Thread 936377305

40 year old virgin here. Should I keep trying? Is sex worth it?
Also, fuck hiroshimoot. It was much easier to post here 10 years ago...

>>936377305 (OP)
nope

>>936377610
Can you elaborate?

>>936377305 (OP)
it's harder to post because of chuds like you who suck Putin's cock

>>936377305 (OP)
>Is sex worth it?
Sex with a really attractive woman, who is genuinely into you ...totally worth it.

Sex with an attractive woman who is disinterested - makes you feel like shit, because you're thinking "why couldn't I make her enjoy it?"

Sex with an unattractive woman, and particularly an overweight woman - not worth it even a little bit. Masturbation is better. I'm not kidding.

Sorry that this has been your lot in life. I hope it gives you some comfort to realize that it could be way worse. You could have married young to a woman who never loved you, and you could be in a dead bedroom relationship with no way out other than losing all your stuff in a divorce.

That version of you, in some alternate universe where that happened, would kill to switch places with 40 year old virgin version of you.

>>936377822
Putin's cock is about as far away from my mouth as is possible to be on this earth. I don't know what happened, but I remember a world where I could post on 4chan without 10 minutes of bullshit. That world is long gone though.

>>936377610
You should not keep trying. It's not worth it

>>936377305 (OP)
I’m a 43 year old virgin kid

>>936377939
Don't delete cookies & the wait goes away oldfag

>>936377915
I just need to find someone who somewhat cares about me.
>>936378010
Sup old man? Good to see I'm not the oldest one here...
>>936378060
I delete cookies constantly... Plus, I came here in like 2008 or so. So I'm the newest of fags. Maybe I'll find a way to bypass the bullshit though.

>>936378234
You are lucky I didn’t die from the bridge jump 20 years ago so you are not the oldest virgin on 4chan

>>936378514
"you are not the oldest virgin on 4chan"
That's all that keeps me going. It's amazing that some people are bigger losers than I am, but it means I'm not quite as bad as I think I am.
Maybe some day...

>>936378728
None of it matters. We'll all be dead and buried either way whither you're some billionaire or a 40 year old virgin. Just try and enjoy what you have in life, get some pets, enjoy the small things in life... hobbies, ice cream, whatever.

>>936378831
Yeah, true enough. It's a shame ice cream makes you fat though. I'm only somewhat fat. I guess I'll try to enjoy hobbies and not get fatter...

>>936377822

Fuck off NATO cuck. You're losing.

>>936378831
Anon have you even gave a slight thought to what being a 43 year virgin does to a person. Do you think I can enjoy anything at this point

>>936379256
You really think Putin is going to give you anything for sucking his tiny penis? Honestly, why are you here?

>>936379256
Eat your potato Alex

just transition already

>>936377305 (OP)
Sex is fun and all but highly overrated.

>>936377305 (OP)
>Also, fuck hiroshimoot. It was much easier to post here 10 years ago...
It was also easier to post here before 4chan pass owning chatgpt bots flooded the site!
also also, MOOT was the nigger that put captcha here in 2010.

>>936378234
>I just need to find someone who somewhat cares about me.

have you tried being gay?

>>936377305 (OP)
just buy a hooker at this point.

>>936382125
10 years ago nobody was doing their best to make it a total shitshow

>>936378234
>I just need to find someone who somewhat cares about me.
Women are attracted to strength and masculinity. Weakness and neediness ...actually, not even "neediness" but just, a man who needs anything at all - instantly turns them off.

Thus, if you ever tell a woman that you need something from her, then her instinct will be to deny it to you.

The only way to get a woman to love you is to be attractive to her (masculine + chad genes) and then to act like you don't care about her. I know that sounds crazy, but it's true.

Ask male bartenders. They get girls all the time, and they know that a huge part of their success is the perception, by the women, that the bartender doesn't care (because he's ignoring them while doing his job, taking care of other customers). If the bartender "dotes" on a girl, she loses interest.

