Simple question, I just feel a lot of my energy drain from vapid social interactions which indludes pointless small talk, etc. Even more productive discussions, unless I', on a pretty similar wavelength with the people around me I feel the constant pressure to keep a generally agreeable persona up and summon up not super interesting but possibly relevant topics from the deep to keep the dice rolling and be a generally amicable member of society. Even worse is keeping a smile on my face and acting agreeable when dealing with total assholes. I do pretty good at it, but god it leaves me drained. Any way to remedy this? Do I somehow turn interacting with people I don't really have much in common with into a game? But then social interactions will become more shallow on my part, thus reducing my ability to connect with those I truly wish to talk to. Much to think about...

Also I'm an INTJ and I very likely have light Aspergers. Hopefully that helps.

Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance.

That's not a simple question at all. Your "Name" field is something only you have the power to personally find to be discoverable, if in the end it's to be as such at all.