Thread 937913571

What's the reason behind this fetish? Why am I into this and not traps or literally anything else?

>>937913571 (OP)
white people invention

>>937913571 (OP)
everyone gets a fetish for different reasons.

>>937913571 (OP)
Twisted racism? Maybe it’s just that only their moms were kind to them.

>>937913695
Indians literally have a line about worshipping their mother's vagina and jews are some of the biggest mothercons on earth

>>937914673
that's probably it. Mind you in my case it turned into a thing for older women, maybe an aunt at most

The love between a man and a woman is transactional. Look at what happens when a man loses his job or status, or your girlfriend finds a "much superior" candidate.

But a mother's love is unconditional (in most cases). This is due to the ignorance of all women in the world about male experiences, since women's reproductive strategy is conservative, and they choose not to pursue (and therefore not to know what is being pursued).

When a child enters adolescence, mothers don't understand at all why their son acts the way he does, or thinks the way he thinks, or looks the way he does, perhaps confused by the fact that their son doesn't resemble the boys she had relationships with in her teens.

For a mother, these are years of darkness where she realizes she doesn't understand anything about what is happening to the boy, and future man. Then her mind creates two paths: Ignoring their child, or creating a bond of love that embraces that darkness, no matter what, in order to protect and care for it.

As I said before, men's reproductive strategy is to pursue. But this pursuit requires great costs—materially, mentally, socially, etc.—over time, men tire and seek stability in all aspects of life. This is the ultimate goal of many men, and the best relationship in this regard would be with someone who loves you not transactionally but unconditionally, since transactionality always entails some kind of cost.

You may have a fetish for older women, or you may like a curvier body type, or be attracted to the biological traits of your family (there are many cases), but if you notice, the mother fetish rarely includes only sex, but rather a romantic or nurturing relationship with her, which, for your reptilian brain, is the best kind of relationship you can have.

>>937913695
It is a human dysfunctional sexual behavior and every single ethnicity on the planet, past and present, has individuals who are into it.
You thinking that everything bad is an invention of white people, only shows that you're a racist yourself.

>>937913571 (OP)
Did you grow up with a single mother, who considered you an extension of herself that she could order around as she pleased.
Who would talk shit about you by negatively comparing you to your father, who was absent because she had run him out of the house and done her darnedest to alienate you from him?

>>937915340
>but rather a romantic or nurturing relationship with her, which, for your reptilian brain, is the best kind of relationship you can have.
That makes perfect sense, I have another question; let's say the addiction has gotten too far and now it's the only thing that can give me an erection. Is it too late? What if I want a normal life with a girl my age? I tried and ended up flaccid

>>937915673
You hit the nail on the head on many things so yep, yes to most things. My dad was never really kicked out but the rest is completely accurate

>>937915775
yeah, you're going to need therapy. If the fetish has to be present for you to get aroused then things have gotten really bad

>>937915340
Stellar analysis.

>>937915878
Is it possible to get rid of it? I heard paraphilias aren't curable, right? I can't understand why I have to rely on this to get hard, it's a living hell

>>937915340
>This is due to the ignorance
I find that attractive in a woman but not as a mother, as I feel the need to protect the innocence rather than take advantage of it. It seems like with mothers, all the initial fun gets skipped over.

>>937915943
First, you're kink is a lot safer than being a kiddy fucker. Two, see a real therapist they would know better

>>937916040
>First, you're kink is a lot safer than being a kiddy fucker
I mean wanting to fuck your mom is not ideal either. And I used to have the fantasy where I was a kid being fucked by a MILF I don't know if that would make me a pedo

>>937916193
do a power move and ask your mother whether she's into it

>>937916193
being horny for an older woman is fairly common for a boy, at least on here.