>>936380861
there aint no way I would transition at 43 even if I was trans.

>>936382203
I've considered it. I don't think I could enjoy sex with a hooker knowing she doesn't want to be there and is just counting down the minutes until she can leave.

>>936385391
If you want someone attractive then become attractive. Earn a better job, lose weight, dress better, and save money for a hair transplant if you need it.

>>936385490
Money doesn't mean shit. At least not until you have stupid amounts of it. I make 200-300k/year depending on bonuses.
As to the rest, yeah there might be something to that, but I didn't get laid when I was fit either.

>>936385490
>money makes you attractive
Correct. All women are whores

>>936385552
>>936385585
I didn't say shit about money other than the hair transplant which is not that expensive in the grand scheme of things. Earning a better career means better status which women DO care about more than you realize.

>>936377305 (OP)
The act itself is overrated as fuck and far worse than fapping. What makes it worth tho is the physical touch, intimacy, sweat, eye contact, kissing etc., the whole package settles the deal. If you go in with that expectation it's a wonderful experience and for sure worth it, but if you go in with the expectation of "it must feel better than jerking off" you'll be in for a big disappointment. Hope that gives you a better idea of how it is.

>>936385596
Sure. I've just heard "just make more money bro" so many times, so I've got to post that to clarify. Money is not the issue.

>>936377305 (OP)
>check price of escort girls
>prepare the sheckels
>when you meet her, lie and say that you was religious and forgot about sex slop
>penetrate her, whatever if you are good or not(with condoms of course)
>profite and prepare yourself to eat rice for the month, if you have no job lol

it's not too late. who care if sex is good or not. jus penetrate her

Tbh with you man at 40 you need to have sex,Once you have it more doors will open,Just pay someone to

>>936385863
Let's stop with the euphemisms. What you're referring to is a hooker. Yeah, I've considered that, but haven't for reasons stated above. In my state that's illegal, and knowing my luck she'd probably be a cop. But I could fly to Nevada and fuck a hooker if I really wanted to. I haven't because I don't think I'd actually enjoy being with a hooker.

>>936382203
I sorta did once, I paid for one in Philly, then I was talking to her in the hotel room and the same self esteem issues hit, so I let her go on, then I almost tossed myself off the walt Whitman bridge

>>936377305 (OP)
learning how to deal with rejection and have it not get to your head, which is part of the development process of becoming a functional human being

>>936377305 (OP)
Just pay for it man, danm it. Even after some paid interaction with woman, you start to understand how things works and you'll not need to pay anymore. But it takes time.

Lonely and looking for someone to change that... any takers?

>>936377305 (OP)
How does this happen?

>>936385596
better job = money
dress better = money
money = money
>I didn't say shit about money
my sides. post tits

>>936387022
Not op, but I’m 43, I grew up in a small town with nerdy hobbies, I didn’t have any friends in Hs, I was poor so I didn’t go to college, I moved out and just kinda got stuck in a rut, never went out just stayed home and before I knew it I was almost 30, went to Philly to pay for a hooker, got her into a room, but self esteem took a nose dive, sent her back, almost jumped off a bridge but chicken out of that, went home and that’s pretty much where I’ve been for 15 years.

>>936377305 (OP)
sex is good. but there's other ways to find satisfaction on the mortal coil.

>>936387022
I am OP...
In high school when everyone else was losing their virginity, I focused on school.
In college when everyone else was partying and getting laid, I focused on school.
After college, I focused on career.
I never went on a single date until about age 35. Then I tried for a couple years on dating apps. Went on a bunch of first dates, a few second dates, but never made it past that. Then I gave up.

>>936377305 (OP)
you're one of the few who will learn from failure
but the internet is going to be much more hostile to 4chan type discussion as a whole

>>936387276
You seriously haven't missed much. If you ever get your dick wet you'll think "Is that it?"

>>936389429
Dont worry I never will. Its impossible at this point. As you can see I cant even pay for it.

