Anons how do you deal with creeping loneliness? I’m 43, I’ve never had a relationship, sitting hear with my home cooked meal in tears

>>936478807 (OP)
>feeling sorry for yourself
>crying while posting
LOL

>>936478807 (OP)
Do you have videogames? You're living the dream life, you idiot. What, you wish you had some crazy bitch all up in your shit, nagging you about every single fucking thing? Or you just want sex, which would be like a once a year thing, if you're lucky? HOOKERS.

>>936478868
Welcome to 4chan

>>936478807 (OP)
Train to run a marathon. You just need a goal.

I suggest you watch The Center of the World or Death Proof. something to remind you why you are better off alone.

>>936479127
Is not dying a goal?

>>936478807 (OP)
... don't be alone?? Honest to god.

>"Hey guys any ideas how to cope with being wet? Currently standing in a puddle and it sucks."

Go be social if you're lonely. If you choose not to because it's too hard/scary, then that's on you.

>>936479179
>Is not dying a goal?
It's a "maintenance" goal.

>>936479182
>Go be social if you're lonely. If you choose not to because it's too hard/scary, then that's on you.
I'm sure old people with tons of experiences would want to hold socially inept OP by the hand, metaphorically.

I live alone and love it. I visit a gloryhole every Friday night

>>936478807 (OP)
Weed, alcohol, cam girls, shouldn’t share threads, video games, and streaming services. I mean that’s what I do as a married father with multiple pets when I’m alone.

>>936478807 (OP)
Books help.
Is it even your fault that you're lonely?

>>936478807 (OP)
OP I don't understand why you just don't wanna meet people. What's the issue?
We're all human beings. We're social creatures no matter what you hear.

Make even a small change to your life. come on you know you don't wanna keep doing this dead end shit forever

>>936479233
For me yeah

>>936479392
Maybe? I don’t know? It’s honestly hard to tell

>>936479645
You're old enough that if there were a reason you could have forgotten it.

>>936479179
nothing wrong with just barrelling straight to your demise

>>936481924
For organic reasons maybe, but everyone here has been poked and prodded. Shouldn't kys if you are being coaxed to it.

>>936481845
At my age it’s kinda a compounding group of things, if I had to pick a start point it’s not having any friends in school because I grew up with nerdy hobbies in backwoods east TN in the 90s.
>>936481924
I tried to kill myself at 25 and failed

>>936479171
>I suggest you watch The Center of the World
? seems like a boring film

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Center_of_the_World

>>936478807 (OP)
Hire a hooker, you have got some stuff that you need to get out of your system,

>>936478807 (OP)
>Anons how do you deal with creeping loneliness? I’m 43, I’ve never had a relationship, sitting hear with my home cooked meal in tears
by posting random brainfarts on 4chan and getting insulted by anons and told to kys

>>936479171
>I suggest you watch The Center of the World or Death Proof. something to remind you why you are better off alone.

Tarantino says its his worst film

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_Proof

>>936479171
>I suggest you watch The Center of the World or Death Proof. something to remind you why you are better off alone.

personally whenever I am sunk into the Morass, I whip out my DVD of March of the Penguins, and watch the toughest motherfuckers on the planet dealing with shit you wouldn't believe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJwwI6ra2T4&list=PLJxNLjg2LDU1Uy3qW1vaT8WiJyTlYP-TP

>>936482996
>I tried to kill myself at 25 and failed
>I tried to kill myself
>failed
are you sure?
maybe you should get a second opinion

>>936483112
I tried that, that’s when I tried to kill myself after I backed out.

>>936483411

Stick the follow through.

I'll grant you it's a pretty empty nut, but it's better then nothing.

If you're not sure about it, try going to an asian massage parlour and getting the happy ending after the massage.

I went to the auto parts store early this morning and the clerk was the most visibly depressed person I have seen in a long time, the feeling was so strong it was like acid burning my soul to look at them deal with my purchase, I wanted to ask them 'who died?', or 'were you raped and beaten all night long last night?', it has ruined my whole day thinking about them, hope I dont have nightmares tonight

>>936478807 (OP)
Fix what's broken or don't.
Live with it broken, or don't.
Those are the options before us.

>>936483104
it's short, Molly Parker is dfc hottie and it's funny once it ends. the whole thing is a womans wet dream. better than Leaving Las Vegas imo as it's not a tonal shift once Shue's character is introduced.

>>936483553
Last time I tried I stood on the edge of the Walt Whitman bridge, its best if I don’t try again

>>936478807 (OP)
Classes and sports. or Improv. Gunsmithing. Pottery. Intermural sports leagues. Board gaming. Metal working. Brewing. There's a million groups out there that will let you meet and hang out with interesting people while you develop skills. TURN OFF THE COMPUTER AND GET OUT OF THE FUCKING HOUSE.

>>936483915
Nothing really good comes from sitting at your keyboard or staring down at a phone.

>>936478807 (OP)

>>936478807 (OP)
Spending time with my family members and coworkers is enough for me to keep the loneliness away. There are also a couple of social clubs that I'm part of that get me through the week. I'm 41 and never got married or had kids because of my career choices.
A couple of Anons suggesting having a goal to work towards to keep yourself from going crazy and I think that's a good idea.

