I'm an adult male and I am still a virgin. I turned 30 years old within the last year. I try to vent to my parents about my issues and they just tell me they don't want to hear it every time. Like my mom will physically put her fingers in her ears and yell over me so she cannot hear me talk.

Anyways, they have a family friend who has a daughter who is 33 years old and also has never had a (girl/boy)friend either.

She was shown pics of me and she was interested.

I was shown pics of her and I was interested.

I got nervous because I have never been on a date before and I don't know what to do and if things escalate and she wanted to have sex I wouldn't know what to do either. Nobody has ever seen my penis in person. So the day we were supposed to meet I cancelled at the last minute.

She thinks I cancelled because I saw her photos and found her unattractive.

I tried to get another date scheduled but my dad became very angry for no reason and called me a "fucking faggot" and said that I embarrassed him, and that I would just wimp out of any other date he would try to get for me. He said that I am "on my own"

Quit being an insufferable faggot.

>>936532179 (OP)
I'm 28 and a virgin. Difference is, I don't care about sex or relationships, haven't cared for years now. Women are not worth it, telling you this now. Putting effort into women is a huge waste of time. Massive waste of time. Don't be a fool.

>>936532179 (OP)

>>936532234
I've literally never been on a date before. I don't know what I am supposed to do or say.

Everyone else went on their first date when they were like 14-17. I'm 30. I literally don't know what I would be expected to do.
>>936532244
I used to think that too in my 20s but as soon as I hit 30 I just felt something switch in my brain and now I want to have a girlfriend who will cook for me sometimes and have me cook for her sometimes and we can go out and do stuff and I won't look like an weirdo because I'm by myself

>>936532396
It's not rocket science. Talk about yourself. What you do, what hobbies you have, places you've been, whatever. If she's into you she'll listen to you babble. If she's not she'll look bored and uninterested. If you have nothing interesting to talk about then that's on you for hiding in your parents basement instead of making a life for yourself.

Ask yourself this: Why should a woman want to be with you? What do you have to offer her? If nothing, then you're probably better off staying home and jerking off, again.

>>936532244
This man gets it. The allure of getting to stick your dick in a warm, wet vagina seems awesome. It's really not worth the hassle. Hell, you can have my wife if you promise to never bring her back!

I'd be a lot richer now if I had just stayed single in a shitty(but cheap) apartment.

>>936532502
I suck though. Why would she want to hear anything about me? I am literally the least interesting person ever.

The less she knows about me the better because once she knows me she will not want anything to do with me. If I at least pretend like I'm mysterious or something that would work better probably.

I don't know why a woman would want to be with me. I think it's cause she's 33 and hasn't had a boyfriend or been on a date yet so she was so desperate she would've given anybody, even me, a chance lol.

Either way though every one is acting like I'm a piece of shit asshole now just because I got nervous before the date.

Tell your dad you want to go on the date. Simple. Stop yapping they hate your voice. Short sentences from now on champ.

>>936532947
She does not want to go out with me now because she thinks I turned her down because I find her ugly

Have you tried Grindr?

>>936533039
No I tried tinder though but none of the women on there wanted anything to do with me and the ones who would message me would intimidate me and I would ghost them

>>936532990
HEADSTRONG WE'RE HEADSTRONG. I KNOW THAT YOU ARE WRA-ONG. HEADSTRONG TO TAKE ON ANYONE. [how do you apologise]

>>936532396

>but as soon as I hit 30 I just felt something switch in my brain and now I want to have a girlfriend who will cook for me sometimes and have me cook for her sometimes and we can go out and do stuff and I won't look like an weirdo because I'm by myself

so you are 30 with no experience with women. you are cooked buddy. you missed out on a lifetime of learning how to talk to women and how to deal with their tests and manipulation. you will either cheated on or left or both. over and over and over again.

>>936532179 (OP)
The more you care, the more you will fuck yourself. The less you care, you more you will fuck.

You give a shit too much. Don’t. Women are attracted to guys secure in themselves, that do not need them. Trying to impress, being too careful - runs them off.

