what should i do when every guy i talk to eventually turns me down and ghosts me when he learns i am waiting until marriage? for context i am diagnosed with aspergers so i usually say whats on my mind very bluntly, and bring up that i am a virgin dating to marry. they have all been different types of guys, its not like i was actively seeking out a certain type. even some guys off of 4chan treated me this way, why? i thought men liked virgins?

>>33415160 (OP)
post tits or gtfo

>>33415167
why dont you tell that to the other fembots posting here for advice? why is it just my thread

>>33415183
I saw yours first.

>>33415191
stop being mean to me

>>33415160 (OP)
Idk, let's assume that they didn't like some quality of your personality or background and say that's the reason. If we assume they think you're not good looking enough to wait that would make you feel bad. Me personally I wouldn't mind waiting if I liked everything else about the girl. Plus nowadays many men equate marriage with divorce rape (if they even want to start a family)

>>33415160 (OP)
Stick to your guns. If you want to wait till marriage that's fine, and all of these men are revealing themselves to be incompatible with you

I genuinely can't imagine a greener flag. If I liked a girl, found her attractive, and she was waiting for marriage is be over the moon. I wish I was religious desu, we live in a clown world and it's going downhill fast

>>33415286
>>33415250
oh.. okay. i think i just might not be attractive enough. i understand, its hard to love someone like me

>>33415286
>I genuinely can't imagine a greener flag.

Sadly you should really be thinking about how you're going to discreetly verify that information from her friends and family to see if it's a genuine virtuous girl or one of those "I only do anal cause I'm saving myself for marriage teehee" girls

>>33415307
i dont have friends and i dont live with my family. please stop making things up

>>33415160 (OP)
2 possible reasons:
1. They are put off by such a proposal as they see it as prudish and/or weird
2. In case they themselves save themselves for marriage, they have no reason to believe you, that you are a virgin. It took me years to get over lust, and when i finally did, half-naked girls started giving me smiles, leering at me while i do sports, it takes a special kind of commitment to resist this. So if you tell me that there's an attractive girl in her 20's saving herself for marriage in this day and age, i'd advise you to stop doing drugs, becuase that's pretty much like claiming that you saw a unicorn.

>>33415377
so they dont believe me? other anons said i could be too ugly. i dont know what to make of this, everyone is giving me different answers. im still unsure of what i should do about it all, im not going to grovel at some persons feet and beg them to believe me, i know what i am.

>>33415305
>it's hard to love someone like me

You're likely not going to find anybody that agrees to that unless you're dating a Christian guy or someone that is extremely desperate

>>33415473
proof moids are mean and evil, you cringe and laugh at my pain

>>33415594
Not doing either. How about you get this feeling in check before it causes you to push away someone who actually cares about you?

>>33415160 (OP)
There are a lot of fish in the sea. Keep meeting guys, one day you'll get the right one. Keep being you.

Femanon here.
Men don't like virgins. They have a type of women (or whatever) that they like. Virginity is a condition, in addition to whatever that makes their hearts beat faster, not the thing itself.

Marriage genuinely scares men. You can point out that they've never got anything but gains out of it but the human mind is always more afraid of losing the tiniest bit of what it currently calls possession even with the route being a means for more success overall. Don't blame the current system for being unfair. Articles from 1920s Italy describes the exact same situation.

>>33415679
can you provide me with said articles? i want to know what you are talking about

>>33415736
Google what celibacy taxes were

>>33415160 (OP)
Just churchmaxx
If you want to act like a church lady then just be a church lady

>>33415783
Is it really that unrealistic to want to marry the person I lose my virginity to

>>33415787
It's a bit culturally abnormal, especially if you go around parading your virginity like a carrot on a stick.
I would get creeped out instantly. You seem like someone who pokes holes in condoms

>>33415160 (OP)
There are people out there looking for virgins, that's not really a big deal especially if you're looking for the kind of guy who saves it for marriage. Speaking of marriage...
>>33415679
Yeah, marriage itself is scary especially with all of the horror stories out there. Some guys might be scared of marriage in itself but otherwise are happy to save it for a long term relationship. Really though, it's about finding the right guy for you, and unfortunately that means filtering out all of the ones looking for a cheap hookup or anyone who has a more "liberal" view on sex, which is unfortunately a lot of dudes.
>>33415787
It was quite reasonable in a lot of places decades ago. It's just that a lot of people have changed in recent generations. It's still a thing though. A lot of people don't feel comfortable having sex with someone they just met but feel pressured to do so anyways by the currently dominant hookup culture. There's no shame in saving it for someone you feel much more certain with.

>>33415160 (OP)
Genuinely >>33415286 is the answer, I would honestly prefer if my future wife be the kind of person to wait until marriage, not necessarily cuz of "muh trad/virgin" but because it makes marriage feel like more of a special commitment rather than "random guy #1000 with nice bank account". Of course this is purely hypothetical in my case cuz I spend my time watching Siberian top hat sewing tutorials instead of interacting with other people, but if other people don't wanna wait for you then they're not worth it imo.

are you Adele? i'm your argentinian friend, i miss you.

>>33415160 (OP)
Yes, men like virgins, but its just unreasonable and humiliating to ask a guy to wait until marriage when in the meanwhile there are men who take the virginities of multiple women without having to marry them first.

>>33415679
>You can point out that they've never got anything but gains out of it
Are people able to see this statement as anything but bait?

>>33415679
Bait. Kill yourself.

Lmao literally every man prefers a virgin over a non-virgin, as long as she's attractive. You ARE young and skinny with long hair and smooth skin, aren't you, OP?

Also which city do you live in?

There are two types of men who pine for virgins. Religious men and incels. Neither are prime relationship material.

Why marriage? Why not wait several months into a committed relationship? That's not weird. You have it hard enough as a sperglady.

>>33415191
kek

>>33415160 (OP)
You're talking to the wrong guys. Raise your standards and you'll find a better class of men

>>33415307
I live in the UK, there are approx 0% of women waiting till marriage here

>>33416046
>I spend my time watching Siberian top hat sewing tutorials instead of interacting with other people
Kekd