Just know that the alternative is a diminishment of yourself in order to create a "family". I watched a lot of my friends get married and slowly shed everything bit of their personality that made them interesting. When we'd go out for a boys night it's like they briefly recovered a sense of self and start enjoying life for a brief amount of time before they had to put their mask back on and slink off to be some other person for their family.

>>936478807 (OP)

Dunno, it's swings and roundabouts. I was single most of my life, had my shit together, mostly content enough, although I sometimes felt lonely.

Then I got married in my 40's and now have a wife and stepson. My life is better in various ways but there's downsides too and sometimes I do miss my single, peaceful life. Ask yourself the question, do you really want to go from what you have now, to sharing every part of your life with another person, forever?

Pic unrelated.

>>936479356
Fuck I miss so much spending a weeked just smoking and playing videogames the whole day.
Now I am lucky if I get more than an hour of alone time, and I don't even have kids yet...

senior centers have bulletin boards with activities.
>>936479127
pic related

>>936489816

Yeah, same. I really miss alone time.

>>936478807 (OP)
I don't understand loneliness, never have.
Every second away from other humans and their drama and bullshit is golden.
I don't know how to help you cuz your problem is the exact opposite mindset as mine.

>>936489816
>>936490280
just say no to pussy ya bunch of addicts

>>936478807 (OP)
what's the purpose of your life at this point? you don't have a significant other that you're helping lead you through this existence, you don't have offspring to carry on your legacy, all you do is spend 40-50 hours a week doing labor...you're a cog in the wheel

>>936478807 (OP)
shit posting

>>936478807 (OP)
Anon I'm 46 and I haven't even been on a date since 2003, and I've come to realize what an absolute blessing it is, especially when I look at longtime friends of mine I've known since school, who are now married and miserable and dead inside and in debt that they'll keep rolling over for the rest of their lives. They've all been married for years, yet none of them are happy to be married anymore.
In a way, they're more lonely than you or I. It's the old saying; the only thing worse than being all alone, is being all alone in a crowd. Being married does not preclude being lonely.
>home cooked meal
That sounds delicious, actually. What did you make?

>>936490803
>honey let's do *insert time / money wasting activity*
>yes
>3-5 hours gone
>no
>you never take me out!
>3-5 hours of not being able to enjoy alone time because now she is pissed off / bored and wants you to fix it
>if you repeat no too many times she gets the depression debuff and you get the boring husband debuff
>both decrease the amount of sex you have and increase the possibility of being cheated on

Hey man, I hear you. That kind of loneliness can feel like it settles into your bones — especially when you're doing everything “right” (taking care of yourself, cooking, keeping your life going) and still feel that aching absence.

First off, there's nothing wrong with you. You're not broken or behind — relationships don’t come with a fixed timeline, and love isn't some prize for being good enough. Sometimes it just… hasn’t happened yet. That doesn’t mean it won’t.

But I get it — the weight of that silence, the years, the feeling like you're watching life pass by from the outside — it can hurt like hell. You're not weak for crying. You're strong for still showing up every day in spite of it.

If there’s any comfort in hearing it from a stranger: you’re not alone. Even if it feels like it right now, there are people out there who would want to know you — not for what you could become, but for who you are right now. You deserve connection. You always have.

And if you're open to it, there are ways to start cracking the door open. Maybe not chasing a “perfect relationship,” but letting yourself be seen — by a community, a support group, a shared interest, even one decent stranger. Loneliness lies to you. It says no one would understand. But here we are.

You matter. Tonight, that has to be enough. Tomorrow — maybe something more.

>>936478807 (OP)
porn is the answer but i don't get lonely

>>936478807 (OP)
Loneliness is weakness, solitude strength.

>>936493932
thanks chatgtp

I been alone so long, I am sad at times that I am this way.
Like I dont even like the company of dogs. Although nice for an hour. I feel bad that any dog I would own would be bored and sleeping a lot. Cuz im always just gaming.

I got a micro dick so I dont even bother having a sex life.
I get along with women, but after a while I just wanna zone out and ignore them. They eventually either bore me or annoy me.

So my whole life is just gaming, streaming shows, gooning and jerking my little dick. Work.

>>936494124
loneliness is imposed, a state of lack that weakens the soul, while solitude is chosen, a state of fullness that fortifies it. One who seeks solitude learns to thrive in their own presence, building a foundation unshaken by external absence. This strength allows them to connect with others not out of need, but out of desire, creating bonds that enhance rather than define them. In solitude, we discover that true weakness is not in being alone, but in fearing it.

>>936494124
>at times
what the problem then?

>>936494144
im not depressed about it anymore, ive accepted my life. its simple, i do what I like daily.
i do get a little sad that I am this way, but that feeling goes away because Im never gonna have a girl. Lets be real, no girl wants a micro dick.
since sex cant keep us bonded I just get bored of them. women are fucking boring
their hobbies usually bore me

>>936494166
i just felt like sharing is all

>>936478807 (OP)
develop a deep antisocial personality
I'm 41 in a few months and I love being alone. When I'm around family for a few hours I start longing for the solace of being alone again. I have lots of close friends online that I talk to every day though so that probably helps. But in real life I mostly want to keep to myself.

