Is that true? Is that really I gotta do? Just have confidence? So when a woman asks me about what do I do Will she fall head over heels for me if I confidently say I'm a Stay- At - Home Son

>>33405182 (OP)
>Will she fall head over heels for me if I confidently say I'm a Stay- At - Home Son
No, because you're not confident. You're insecure and embarrassed about being a stay at home son. This is the opposite of confidence. Also, just take a look at literally any other aspect of life - can you think of literally one in which people aren't susceptible to being manipulated/convinced to do something illogical because they were won over by charisma and confidence? Any salesman of any kind, online influencers, online life coaches, advertising firms, public relations, celebrities/media personalities, religious officials, politicians etc., . Every single one of these groups operates exclusively off of their ability to use confidence and effective speech to convince people of things - to buy a shirt, to vote for a candidate, to switch car insurance, to prefer one brand of eggs over another, to stop being gas and buy electric. Its the exact same for relationships. Of course, confidence is just one of many tools. A very confident 600 pound man with chronic psoriasis and a facial tumor isn't going to bag super models on charisma alone. Appearance, race, socioeconomic status, gender etc., will all affect how people view you but lets just put it this way - you won't be able to find a single successful person in any of the fields I just listed who lacks some kind of confidence. You've never seen a meek, mush-mouth, insecure person become an influential figure who others look to for leadership and emulation.

>confidence
Is a cope from men and excuse from women. When a woman says she wants confidence, she means she wants an attractive guy to approach her. If an unattractive guy approaches her in the exact same way, that confidence is suddenly creepiness and arrogance. If you're not attractive enough to receive attention from women without trying, you're not attractive enough to try in the first place.

If you're not the type of guy she would like attention from in the first place, no amount of confidence will compensate for it. "Confidence" is a nebulous catch all women fall back on when they don't want to seem shallow by calling you ugly.
Other men will shit on you as well if you're confident and ugly. See pic rel. They don't like seeing another man who they deem lesser going after what they feel is rightly theirs by birthright.

>>33405182 (OP)
>s that true?
Yes.
>Is that really I gotta do? Just have confidence?
Yes.
>So when a woman asks me about what do I do Will she fall head over heels for me if I confidently say I'm a Stay- At - Home Son
No, because genuinely confident people are not stay-at-home sons

>>33405182 (OP)
It works for me but only if you are genuinely confident. I'm fat, have no job, and have no status or money, I still get girls and have spent very little time single pretty much based on nothing more than my personality and being genuinely a bit full of myself right on the edge of being an asshole about it. It might not work for everyone, but it does for me.

>>33405182 (OP)
I don't know how to build confidence. I've never been a confident person, I've been anxious and careful as long as I've lived around anyone who isn't a lifelong friend or family. I know this is the key that would change me from being someone who has been constantly ghosted and rejected his whole life to someone who could attract women, I just don't know if I can change such a core part of my nature.

>>33405435
You can be anxious and careful and still be confident. I don't know why people assume confidence means you're running the room, center of attention, loud, etc. It can be that, but that's not really what people mean when they say to be confident, they mean to think highly of yourself and not fake that belief, that's about it. It comes off in your behavior, how you carry yourself, the things you say and how you say them, and without much effort. It's not something you can 'build' because it's just avoiding building a lack of confidence or getting rid of that negative confidence.

>>33405503
>think highly of yourself and not fake that belief
that's very difficult, though. i grew up being put down constantly and it stuck with me. and that's the part i can't shake so far. i can say positive things, but i don't think i believe them on a subconscious level.

>>33405532
I don't think saying positive things and gay shit like positive affirmations work, again, that feels to me like "building" confidence and I just don't think that exists outside of practical things i.e. "building" confidence in cooking by doing it often, in construction by working the job awhile, etc. I don't think confidence is similar at all, you can't practice it or try to train it or it isn't confidence and people can see through it quite often - in fact most of the "loud, center of attention" types who people view as confident tend to be completely lacking in confidence hence they fake it by being loud and trying to pull attention towards them so they look the way they think a confident person looks.

I don't have much in the way of help because it's just kind of a thing you have or don't, you can get it when you don't, but how? I don't know, I went through a lot of horrible shit from others, treated terribly, put down, abused, my own family treats me like shit and always has, I still have very strongly held confidence. I don't know how to help so I'm just explaining in hopes it can at least give 1% of an idea on where to head.

>>33405182 (OP)
>Is that true?
Dude it's like this if she likes you she wants you to be confident enough to approach, women hate confident repulsive men, that's what they mean with their indirect duplicitous ways.