my younger sister's friend likes me, we get along well when she comes over but do i look like a fucking pedo dating someone that young? for the moment i didn't feel any "childish" behavior from her

>>33403199 (OP)
Who gives a fuck dude, younger girls have a thing for older guys and it's a tale old as time.

>>33403199 (OP)
Not normal at all. Are you really so emotionally immature you're unable to connect with someone your own age?

>>33403199 (OP)
Are you a sincere responsible young man? If not leave your sisters friend alone and don't emotionally fuck her up.

>>33403985
i do have a good job that let's me work from home and i'm finishing my engineering degree, i don't have any bad intentions at all, really, if anything i'd rrally like to help her truly with her degree too

>>33403199 (OP)
it's normal, the only people crying about this 99% of the time are women your age angry they can't find anyone to marry.
Smart women lock up men that are a little older than them since they're further in their careers. This is how it's been for literally all of human history.

>>33403913
btw it's completely normal in a huge chunk of europe for 30 year olds to be banging teens, not even relationships, just casual sex.
It's only braindead americans that have this weird issue with sexuality where they treat adults like children. You fat faggots do the same thing with alcohol while 15 year olds drinking beer is completely normal.

>>33403199 (OP)
I started dating an 18yo when I was 27 and we've been together for 4 years now.
From my experience, half the women you know that are about your age are going to irrationally hate your guts and go out of their way to make sure you're socially ostracised. If your mates are their boyfriends, then you're about to learn how absolutely whipped they all are. Her friends are going to split down the middle, some will find it exciting/interesting (as long as you're cool) and others will be so freaked out they wont talk to her anymore.
Basically, you're going to find out who your real friends are real quick if you date this girl.
Your social circles might be a lot more loose with dating so it might not be as big of an issue, however I'd expect to catch a lot of flack and to be under the microscope. If things go south, you're automatically going to be the bad guy. You really need to behave yourself, striking a good balance between being a cool older guy while not fucking her up.

Whether it's normal is not as important as whether it is morally acceptable and if it can work or not.

The folk heuristic of "(half your age) - 7" does work decently well as a guideline in the modern West. Based on this, she's about 1.5 years too young, but this is not that far off and in 3 years you will both be in the "socially acceptable" range.

In the absolute sense there's nothing wrong becaus it's legally acceptable and for most of human history and in most cultures this kind of age gap would never have been seen as problematic.

Yes, you're older, but as long as you don't have manipulative intentions then there's nothing really wrong with it. Everyone's social mental ages are different and it's totally normal if the man is a bit more mature so as long as you two vibe that's all that matters.

My suggestion is keep things flirty and casual and if a relationship develops just see how things go over the next few years because you can both change quite a bit and become incompatible or decide to move on to other options.

>>33404060
>truly with her degree
How help when you don't have a degree at 27 yourself and you live with your family. My point is if you were self supporting and dated to marry the age difference easy to overcome. If she is available because she comes to your parents house to see your sister don't take advantage of her crush on you because she is just starting her adult life and you are lonely and horny.
The first is goal oriented jointly and patient. The second only about you. You date and fuck and she realizes its a dead end and breaks off and her friendship with your sister ruined too. Or you date and fuck and she's pregnant and she never finishes her degree either. Or you date and fuck and get a job that requires you relocate and go into an office to work.

>>33404157
>most of human history and in most cultures this kind of age gap would never have been seen as problematic
True but many women died in childbirth in their early 20's. They were also property given away to an adult male when they were 9. People didn't "date" for a mate. A 12 yo girls parents died from an illness and her older 2nd cousin works and single so he takes her in. She gets food and a roof and she cooks and makes babies until she dies in childbirth.

>>33403913
>unable to connect with someone your own age
Kek, what a retarded statement.
Women never grow up and there is no difference in the mental development between a 19 yo and a 30 yo, except for one thing - the 30yo has more emotional baggage from her casual hookups on top of the dried eggs.

>>33403913
>Not normal at all
It is "normal" in the sense that age-gap social connections (virtually speaking) we all know what they are, and have some kind of (common) expectations behind them, which is largely what "normality" is.

Whether or not they're a good thing, which you're clearly falsely equating with "normal(ity)", is a matter of debate, and (in practise) can only be determined as such on a case-by-case basis, preferably by the *actual* individuals involved in the relationship.

>emotionally immature you're unable to connect with someone your own age
What do these two (in fact, three) elements have *anything* to do with each other?

>>33403199 (OP)
What about a 32 year old woman dating a 25 year old man?

>>33403199 (OP)
It's the 1 in her age that freaks you. Next year when you're 28 and she's 20 no one will notice

>>33403199 (OP)
>good gosh I hope this girl isn't childish!
said the man who posts on a chinese cartoon discord

>>33403913
19-27 IS someone their own age - young adults.

