>>936211570>But when I criticize my mom's she drops bombs about my father like he had a crack addiction or shook her violently once, when I thought the abuse was only verbal and financial, as a mean to stun and shut me up.That is still a means to stun and shut you up though, your mom and dad being bad for each other and having serious issues with substance abuse and violence, does not validate her comparing you to him whenever you try to assert yourself.
You are your own person and if you are asserting your right to not be belittled and controlled by her, that does not make you just like your father, even if you get loud about it.
Just like you don't get to act like shit towards other people, other people shouldn't get to act like shit towards you. Asserting that in a firm and if needed loud manner, when other people haven't respected that boundary when it was said in regular tone of voice is perfectly reasonable.
>yesYou're only ever going to have a talent or aptitude for a small amount of things, everything else takes practice and doing a poor job of it or downright failing is part of the process towards becoming good at stuff, because those mistakes contain lessons that will enable you to change your approach and correct them. Do that persistently for enough time and you will eventually master the things that you really care about mastering.
>Crazy how you sussed that all out. I've studied people a lot because I wanted to enable myself to bond with them and be a good friend to them in a genuine way because I wasn't born with the social blueprint to do so, I had the empathy but I needed to work out how to apply it properly.
So that is why my guesses about what is up with you isn't totally off the mark, I'd say I inferred about 80% correct about you in a broad sense.
>It becomes so much clearer when there's a dialogue, so thank you.I'm happy that I could be of help to you, you're welcome.
To be continued.