My relationship of 3 years is in its death throes. She's been pulling away and growing increasingly distant, giving me weird roundabout answers when I ask her what's wrong, not responding to my texts.

To make matters worse, I crashed out hard and texted her a bunch of shit I regret. Lashing out one day, asking if she'd be down to hook up the very next. Just really embarrassing, panicky stuff. And the kicker? We work together.

Things are fucked and I've completely lost all face in this situation. Is this remotely salvageable? Moreover, how do I survive the workday going forward? She's a masterclass faker, so she will NEVER let her feelings show at work. I'm obviously a lot more sensitive, and the idea of making small talk while being completely heartbroken makes me want to kill myself.

Any advice welcome. I'm completely depressed, not eating, not sleeping, losing huge amounts of weight, unable to focus.

>>33405395 (OP)
>3 year relationship
>conversations over text
>only see each other at work?

huh?

>>33405410
We don't live together and she's been rejecting my invitations to hang out. We both are sorta caretakers for our parents (her dad, my mom), so moving in together hasn't been an option.

>>33405395 (OP)
now you know why you shouldn't date your coworkers.

>>33405452
Yeah, I get that. But I'm here now, unfortunately.

>>33405417
Maybe the fact you have been together for 3 fucking years and live apart and do nothing at all is part of the problem along with being coworkers. Not saying you chose any of those circumstances, but if you are unwilling to find ways around them it seems like it won't get anywhere any longer. Did you imagine your relationship would just continue with you living apart and doing nothing together until both your parents are dead or something?

>>33405482
???

We live ten minutes apart and used to spend tons of time together until the last few months. I'm not sure why the fact that we don't live together is such a critical factor?

It's also immaterial because things are done and I'm looking for advice on how to deal with this, not a scolding on what I should've done better.

>>33405500
>I'm not sure why the fact we don't live together is such a critical factor?

Because your girlfriend wants a serious relationship. Someone who after 3 years is still someone you are basically just 'dating' is not a serious relationship, she's moving on because you have shown no interest or effort to make it long term, you are just having fun and texting her to have sex. It's not just childish and pathetic, it's all signs telling her she needs to find someone else if she wants something serious and not just a fun fuck buddy from work.

>>33405500
By the way, when you get advice don't bitch at the person when they try to give you information whether you know it or not or care about it or not. People like you are just obnoxious shitheads, that's another reason she's detaching from you - she probably realized you're a self-centered and touchy little baby. Enjoy being single in a month, I'm not helping beyond my last post.

>>33405511
Incorrect. She's the one who wanted to move slow because she has a lot on her plate, and she'd get squirrelly and pull away whenever I tried to move things in a more serious direction. In fact a lot of the rhetoric she's using now is shit like "I don't think I want this right now" or "I just don't want to be around people". Which, it is what it is. But it's not at all what you're describing.

>>33405521
You projected a bunch of shit that just wasn't true onto my situation? Like you could've just asked for further details instead of assuming you knew everything about our dynamic?

It feels like I'm catching flak for something that happened in your own life.