I am struggling with dating because I have to plan the dates etc. Me being a neuro divergent male(autism), I struggle because I find that I am trying to plan things while trying to do it from a regular person point of view. I don't trust my own plans because I realize I am not a normal person. But I am a neurodivergent person making plans with / for a regular minded woman. This causes me a lot of stress because I feel like I will plan poorly because I didn't catch something that would annoy or even freak out a regular person. Example, I am not bothered by really bad smells. I smell them but I am just not bothered. I was going to plan a date with a woman(rarely get dates) and I chose what I thought would be a nice spot. A friend told me not to choose that spot because its nearby a waste / trash management facility and it usually smells awful near there on certain days. I would have never thought about that because I don't really care about smells. That to me is an autistic immunity of some sort. Most regular people I know are very bothered by awful smells. So my friend effectively saved me from maybe choosing a bad spot for a date.

Its stuff like that which makes me worry. I don't even like planning dates but I am forced to do it as a man. A perfect dream of mine is that I meet a woman who wants to plan the date and do the driving and I just pay for the date and her gas money. I don't mind paying for everything. I just hate driving and planning. How can I even learn to like planning though? Like do any men like planning dates or is it just one of those things we are basically forced to do because we are the guy?

Interesting, I'm going through this myself. I'll soon have my first date in years and I'm still planning what to do. I think it's important to have options. I'm thinking about going to a park that's also across from a mall. You should think from the girl's point of view. Taking her somewhere she hasn't been before and that has a minimum of aesthetic decency shows that you care and that you think about her well-being. Logistics are important, but it's best if it's done without stress.

go to a trendy sushi place, bitches love sushi

>>33404374 (OP)
Bring her into the planning by giving her a choice.

"Let's have dinner. Would you prefer Chinese or Italian?"
"I was thinking of a walk in the park. Which do you like best - Eastside or Westside Park?

>>33404687
Is this okay to do though? I have heard some things like women get peeved if the man doesn't play the whole thing like. I have even seen in some dating profiles like "You better tell me what place and what time if we go on a date." However, I take what I see on dating apps with a grain of salt because I think that place has reality warping properties. Maybe women like that are uncommon.

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you wrote so much text yet there are only two question marks. sigh op
yes planning is good, to have a _rough_ plan of what to do, but not overdoing it.
lest you be unflexible and uncool/boring and, life anyway is going to thwart your plans anyway.
have an idea of what you want to do and a plan b what to do incase a dont work out.
thats it. maybe try to be more spontaneous

>>33404374 (OP)
Women these days empowered by social media and slut pride are the ultimate trolls to ever exist on this planet.