Finally met a girl who doesn't suck. She's pretty, friendly, genuinely cares about me, she's intelligent, she works hard, she makes good enough money, etc. I really like her.

...and now I have zero interest in fucking her. Literally zero sex drive. I just don't want to bang her. I don't know why. What the fuck do I do?

>>33492019 (OP)
Porn has fried your ability to be intimate with a woman. Stay off it completely and just enjoy hanging out with her and it might heal.

>>33492019 (OP)
Let me bang her and you do all the relationship bullshit with her.

>>33492078

Sometimes I worry about that, but honestly I haven't really been jerking off or watching porn much for the last 6 months or so. I'm worried that I might just not be attracted to her, or if my brain really is fried then I'm so fried I'm just fucked.

>>33492206
you probably have no self esteem. Like deep down you don't really believe she likes you and you don't deserve her. Maybe talk to her and just take it slow if she's willing to wait for you

>>33492223

My first reaction is to tell you to go fuck yourself, but yeah I was a total loser in high school, and even though that was 20 years ago I do kinda internalize some of that shit. FWIW this is like my 10th serious relationship and I never had this issue before.

is she actually conventionally attractive (ie. if you didn't know her, you'd find her hot regardless)?

if so, sounds like a madonna whore complex. where someone you see as a potential mother for your future children so you venerate her instead of wanting to "defile" her by having non-reproductive sex with her.

>>33492259

She is absolutely conventionally attractive. She's athletic, slim, has a pretty face, etc. She's black, and I've never dated a black girl before... maybe I'm just racist? I mean that would kinda suck. I joke about that shit but I didn't think I actually was.

>>33492019 (OP)
ever thought of spicing up the bedroom fun? Try out a few kinks and fetishes and see what sticks.

>>33492019 (OP)
I do this too.

I'm insatiabley attracted to the bodies of women who are airheads, but I get insatiabley attracted to getting to know someone who has good character, even if theyre hot.

I used to have a female friend who I was like this with, she was too nice and sweet and so similar to me she felt more like a sister I couldn't date her. I used to because she stopped being friends with me because she wanted to date and I didn't want to, she was very pretty too. I would hate defiling her through sex.

>>33492414
I think it honestly boils down to a self confidence issue.

When theyre too good of a person, we probably to "wow shes too good for me"

>>33492019 (OP)
if a girl won’t suck my dick it’s an automatic turn off

>>33492019 (OP)
>a girl who doesn't suck
That's a sexual dealbreaker right there

>>33492019 (OP)
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna%E2%80%93whore_complex

>>33492263
Are you a fucking brainlet? Physical attraction has nothing to do with fucking muh racism people don’t choose what they are attracted to they just are. It probably is because she’s black and not a thing you can do to change it and doesn’t have a fucking thing to do with being racist or not. I don’t have a single thought in my head about Asian people, I have no opinion about them good or bad, but I have zero attraction to Asian women even if I can objectively say some look pretty

>>33492263
Many people have a "type" - certain physical characteristics that they find attractive. I like curvy, busty, slightly chubby women, for example; I'm simply not attracted to women who are short and skinny. It's possible that she is simply not "your type". It's also possible for race to be an aspect of type, and that's not racist. Making judgements about a person's character or intelligence based on their race would be racist, but attraction isn't a matter of prejudice; you either feel it or you don't.