>>936388904
I did pretty much everything sexually possible thousands of times. Now that I've lived alone innawoods with unlimited porn for 12yrs honestly the only thing I really miss is group sex

>>936389796
Sex havers always say sex doesn't matter. I think that's similar to money havers saying money doesn't matter. To a homeless person, money is very important, and to a virgin, sex is very important.

>>936377305 (OP)
>front
what you want to see at a nudist grouping
>back
what you will actually see

>>936389982
I dont even think sex is that important. I think its just proof im a failure and have zero worth.

It is and it isn't. I lost my virginity relatively late like aroind 25. It's a huge confidence boost to know you can get a woman. But the first time or times you have sex it isn't that good. Imo sex doesn't get good until you have sex dozens of times and start to know what you're doing, especially with a partner who you know and knows your body well.

>>936389982
to be honest yeah, when you can have sex on demand you basically don't think about it, when you don't have it you crave it, its basically like drinking water

>>936390054
Probably true. I've never been to one. Just have some pictures.
>>936390144
> sex doesn't get good until you have sex dozens of times
That's mostly why I've given up. If it's taken me 40 years to get 0 sex, statistically it will take me 100 trillion years to have sex dozens of times.

>>936387276
Not that guy but you still didn't answer how that happened. I grew up the same way as you but you never have those realizations hit you late at night that make you say "what the fuck am I doing with my life" and then decide to go in a radically new path? I get one of those every 3-5 years and each time I do I level up. Have you never had one of those moments of conscious realization that make you realize how much of a pathetic loser you are and inspires you to change your life?

>>936390259
Yes, but they dont inspire me, they drag me down.

>>936390209
But you missed the part about the confidence boost you get from having sex. It's a permanent buff that lasts the rest of your life. And if you get sex even one time, it immediately becomes 100x easier to get it the next time. Oddly enough, the only time it's actually hard to get sex is the first time because you don't know what you're doing. Once you gain the experience to get women, it just clicks and becomes way easier. You honestly just have to grind really hard to get sex even one time and it basically unlocks sex for the rest of your life. Like getting an OP weapon I'm a game.

>>936390259
>realizations hit you late at night that make you say "what the fuck am I doing with my life" and then decide to go in a radically new path
Not that guy but i genuinely thinkr most people don't have those (i do have them as well though), this is why a lot of people are happy to wageslave for 40 years without even asking for a aise in salary (at least that is my theory)

>>936390366
I tried for a couple years to have sex for the first time. Went on probably 30 first dates. Of those, maybe 3 made it to second dates. Of those, zero made it past that. Never kissed.
I don't know what I was doing wrong. Maybe I wasn't forward enough, but I'm also worried about being too forward and getting a sexual harassment charge or something. One wrong move and a man's life is over.

>>936390404
>what the fuck am I doing with my life
I think that all day, ever day.
Then I do nothing, and in 5 years I think the same thing.

>>936390588
i had the same problem, one day i stopped thinking and i acted

>>936390362
Maybe try to change your frame of reference then. I can feel a big one coming on in my life right now. I have accomplished so much in my life since my last rock bottom but I am currently in a slump and the desire to change my life is coming on again. When it hits, I will use it as fuel to change things for the better.

>>936390404
That's wild to me. I think you're right though. I don't understand how people can be satisfied with just being a pathetic wagie or spend all day on tiktok vaping or whatever. I have had those times in my life but they wreck my humanity. I hate the feeling of slowly becoming an inhuman zombie blob person. I grew up with everything stacked against me. If I was a slightly weaker person I already know I would have been a reddit type pathetic loser who just watches anime and smokes weed all day while working for minimum wage. But through a series of existential crises throughout my life I have changed my life for the better and I am now a succesful person with love, my dream career and I'm person who I'm proud to be even if I slip into those bad habits more than I'd like to admit. And it's all thanks to those late night 3am moments of realization that inspire me to change myself for the better. I have never been the type who could accept an ordinary life.