>>937915815
>My dad was never really kicked out but the rest is completely accurate
Oh it's you, loveless childhood home anon.
Then why ask, you already know if you really put your mind to it.
You desperately crave feeling loved and belonging to a level, that I am guessing physically hurts you through psychosomatic means. Since your mom is/was the dry spring that provides/provided neither of those feelings, that leaves you with no template for finding a woman who loves you.
So your sexual urges are directed at her, because you're missing the part of your childhood that would have emotionally prepared you to be attracted to other women when you turned into an adult and which would have made you able see when said women were also attracted to you.
Part of your mind is still that little child wondering why mommy doesn't love you and that fucks with you as hard as it does, because small children instinctively equate not being loved by their parents with imminent death.
All I can say to this is, if coming out of her didn't make her love and dote on you, trying to back inside of her will likely fail to make her express those same emotions, since she apparently doesn't have the capacity for it.
That is a huge shame and you deserve better from your mom, but it is still all going to be on you to find the help needed to fix it, because something likely broke her to the point of being unable to give you what you need.
Go find that scared kid inside of you and offer him the love your parents couldn't.

>>937916441
>Go find that scared kid inside of you and offer him the love your parents couldn't.
I'm trying Anon but I'm so broken. I met girls that apparently had feelings for me and I just couldn't believe them. Each time I try to get close to a woman I just can't believe they like me. I also can't have sex since I'm just not aroused enough. I don't know what to do, I'm so utterly broken

I only know I can't go back to porn, the guilt will kill me if I keep going but I also don't know how to move forward as I don't see a way out, is if even possible to recover?

>>937916583
You don't get unbroken by just chasing women anon. You need to do the internal work to sort through your emotional baggage and deal with the shit in there and then when you've done that, you can go look for a woman to love.

>>937916657
true, a relationship will not fix you.

>>937913571 (OP)

Was young and developed violent attraction to sexy Mom and later 'older women' 20's/30's yoa in general.

Now old 'silver/white fox' and gals her age are very, very young to me and happy to do Mom role play.

Trust me OP, this will all work out.

>>937916722
Heck if you get into relationships without getting your emotional ducks in a row, you're a lot more likely to get even further broken.

>>937916657
That's a wise approach but how can I heal? You mean spiritually?

>>937913571 (OP)
Toxic relation during childhood, absent mother, emotionally unavailable, etc. The proper barrier against incest was never established. That's why when it happens IRL it's always poor trashy families.

>>937916834
add to that there are a lot of people willing to take advantage of fragile people. It's mostly men, but there are women that will do that too

>>937916903
>toxicity
I have all of that and haven’t felt any sexual attraction to my mother at all, so it really comes down to the individual. But I have always had a genuine respect for my mother, so maybe that's what makes it different.

>>937917020
Are you saying you respect your bad mother?

>>937916837
>That's a wise approach but how can I heal? You mean spiritually?
Sure spiritually would also be an area to focus on, but I was mainly referring to healing psychologically.
That would entail you getting into therapy and I would recommend that you find an older male therapist who does cognitive behavioral therapy.
You need to be at peace with yourself, know your worth and what you stand for, in order to recognize and find the woman that would appreciate you and be a loving romantic partner for you.
>>937916947
>add to that there are a lot of people willing to take advantage of fragile people. It's mostly men, but there are women that will do that too
Studies I've read, combined with personal experience and what I've witnessed male friends of mine go through, makes me disagree with your assessment of it being mostly men who are willing to take advantage of fragile people, but otherwise I agree with you.
I'd say that fragile men and women are well nigh equally at risk of being taken advantage of by both men and women, they only differ in which ways they are taken advantage of.

>>937917184
>You need to be at peace with yourself, know your worth and what you stand for, in order to recognize and find the woman that would appreciate you and be a loving romantic partner for you.
Thank you Anon, that actually gave me hope. Out of curiosity, do you believe in God?

>>937917066
I respected certain aspects of her, it wasn’t complete disrespect, if that makes sense. She actually probably did really well under the circumstances, though I just can’t fully grasp it.

>>937917358
>Out of curiosity, do you believe in God?
I'm very spiritual and have been able to perceive and feel spirits since I was little, in many shapes and forms ranging from scary to beautiful. But I've never met anything that made me think that any of the gods that humanity worships are actually there and influencing us.
I'm open to the idea of a god or several gods and goddesses, but I don't have a firm belief in any defined religion that I have come across.