>>33403199 (OP)
Very normal
Do it

>>33403199 (OP)
No, just go for it. Fuck, bro, if she had turned 18 today, you should go for it. Who gives a fuck?

I dated a 27 y/o when I was 19. I thought it was interesting and sort of cool at first, but there were many things that didn't work out. Your networks are very different, and people have different needs in different stages of their life. This is of course not linear per se, but it has consequences. In retrospect, I can see why I felt so out of place in the many situations where I was trying to connect with my partners friends. They were all people with stable jobs, educations and had tons of mutual bonds. Both social bonds from life lived together, but also generational bond. E.g. it's hard to joke about 9/11, when the other person wasn't even born when it happened. There is a pretty big difference in dating a person who has barely started adult life (your situation) and this >>33404603
A 25 year old person has at least had the opportunity to make a life of their own. A 19 year old is just beginning. You will look predatory to most people. People who say this doesn't matter are oblivious to what alienation means. I'm not saying "just be normal", just that this will have definite social consequences, and you should be prepared for that.

>>33403199 (OP)
Getting a solid girl who likes you is hard enough without having to worry about some bullshit like what people think of age gaps. Don’t sweat it

I was 16 when I started dating my (at the time) 26 year old boyfriend. We were secret about this until I got 18 and now I'm 22 and will have our 6th anniversary next week.

Don't fucking care about others opinions, Anon. Especially that USA garbage. If you have lots in common with that girl, can hold meaningful conversations, have matching life goals and the attraction is not in just both of your pants, then go for it!!!
Just please remember to not fuck anything up, because you will be the "evil manipulative abuser". (Take these with a pinch of salt, because my bf got called manipulative by therapists, when all I said was that he helped me not get into alcoholism by hiding all liquor in our home.)
Also, as another anon said, take it easy. You both will change as a person and may drift away from eachother. She "just" entered adulthood.


(Sorry for any spelling or grammatical mistakes. I'm from the balkans)

>>33403199 (OP)
It's normal and natural. Male and female reach at different ages peak attractiveness and sexual development, and that's where a couple should be matched, not in chronological age (Bruch & Newman, 2018). That's just how it is, when I was 20 I wasn't mentally mature enough for many girls my age, I actually felt sometimes that they needed someone older when we tried dating. Social studies even show that age gap relationships are happier (Lehmiller & Agnew, 2011). Your female classmates in high school were dating older guys, now it's your turn.

>>33403199 (OP)
Just do it. In five years, you'll be like "fuck, why didn't I date that 19 year old".
The people who will comment on it literally do not matter and would find any other excuse to shit on your situation if they could.

>>33404858
>just that this will have definite social consequences, and you should be prepared for that.

Basically this OP. There's plenty of good reasons to date a 19yo, you have to be okay with everyone having a poorly informed opinion on you and her however. Decide if you really like this girl or if you just want to hit some young piece, if it's the latter then I'll suggest you give it a miss because the juice is never worth the squeeze in cases like this.

>>33404220
based. we should RETVRN to this.

>>33403913
Maybe the ones in his own age are too demanding n shiet. Not impressed by any hard work he might do. The soon to be 20 maybe happy he just owns a car and can go on trips n shiet. Not demanding he has x zeros in the bank. And is sisters friend they already know each other

>>33403913
Maybe he doesn't want to date a woman who has had gallons of cum ejaculated into her by 20 different guys.

>>33404858
I'm 30 and just two months ago I broke up with my 38 short-time gf. She was telling me about her shitty ex once in a while, maybe a few sentences a day across a week. She dated him from ages like 29 to 36 or something like that.
>mfw she mentions he was 50 years old

Honestly that shit weirded me out. The fact that the woman I'm dating was in a way larger age gap relationship. I thought her being 8 years older was pushing it, but she was with someone 15+ years older

>>33408547
>Implying a 19 year old girl hasn't had gallons of cum ejaculated into her by multiple men already

>>33403199 (OP)
Same age gap but 5 years older, I felt a bit weird being 32 getting involved with a 24yo and it ultimately didn't progress into anything real most likely because of it. People judge it pretty deeply so you both have to be incredibly secure about it in all aspects if you're going to take it on. People are gonna talk shit behind your back and possibly to your face and you have to be okay with it and take it on

>>33407233
>Just do it. In five years, you'll be like "fuck, why didn't I date that 19 year old".
I wanted to do this when I went back to school, but I didn't want to cheat on my wife. Turns out she'd been cheating on me for a year, so really I should have done it, but still glad I didn't.

>>33403199 (OP)
Kill yourself. Seriously.