>>936152092first of all your wife may lose respect for you just because you suggest it
but if you decide to do it, you have to find a bull.? how do you get a guy who is physically nice and not a jerk.? who doesn't disrespect you and your wife.
the right thing to do would be to do it in a city outside your own to maintain privacy. more work
once in the bedroom you will hardly have control of the situation. it may happen that your wife does it but feels used. it may happen that he feels so much pleasure that you're horrified. he'll cum, react and do things he's never done with you. maybe your wife will decide to do it without a condom. more pleasure, surrender and involvement on her part.
regardless of the result, it's a road with no turning back, in either a bad or good way.