And stop whining to your parents, you’re in your 30s. Listen to some music, work out, go out for a drive and bitch to the universe, but leave your parents out of it. You are responsible for your own fate starting at 16, which highlights insecurity may be an issue.

Focus on yourself, don’t be a recluse and they will appear. Women are mostly a fucking pain in the ass anyways, fyi. You need to be 100% you before being able to deal with their bullshit.

As a man, you are the one that gets vented on, you are the one expected to fix the issue, you are the one expected to carry 95% of the financial and emotional weight (all women are wired like this, even if they say they aren’t wait until kids come into the picture). So can’t be a pussy. It’s fucking hard.

>>936533070
there's a bit more to it so I don't blame her for not giving me another chance

>>936533243
Who gives a fuck. They are literally a dime a dozen once you have acquired your balls…

The moment you realize you don’t need a fucking woman and you are good by yourself = balls acquired (that’s when they appear). To fuck your shit up once you have security, that’s what they do.

>>936533364
Ok but I have not 'acquired my balls" yet

literally she is the only woman to ever show any interest in me and I blew it.

Acquire your balls, don’t be a recluse. You’ll be fine. Will happen when you LEAST expect it.

Show pics of "girl". Bet it's a dude.

>>936533456
You’re not ready yet and the universe knows this. It’s fucking hard being a man. Holding a woman requires not giving a shit if you lose her or not.

>>936533506
I'm not doing that

>>936532179 (OP)
agree with your dad, you are a huge disappointment to him I'm sure. What's with the arranged marriage, are you indian?

>>936533677
No. I'm white. So is she.

>>936533724
Ignore these hard fuglets, just man up. Takes time and effort - can be done from any point, no shame in the delay. Just chalk it up to current society, but rise above.

Acquire the BALLS

>>936533724
There is no chance you two incels could figure out how to have a relationship. Is she special needs or something? mail order brides are a thing, though I doubt you have the amount of money it would take to convince even a desperate escort from PI to get her citizenship

>>936533724
She probably wouldn't have wanted to fuck on the first date anyways; so maybe you should've gone with the intent of getting to know her personality and interests instead of hoping she lets you hit

And when things escalate to the hot and heavy stage, be clear, say you've never done it before and need her help to take it slow

Tired of saying this shit to all you porkloys that don’t know how shit works…

The more you want something = you AIN’T FUCKING GETTING IT!


The less you want something - it’s FUCKING ABUNDANT.

Its Joever, bro. Time to start HRT and get bottom surgery

>>936533817
I don't know. She might have some form of autism because I don't get how a woman could get to 33 and never have been on a date.
>>936533839
Maybe but I feel like it was heavily implied that we were going to be getting together for sex. My parents wanted me to bring a bottle of wine along on the date.

>>936532396
>I've literally never been on a date before. I don't know what I am supposed to do or say.
at the begining of the date, tell her "I've literally never been on a date before. I don't know what I am supposed to do or say."
then improvise with what she tells you

also, plan a date with just her, without all the parents listening on the phone call
just you two

also you're a bit of a little bitch faggot

>>936533243
You pansy. Parents will make you kys if you don't get this over with.

>>936532179 (OP)
Wizchan awaits you sir. Talk about your troubles with other wizards

>>936532179 (OP)
Stop being a goofy goober.

>>936532179 (OP)
>eep op ork
>eep op ork!!
I think I see how you got in this situation

>>936533039
underrated comment

>>936532179 (OP)
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>I'm an adult male and I am still a virgin. I turned 30 years old within the last year. I try to vent to my parents about my issues and they just tell me they don't want to hear it every time. Like my mom will physically put her fingers in her ears and yell over me so she cannot hear me talk.

>>936533948
>it was heavily implied
that is extremely stupid

do you seriously think awkward, cerebral, neurotic people meet somewhere over coffee for the first time, just to get to know each other and what they're like, and that proceeds to first date sex?

first date sex is a thing low inhibition retards do

I don't even know what say say, bro.
You already know how badly you fucked this up. You had a free shot given to you and you pussied out, dropped the gun and shot yourself in the foot. Your Dad is right and you are an embarrassing faggot. I can't even imagine the despair he's going through knowing you just fucked up the one time life threw you a bone and he'll be stuck looking after your ass for the rest of his days. Seriously get your shit together.

