How do you usually handle it if the person your dating messes up and says I Love you way too early?

Man it seems like something always fucks up. I swear things were going great, I almost had everything under control with the current chick I'm dating! Man she seems like a cool girl that generally knows how things work, but we're literally on only our 3rd date last weekend and she tells me she loves me. Fucking how? She literally doesn't even know my last name! She knows almost nothing about me besides how we are vibing together so far.

So I was trying to explain to her the facts of the situation, that it's way too early, we aren't even in a formal relationship yet. Things are going well, but there is no way she can already be in love with me, that she is ascribing emotions incorrectly and she needs to take a step back in her process and realize that it is not even remotely possible yet for her to be in love with me. She doesn't know all my quirks, what I'm like at home, what I mostly do with my free time, barely even knows what I do for work. I had to tell her how she was being incredibly naive. I'm explaining these things to her logically and rationally and she is just getting more and more upset. Like I'm the bad guy now for trying to help you set realistic expectations? I just don't know what I'm supposed to do here when I'm trying to walk back her bad read of her feelings. I'm legit trying to help her.

>>33415021 (OP)
You called her honest feelings invalid. Of course she is upset. Whos is the autist now, huh?

Women don't work the way men do. You don't need her to be logocal, that's your job. Let her be all feely and things. Nothing wrong about that. If she wants to tell you that she loves you, let her do that. The only thing you should not do, is to get pushed to telling her the same things on command and not when it feels right for you.

>>33415021 (OP)
What would be functionally different about your relationship if she believes she loves you versus if she believes she doesn't love you? What were you trying to prevent other than just Her Being Wrong?

>>33415021 (OP)
Just ghost her. She's unhinged and has attachment issues.

>>33415021 (OP)
Is be concerned too anon, It's too soon

Ignore >>33415048

Keep it simple. Do you wanna see her again? If yes then do it. If not then don't. Don't overthink these things. Maybe say some gay shit like you understand she's excited, and you are too, and that you look forward to spending more time together

>>33415021 (OP)
>I'm legit trying to help her

So stop trying to help her. She has to help herself. You're not in the wrong. Actual love takes months to develop, something that's built and grown after a prolonged period of bonding and gaining mutual familiarity.

Go easy on her and let her down gently. She's probably someone with emotional problems and from a struggling background where she developed a lot of neediness and self loathing, which si exactly why she moves so quick and drops the love bomb early, out of desperation to kill her loneliness or self bitterness, trying to cling to anyone who will give her a chance.

She may or may not be a bad person either. Could be a very well meaning one. Who knows. What you do know is she isn't in love with you. She is in love with the idea of you, she loves what you could potentially be for her. Which sounds sweet and all but there's a big gaping problem:

If you do not love up to her idealised image she conjured and projected into you, and you won't because you are human, things can turn very ugly very fast. She may perceive slights from you, signs of abandoning her, or disinterest when all you were doing was wanting your own time or space.

If I were you I'd back out gently and give her an amicable and polite send off.

yes, please don't love me, that will make you love me

When this happensI usually just let her use me until she deems necessary to leave.

>>33415251
Dating in a nutshell lol

Damn. Women are kind of crazy, aren't they?