I have two young kids. One was born in Country A, the other in Country B. I used to be with their mother – we moved abroad together years ago, but we’ve been separated for almost two years now. She stayed in another country with both kids, I went back alone.

I officially acknowledged paternity for one of them. The other, I didn’t – I was going through a really dark period back then (death in the family, mental health stuff). I want to fix that now, but she’s blocking everything.

She recently went through my phone without permission, saw that I’d been talking to other women, and lost it – even though we’re not together anymore. Then she deleted our entire WhatsApp chat history, out of spite. That chat included a lot of stuff where she talked about drinking, drugs, and suicidal thoughts. I was keeping it as evidence, along with other messages where I expressed concerns. Now it’s all gone – I only have a few screenshots left.

She seems mentally unstable. Her older daughter (from a previous relationship, around 13) hasn’t been to school since 3rd grade. And now she wants to travel around Europe with the kids.

I’ve tried contacting legal services and government offices – but nothing’s moving forward. I feel like time is running out, and I want to get my kids out of there before something bad happens. But without full paternity or custody rights, it’s almost impossible.

What would you do in this situation? Is there anything I can do from the outside? I'm honestly at a loss here

>>33414604 (OP)
You need to actually sue. Establishing parental rights can be difficult depending on country but if she isn't comminicating with you, again, it needs to be done through lawsuit. You need to sue and demand parent responsibility and custody rights over your kids. Idk how to do that, but you should contact a family law lawyer in whatever country your baby momma lives

>>33414771
I’ve already been to both responsible child protection offices. Honestly, I was just dismissed. I provided all the evidence and clearly showed how serious my concerns are – but nothing happens.

Finding a lawyer for international family law is incredibly difficult. Most either decline right away or admit they don’t really know how to handle cases like this.

If communication with the mother isn’t possible anymore, the only option seems to be taking legal action. But even that feels almost impossible without proper support.
Apparently, it's much harder for fathers than it is for mothers to be heard or taken seriously.

>>33414837
Yeah, the government isn't going to help you, you need to sue on your own behalf. And rather than looking where you are for an international family law attorney, you need to get an attorney in the country where your baby momma lives familiar with family law in that country.

>>33414837
>International family law
>OP is an immigrant from some third world shithole and somehow surprised that the courts in another country aren't going to take children away from a proper human being and award them to someone who lives in brownfuckistan

I shiggy diggy, OP.