>>936532755
you are a piece of shit asshole for cancelling the date at the last minute. You were finally given a chance to get out there and not be a coward, and rather than face possible failure, you guaranteed it by giving up before you even tried.

This is why you are a virgin at 30 anon.

A bit of advice, women are nervous about dates too my friend, hell they have more to be scared of than you do. Your feelings might get hurt, the woman may get sexually assaulted if things don't go well.

If you want another chance, you are going to have to put in the effort. You wasted the chance that others gave you, hence why everyone is mad at you.

Read how to win friends and influence people. It’s old as fuck but good framework and tools for winning social interactions.

Talk to more females without going for sex.

How? Legit tinder gold > drop your location in some Africa back water. You’ll find 20 niggers who want to suck your cock to come to America in 15min.

Just talk to them. Get practice at flirting with them and normalize random convos with women for your nervous system.

>>936532179 (OP)
>parents too retarded to raise a kid
Many such cases

Lachlan?

>>936532502
>Talk about yourself
This is terrible advice. You'll come across as a self-centred douchebag.

Show an interest in her. Ask her questions. Learn about her. Chances are the other person is nervous too. If you focus on the other person and try to make them feel more comfortable, you take the internal focus off yourself and your won't be nervous.

Obviously answer questions about yourself, don't be weird about it. But don't turn up and just start talking about yourself. Awful advice.

lets beee honest if you dont get laid in your 20's then you're done for. 30 is beyond the max

>>936532179 (OP)
If this is true, your parents are the real faggots. I can't give you advice on getting a gf or losing your virginity, but I can tell you that you're never going to flourish living with people who speak to you or treat you the way you described.

>>936532179 (OP)
Did you buy her bath water?

Basically anon. Step one is leaving this place, it has poisoned your brain to the point that you live in one of a several false realities.
The goal is to cut you off from the herd. Regular women will never reciprocate your intentions or feelings because they do not fucking understand what you are talking about and are disgusted by what they see. Your fellow anons will not band with you unless it is to complain because you do not trust each other enough for more than just commiserately complaining. No action. This is also why you persuaded yourself out of a date that was arranged for you.
If you arrive in this honeypot you are instantly deemed dysgenic.
Get out of here, grow some balls.

>>936538960
can not hurt to offer

>>936532179 (OP)
So you got handed a golden opportunity on a silver platter and your insecurity threw it away? You deserve to die a virgin if this is true!

>>936540312
this is true
you can come back but only once you know you're better than these people

>>936532179 (OP)
First off, you're a pussy for not showing up.

Secondly, I lost my virginity at 31 and it changed my life for the much better. I have more confidence, care for my body, and seriousness toward life.

To be fair, I downloaded Grindr and it was a trans man who took it from me, a stupid girl who, at age 12 decided that she wanted to be a boy even though she was drop dead gorgeous as a young woman. She was 17, but told me she was 18. Linebacker figure, not for me.

Now, I have a cutie of a boyfriend (slender athletic build, loves me to death) and a girlfriend that comes to visit every few months so I can get my fetishes out of the way (which is healthy), trans girl, beautiful ass, pretty face, and I love to eat her pussy :P

Just find a way to get it done with someone you don't mind losing it to, then work on yourself, and get better at it: sex, self-care, relationships.

But yes, you're a pussy, get it together.

>>936542364
Also, I am 36 now, I rep for a major corporation in the tech industry, and my boy and girl love to come over to daddy's house to have fun :)

She has a beautiful tattoo as well :)

>>936532755
MAN UP. Reach out to her directly, tell her that you were a pussy and you wussied out and that you are sorry, and when you can see her soon. Make an EFFORT.

>>936533060
Well, sounds like you're retarded then.

>>936533141

This. This is profound. Take it all seriously.

