>>936489115TL/DR: try safe suggestions and donโt compare yourself to the Jonesโs. do what works for you.
Save this somewhere if you can. Iโm not saying Iโm right but itโs what I tell most of my friends for their first kids
Your wifeโs hormones are going to be everywhere and she will always feel like sheโs being judged and not doing well enough during the pregnancy and after birth
Women are way worse than men as far as โflexingโ how easy it was for them to conceive or deliver or lactate or get the baby to sleep or lat h etc etc etc until you start sharing your struggles then all of a sudden they start sharing their struggles too
Every single baby is different. There is no perfect answer on how to swaddle or burp or get a kid to latch or pass gas. If people give you a suggestion by all means try it. If it doesnโt work this week it might work next week
Be as patient as you can with your wife, but donโt be over accommodating. If you start staying up with her at 3:00 am while she feeds youโre both losing sleep for no reason