Recently I reached out to a guy I hadn't seen in a while. He lives in the area, but idk, we didn't really see each other, and I thought that maybe it's not a bad idea to give him a chance. Who knows, maybe we could become best friends. It just so happened that I was organizing a party, so I invited him.

The only reason why he doesn't have an attraction sign is because he doesn't need one. It's incredibly obvious this was his first time being closer than 10m to a woman. Unfortunately, this ended up with said woman complaining to me about his improper behavior, in particular unwanted touching.

This is a bit shitty for me because a girl that I'm friends with was uncomfortable at a party that I hosted. That aside, I think the guy isn't a bad person, he's just hilariously inexperienced with women, and probably read too much /r9k/ or something. In a few weeks we're supposed to meet again because I wanted to ask him for some help (doing a project in a field he happens to be educated in). I want to bring up the issue, but I'm not sure what to say really. What I'm thinking right now is that maybe I should tell him to start having non-sexual friendships with women. The point is to have him understand the female way of thinking, so that he won't be doing stupid shit like that anymore.

Any thoughts?

>>33404259 (OP)
Too many people have no idea how to act normally in public anymore. If he seems like a smart enough guy, you should be straight up with him about how he made her feel. It's up to him at that point on whether or not he wants to improve

>>33404280
And DO NOT offer to help him. You can guide him from the outside, but he's going to have to figure it out for himself at some point

>>33404285
>>33404280
Sure, I'm not going to be his therapist, but if he spends one hour explaining to me things I don't know much about, then I can spend an hour explaining him "dude, don't grab random bitches' asses just because they're close". I just don't know how to approach this effectively.

what exactly did he do? did he just touch someones ass with no prior interaction at all? how did she respond?

>>33404388
They started talking, and then he touched ass. I assume that he thought that it was going somewhere "wow a woman is talking to me, she must be interested"

>>33404388
He inappropriately reached out and held her hand. She didn't give any signals at all and he just reached out and grabbed it. Now I've warned him once before of this behaviour but this is the first time he's done it in front of a group of people. Now I have to apologize to the girl and make things right.

>>33404394
That's not op.

>>33404400
this is patrick

>>33404398
>She didn't give any signals at all
this is where your arguments will simply fall apart
the problem is that you expect men to understand women's signals and that won't ever happen
anyway, Anon is right >>33404280, just be straightforward

I am really getting sick and tired of hearing about women's comfort

>>33405098
It probably wouldn't hurt to mention that he's also embarrassed you too

>>33405230
Yeah that's true, but there's no point yelling at the guy just to show my dissatisfaction.

Wtf who do you think you are, his mother? Why do you feel the need to tell someone how to live their life? Let the nigga learn shit on his own. Bring up that he made some girl uncomfortable but it's his choice on what to do after that. Why are you even trying to be friends with this guy?

>>33405747
>Why are you even trying to be friends with this guy?
He seems like a nice guy that's just clueless around women and desperate to have a girl but he's unaware that this desperation makes things 100x worse.

>>33405776
Okay and? These are your observations and have no basis on who he is. As I said, you're not his mother. Let him live his life and figure things out, and if he feels comfortable talking about his feelings involving this he will reach out if you are an actual friend to him

>>33405806
>As I said, you're not his mother.
But I'm not a complete stranger either. I just think that if there's an opportunity to give a guy actual advice then why not.

>>33405881
What if he harrassed this other woman because he's a creep who enjoys forcing himself onto women and making them uncomfortable? You don't know who this guy is and are just placing your complex of 'fixing' or 'helping' someone onto him.

>>33405913
>You don't know who this guy is
But you do for sure

>>33404259 (OP)
>but idk, we didn't really see each other, and I thought that maybe it's not a bad idea to give him a chance. Who knows, maybe...That aside....or something... but I'm not sure
Stop being such a shifty lizard and date the man and if you like him let him touch your cunt and fuck him.
How about you stop being such a spineless shifty maggot?
It doesn't look like you're being courted by tens of dudes so drop the bull shit, for once in your life.