>>936532179 (OP)
chill. breathe and relax, dude. practice makes perfect, go with the flow, realize she's in a similar situation, and just try to be yourself without sounding too needy or crazy.

people have been doing this for a long time, and everyone starts out with no practice.

also, sorry your parents are insufficient to the task. Most people are, very often.

who cares abotu your penis? just wash it and the rest of you really well. look nice, smell nice, and use good manners. take care, anon

captcha: A OK DX

>>936534390
Agreed, he needs to just be straight up honest.

>>936538155

You're a fool.

>>936541583
No, you are not immune. Your post is proof that you have regressed again.

>>936532179 (OP)
Your dad is right, you were literally spoon fed a solution to your problem and you fucked it because you're a pussy

>>936532179 (OP)
>>936532396
>>936532755
>cancelled
>I dont know how to date
That is really pathetic OP. You should go somewhere and meet the person and see if there is a connection. That's it. A coward is worse than a racist.

At the very least there's a chance to salvage it. You can say you weren't feeling well suddenly and throw in some gesture on top of that though I'm not sure what. Some kind of food she likes maybe.

>>936532179 (OP)
I hope you can take this in serious consideration. Shut the fuck-up! Take a class in Tai Chi. Learn to respect the adult women there. Take a group class in Ballroom dancing, then, turn instead to Night Club style dancing. keep up with the Tai Chi for it's social value, maybe turn to bonified martial arts if you can keep up Tai Chi. Continue to listen, answer questions , or shut the fuck up>

>>936532179 (OP)
Probably for the best that you don't reproduce.

>>936545796
your parents are not gonna support you and it's only gonna make it worse.

>>936543060
and you're a tool

>>936532179 (OP)
gl

>>936533817
What are you talking about there is absolutely 100% chance of these two desperate fuck knuckles finding live in each other because they share the mutual misunderstanding of normal life and normal relationships, they would have been the perfect dysfunctional neet couple and yet op chickened out and shat the whole deal out because he didn't have the "optimal dating strat" and "know what to do on a date" like that ever mattered
Op, please reconnect with this weird chick, try again

>>936532179 (OP)
theres no SUPPOSED to do, be hones, treat like a colleague and try to share things u like to do , become friends

people dont fk on first dates, ur mad
just dont overthink how to impress her.

>>936532179 (OP)
>my mom will physically put her fingers in her ears and yell over me so she cannot hear me talk.
Lmao your parents sound like retards, I’m sorry.

>>936532179 (OP)
it's not going to help you to ask faggots that know women only in 2D form and have an understanding of an american grade schooler about them

why the fuck does your mind instantly go to "what if she wants sex"? you don't actually believe that?
if you do, set yourself straight, she's a loser like you at best with no idea how to handle life.
if you both know of each other that you never had any relationship a good starter would be to say hi and that you have no idea how to handle it so you just want to hang out and talk about whatever
just job, hobbies, interests
why the fuck would your thoughts even go past all that and go straight to your pathetic unused dick?
kid get real
everyone has failed you, at least stop listening to these retarded ideas they've pushed on you that lead you into being such a pathetic virgin and start questioning

>>936549316
The fingers in ears and yelling "I can't hear you lalallaa" is supposed to be a joke to avoid talking about intimate topics with their family but it seems that you and op both lack that sort of social cue (autism)

>>936532179 (OP)
>So the day we were supposed to meet I cancelled at the last minute.
Did you tell her or them this? Because that would have helped.

>>936542694
one of the best beers I ever had tbh, wherever you are mama san, I must thank you for saving that in your cooler for 40 years waiting for a ship to pull in

the la femme nakita behind the coat rack....not so much but it made a great story and everyone laughed so fuck it lol

>>936532179 (OP)
You are in a sticky situation, anon. If anything, I bet you guys never talked to each other, just indirect communication through your parents. You could try getting her contacts and apologize for the misunderstanding; don't make yourself rue what you didn't do. You may not be able to save this relationship, though, if there was one. Make this a learning experience for your future opportunities.
I know it's hard. Feels way better to blow this all up and chicken out. If there's anything I learned about making an effort, it's that you have to stay through it. No matter how apprehending you feel, stay. Don't run. Face it head-on, anon! Take care.