>>936390556
Yeah you probably weren't forward enough. You gotta constantly push the envelope with women. The sexual harassment thing is overblown and rarely happens. Worst that happens is you walk away with a cringe memory most of the time. Women are just normal people and don't want a bunch of legal drama and will understand that you're just a creepy autist and will let it go if you fuck up, even if they never wanna see you again.

>>936377305 (OP)
No, at 40 you're cooked. You could've already gotten a hooker a long time ago. You didn't. You don't care, stop pretending. Besides, even if you managed to get into a real relationship right now and maybe have kids, when your firstborn would hit 20 you'd be in your fucking 60s. You're done. Wait to be recycled and try again once you're reincarnated or whatever. Not that you'll remember anyway.

>>936390794
Do most people kiss on a first date? I honestly have no idea. I just talked with them and tried to have fun, but I have no idea how to escalate things into a sexual relationship.
>>936390800
True. Kids are also expensive. I'm about to retire as a single lonely virgin. A wife and kids would make that all much more complicated.

>>936390713
>Maybe try to change your frame of reference then
This is useless platitude that means nothing lol

>>936390905
Yeah most people kiss on the first date. Depends on the date though. Next time you go on a date do something kinda active like mini golf or walking around town or something and start off small and ask to hold hands. Once you're holding hands just try to escalate more and try to kiss at the end of the date. It's okay to ask to kiss, especially if you are not super experienced.

>>936390983
Okay then. Guess you just gotta figure it out on your own. Or not.

>>936391018
I don't know if I'm ever going to go on a date again. I stopped having any luck on dating apps, and women stopped responding to me. Plus now I'm depressed and have no desire to date anyway. Oh well, better luck next life I guess.

>>936391130
Well I am of the belief that it's never too late to do anything but good luck to you.

>>936389982
That's why I though maybe a lotta sex haver who no longer has any saying he found it doesn't matter might ease a sad virgin's suffering a little

>>936377305 (OP)
Op, write a personal ad laying out the truth about yourself & what you want "40yr old virgin wants sex" & stick it in whoever responds that doesn't stink. I can almost guarantee you'll get responses

>>936389982
It was super important to me until I had it on the reg. It's more about knowing you can get it than having sex itself.

>>936392152
Hmm, "personal ad"? Like in a newspaper or something? I'm 40, not 70.
Or maybe I'm not understanding you. Where would I put out a personal ad? And how would that differ from dating apps, where I haven't had any luck.
>>936392249
Right. It's a big deal to me because I'm not getting any. I guess on the bright side, in 10 years my libido will probably die along with any prospect of happiness.

>>936377305 (OP)
>Is sex worth it?
It's fun but it's nowhere near what the whole fucking planet hypes it up to be. But yeah, you should still have it at least once, just so you know what it's like, and can feel the disappointment. Pay for it if you have to - there are legal ways to do so.

>>936392340
I was just generalizing. I'd call whatever your profile, post or request is a personal ad. You did not post on a dating app that you're a 40yr old virgin who wants sex

>>936377305 (OP)
Op has formed his identity around being a sad crying hopeless virgin, so will not take any advice. Don't waste your time with this attention seeker

>>936392459
You think someone would actually go for that? I'd assume any woman seeing that in a dating app would just assume something is horribly wrong with me (which is true).

>>936392647
Yes. There are women in your position. The worst that could happen is it doesn't work

>>936392702
yes, absolutely

>>936377305 (OP)
>tfw no 40 year old virgin for my gf to spread her legs for
Feelsbadman

>>936377915
GOOD COMMENT

>>936377915
>attractive woman who is disinterested - makes you feel like shit
Not if you got a big cock and plow her until she makes sounds like a cow that needs to be milked. That's kind of fun. Ask me how I know.

>>936385391
PROTIP: some hookers enjoy sex if you're not a gross pig with poor hygiene.