirely on you at least for this moment dont make the confession this big thing just be direct and honest and do not expect a confession back expect rejection not saying she will but if you are prepared for the worst you will excell with the best

>>33402290
>i'm scared of doing this. i really am... i am not sure i will meet a person like her again in my life
Of course it's scary, anon, but you have to do it to move forward. You cannot live in stasis. You will either get a relationship, or a new path in life, wherever that may take you. Remember that the best person for you will like you back. There is no winning with a one-sided love, and you can also trap the other person if they're afraid of hurting you, leading to resentment. If you love this girl, then you have to roll the dice and be willing to let go. That's love, anon. Don't you think she deserves to be with someone she loves? That may be you, but if it isn't, then you have to do it for her as well.

>>33402331
i think i will do it soon, not now, but i need to muster my courage
>>33402350
it really is scary. relationships are scary. growing attached to people is scary. i'm too sensitive and i hate myself for it

>>33403003
the longer you wait the time time you ave to doubt your decision if you do it while the thoughts are still raw in your mind you will let more of your true thoughts out

>>33401960 (OP)
I'm afraid the only way you will stop loving her is to cut off all contact with her.

>>33401960 (OP)
never confess bro i did it and regret it to this day
just stop talking to her and talk to other women

>>33401960 (OP)
been there, done that
prolonging this situation means only pain for you, so confess and expect to never talk to her again when she rejects you
in my case she said she knew I loved her and surprisingly, she had feelings for me too; we stayed together for a few months but in the end things didn't quite work
nonetheless, there's no other option: you either tell her and maybe make things better or simply suffer