>>33487378 (OP)Women want their man to be better than them, so generally it can be difficult.
>Fwiw, I used to make more but she got a promotion.This is different. But this also means this situation is temporary. You need to keep striving to do better and get paid more (you should be doing this anyway) and not be complacent.
>Never brings it up, but me not being chad, makes me kind of insecure it’s a turn off to herDon't ever say shit about it. Don't even put this in her mind. You'd be doing yourself a disservice. My dad hasn't worked for the past few years because of office politics and the specialized nature of his job meaning he can basically only work for one company, unless he starts a business doing something else. But he's still leading my mom. He still keeps her in check. He still shuts her down if he senses an argument coming on? How? He carries himself like a man. He never stopped doing that. He handles shit around the house. He's always building something. Always solving something. He doesn't act like a bitch. Now if there are big financial decisions he gives my mom the space to make the decision since she has better credit and is making more. But my mom doesn't have any reason to rethink anything because my dad doesn't act like a bitch whatsoever.
So for you, this is mostly a mental game. Stay masculine, keep leading and solving problems, making things, handling things. But be smart about the hill you die on. You don't die on a financial hill. You become an advisor on that one for now. But everything else? You lead. You take care of things so she doesn't complain about shit. But when she does complain you keep her in check if it's not a legit thing to be nagging about.