>>936494180
>Lets be real, no girl wants a micro dick.
Wrong. They exist out there but are hard to find.

Also getting bored of people is a you problem not a them problem. People do not exist solely to entertain you and keep you occupied. I'm sure not everyone finds you riveting to be around either.

>>936494286
>I have lots of close friends online that I talk to every day
I don't know how people keep that up.

>>936494318
First of all, finding the almost non existent rare girls is not worth girls getting mad at you for wasting their time. Laugh at you. Insult you. Or if you tell then before hand, look at you with disapproving disgust.

Your next statement contradicts itself. They aint meant to entertain me, but then you start saying I bore them.

so with your logic, why would it matter if I bore them? if they should just entertain themselves.

what your not getting is, without sex, you lose interest in a girl. and she loses interest in you. even faster so if you never even can.

I dont like most hobbies girls have, i would basically need a gamer girl that is into cinema that loves micro dick

you are retarded if you think it’s easy to find

>>936478807 (OP)
I'm your age. I'm not going to say I can relate because I've had many relationships including the one I've been in for over a decade. How have you never had even a girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever?

>>936494477
Apparently you didn't get what I said at all. Not surprising for being socially stunted I suppose.

I said people don't exist solely to entertain you. I figured you'd have enough brainpower to equate that you don't exist to entertain them either. My fault for assuming. Yes, you can be around friends and still be bored together. If you're dumping friends because that happens now and then, that's a you issue.

I also said at the very beginning they are rare but do exist. I guess I also assumed you would understand that rare things are hard to acquire. So I'm not sure how you come to the conclusion I'm retarded for thinking it's easy when you're clearly the socially retarded one. I didn't say it was easy. I said it was possible. Obviously it's going to be quite an uphill battle for you.

>>936478896
>Do you have videogames?

The goal is to not still be doing this shit in your 50's. Especially as a roneryfag. Looks kinda pathetic at that point.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZFTRmyM5Lg&pp=ygUfNTAgeWVhciBvbGQgamFwYW5lc2UgbWFuIGxvbmVsedIHCQnDCQGHKiGM7w%3D%3D

>>936485444

>>936478807 (OP)
At this point, just go to the Philippines bro

>>936489866
Everywhere I look, something reminds me of her.

>>936478807 (OP)
I'm alone all the time, but I only very rarely feel lonely. I avoid other people by choice because I hate them and most of them are just out to hurt me. Maybe I would feel lonely if I ever had friends and such, but you can't miss what you never knew.

I do wish I had a gf though, for the sex.

>>936495054

>>936495064
Fuck you, freak. Stop identifying with Apu. That's bad for you. Why would you want to be a part of that club? He's deformed and angry and on the verge of tears. He's squatty and fat. You wear that shit like a badge of honor with your faggotty anime nonsense. You're a GROWN MAN. Get away from cutesy pink shit and cartoons FFS.
>aspie
Fuck all of that gay shit. You are just like so many of these pathetic faggots around this website.

>>936495143
I might be tall and thin irl, but Apu looks like what my soul looks inside of me. He's me and I am him.

>>936495203
Your soul disgusts me then. And it surely isn't helping your social life. I think you people deserve to be lonely since you are into faggot shit. Yet if you had friends you wouldn't have fallen into this pit of faggot shit in the first place.

Oh well, you're here now and I do hate you for it. Thank god you people are inside and alone and I don't have to deal with you in the real world.

I use drugs and alcohol to "deal" with my loneliness.
You just need to go in public and start talking to people, honestly. That, or find someone online near you and talk to see if they're chill enough to meet.
It's not hard, but we procrastinate so much we just don't want to try...

>>936495062
This guy knows what's up. You won't be lonely there. People from Philippines are basically the most social and friendliest people in the world.

>>936495248

>>936495452
Also, Filipinas will fight tooth and nail for even the most mid white man no matter his age.

If OP is such a limpdick beta as he claims, Philippines will fix him right up (only if he’s white)

>>936478807 (OP)
by not being a loser. what have you changed to warp your reality???

ive been married twice, slept with 30+ women. many of them long term and hundreds of times.

im a nerd, im broke, yet i get rich women who are models, reporters for the news, ceo's, etc., etc.

the world isnt going to give you anything for free, but it will give you everything if you listen to it and abide by it. be the change you want to see fags

that being sad, loneliness brought you to this point so its not so bad either. stress and loneliness are severely underrated tools

>>936495054
I would wear this to a party

>>936479182
>>936479259
This

>>936479171
>>936483332
If op can be helped by watching a movie then I strongly suggest pic related. Ryan gosling is literally him

literally realise that you are just a cluster of cells on a spec of dust and nothing matter so wallowing in your own sadness is literally the most pointless thing ever as it does not matter just enjoy the shit you enjoy until you die and hope you meet someone along the way if thats your jam

its not that fucking hard man just dont be a bitch and do shit you enjoy?

Also dub 6