27 and never had a girlfriend because I'm too afraid of rejection. - /adv/ (#33415069)

Anonymous
7/25/2025, 10:58:49 PM No.33415069
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I never tried to ask any girl out, even the ones where i knew for sure they are into me.
I'm not even sure what the problem here is.
I just could never get myself to walk up to them and tell them.
Any analysis on this?
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Anonymous
7/25/2025, 11:03:56 PM No.33415086
>>33415069 (OP)
Just do it. Start by asking fat bitches for the time and work your way up.

You could tried and failed 10,000 times by now and you'd be in exactly the same position. It literally doesn't matter if you get rejected.
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 6:30:14 AM No.33416883
>>33415069 (OP)
I'm a few years ahead of you. I've had a handful of relationships, but never any that was particularly fulfilling.

What >>33415086 is saying is true, in the sense that you need to get yourself out there and ask some out.
What you at the same time need to understand, however, is you also need to do some personal exploration insofar why you are "afraid of rejections"

If you're afraid of rejection because of basic insecurities (looks, bad experience, awkwardness), then you can definitely train yourself out of it.
However, if you are afraid of rejection on account on of emotional fragility, sometimes called attachment style, which typically stems from caregiving patterns you had when you were a child, then any number of rejections trial-and-error wont fix you.
All you do is internalize the sort of "sting" rejections give you and it will indirectly prime you how in how you even approach, or more likely DON'T approach the dating game. The pain or rejection of discomfort will never go away it'll just be a natural reaction to you forever, and you'll never build confidence around girls. In that case you need healing, no training.

>tl;dr
In this case practice will not make perfect, if what you´re trying to perfect is something you´re not emotionally set up to deal with.
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 6:52:27 AM No.33416944
>>33415069 (OP)
the only way is face your fears and do what is hard. There is no other advice
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 7:05:44 AM No.33416986
I'm a turbo sperglord and struggled with this for years.

The first rejection was rough, but it wasn't nearly as bad as I was expecting. It got much easier to ask women out after this though. Pretty easy to shrug it off.
I've never had a woman be mean about it either. I got more flattered rejections than awkward ones by a long shot.
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 7:52:03 AM No.33417158
>>33415069 (OP)
Is rejection scarier than the thought of being alone forever?
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 8:55:28 AM No.33417347
>>33415069 (OP)
https://youtu.be/KeDs0BxxNDA?si=eQyE6CI0RdXkh0cG&t=77
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Anonymous
7/26/2025, 9:00:29 AM No.33417362
>>33417347
amazing, saved
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 9:58:10 AM No.33417536
>>33415069 (OP)
I won't read I'm sooooo cowardly threads. Nothing can be done.
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 10:05:14 AM No.33417555
>>33415069 (OP)
A Fable: How Shaking Hands Began (trust me - this is relevant)

In days of old, knights in armor who wanted to show friendship would remove one iron glove and extend their bare hand, knowing the other guy could chop it off with his sword, but hoping the gesture of trust would be honored. Two knights wanting to show trust would both remove a glove and clasp naked hands.

The point is that ANY human interaction, from business to friendship to sex, makes you vulnerable and runs the risk of being hurt.

But sometimes you just have to take the glove off.
Anonymous
7/26/2025, 11:24:05 AM No.33417794
>>33415069 (OP)
communication and buying a product are two different things