Homesick - /adv/ (#33406406) [Archived: 18 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/24/2025, 2:28:32 AM No.33406406
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My family (wife, kid, and I) recently moved from the PNW to rural Pennsylvania. The reason was entirely practical... our mortgage cost twice as much in the PNW, and we had no family there so we were constantly spending money for flights back to the east coast to see our family and had no support for our kid in times of emergency. It was also a matter of planning for the future, as our budget was already stretched to the limit and we weren't able to save anything substantial. On paper the move made perfect sense.

However I find myself constantly missing the beauty of the PNW and regretting the move. Every time I see a photo online of the mountains in the area or of the islands of the Puget Sound, I can't hold back the tears. Even though we moved into rural central Pennsylvania, specifically into the Poconos where it's still pretty in its own way - I miss the views of home. I miss Mt Rainier, I miss the Olympics, I miss the Pacific shoreline, I miss seeing the Milky way from Kalaloch beach. Even though I know that the move was a good idea financially and for the sake of our family, I can't help but feel pain and regret that we moved from such a beautiful region. Though our life there was chaotic and risky, the beauty of the mountains and the ocean brought me some semblance of peace that is now gone. I had gotten used to seeing them on a daily basis and now without them I feel lost. Despite knowing how much I have and should be appreciative of (my family, which I could not live without) I still feel like I miss the PNW so much. How can I get over this bullshit? I know that we can visit it anytime in the future, I keep telling that to myself like it will somehow soothe me, yet it isn't enough. How can I trick my brain into accepting that which I already know?
Anonymous
7/24/2025, 4:07:43 AM No.33406798
What's recently? Feeling homesick is normal. I suppose it could pass with time as you start to consider PA (plenty of beauty there..) your home.
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Anonymous
7/24/2025, 4:15:45 AM No.33406829
>>33406798
>What's recently?
It's been about a year now. I figured I would be over this by now.
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Anonymous
7/24/2025, 4:26:13 AM No.33406869
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>>33406829
Dr. Google says a year is not an exceptionally long time to feel homesick. It could just be you need a few more months. Is there anything else at play? I'm going to throw some things at the wall to see if anything sticks or gets the noggin' joggin'.
>you feel like the move means you failed to provide so you lost your mojo
>you hoped moving would magically solve existing unresolved (marital) issues
>you don't actually want to be near the extended family
>you lost your hobbies with the move and haven't replaced them