>>937917553
Thank you for your response Anon. I will focus on healing spiritually and psychologically, I hope I can heal enough to recover my ability to have an erection, but even if I end up impotent my whole life I did this to myself with this momcest addiction so I only have myself to blame

>>937917661
Fix your brain and then your dick will likely be much more willing to work for you.

>>937917728
I hope so, even if it doesn't work maybe I can manage to deal with the situation better

>>937915815
It's me again, the one with the long paragraph. I'm going to split my comment into 2 parts as it's too long.

This time I'll focus on more practical topics since that's what concerns you the most.

The first thing you have to keep in mind is that you already had that drive inside you. It's like epigenetics; you don't know you have it inside until you experience it. So, abandon all efforts to eliminate the drive. Now, you can control it. It's never too late, but it requires redirecting the drive.

As I said in my previous comment, the fantasy of a mother is one of the most powerful, as it directly taps into your reptilian brain. However, there is another drive that is just as strong, if not stronger: the need to breed, that is, the real reproductive drive, the biological desire to fertilize. This is actually your ultimate goal in this life and why you do things in life (that and survival).

You can achieve this by gradually transforming one fetish into another.

As strange and crazy as it may seem, it starts by imagining (or watching porn) that involves impregnating your own mother, and then, little by little, your brain begins to shift in the direction of this other fetish. You may unwittingly start watching porn of younger women, or women with a fertile body ratio, or even a fetish for pregnant women, and other associated characteristics, such as visualizing in your mind scenes linked to breeding, the idea of impregnating a female, large lactating breasts, sex during pregnancy, among others.

>>937918416
Part 2
On the other hand, the practical problem of erection is more or less simple to solve: avoid any type of sexual gratification for an extended period of time, and your brain will begin to "starve," and just like with food, any food will be attractive to your brain due to the lack of it.

The real problem is finding a "romantic" and emotional connection with your own mother, since the need for reproduction rarely involves anything more than just physical sex. Furthermore, this connection implies a meta-creation of your brain, a fetish more advanced than just the practice of taboo sex or the risk of the forbidden. I don't think this problem can be completely solved. The solution is to find women who bear some resemblance to your own mother in some way, even a minimal detail or even based on the fantasies created during these years of fetish, you've surely been creating about your mother, both physically and emotionally. Although, as a man, your tendency will always be to find physical similarities. Maybe recreate situations that you have imagined with your real mother ("stuck in the washing machine", "your father has gone on a business trip", etc.) or contexts that you have created, but with a woman who, as I say, reminds you of her.

Perhaps this will feed your brain enough, and you'll explore another type of sexuality

>>937918416
>It's me again, the one with the long paragraph.
So this anon >>937915340?

>>937915340
Im almost tempted to save this because its so accurate.

>>937918528
Yes, I made a mistake when selecting a comment and clicked on another comment instead of mine to reply. By the way, I can't attach images. Does anyone have any idea why?

>>937918699
>Yes, I made a mistake when selecting a comment and clicked on another comment instead of mine to reply.
That is why I asked the followup question.
>By the way, I can't attach images. Does anyone have any idea why?
What file formats are they in and how large are they?

>>937918756
If you have any further questions, I can answer to the best of my ability.

I wanted to add a photo of the Venus of Willendorf, JPG, 55kb.

>>937918911
I'm not op, but have a venus

>>937913571 (OP)
Hot moms mostly

>>937915340
Damn 10/10 this

Women cannot comprehend how lonely it is for men, even good looking men rarely get complimented or treated as anything more than a commodity

If you compliment a guy it will literally make his week

>>937916193
It’s not a big deal my mom wants to fuck me but she’s legit too ugly so I always turn her down.

>tfw you have your mom in the friendzone

>>937915943
Me again, I'm new here and it takes me a while to reply, and I don't know how this site works very well. Some comments caught my attention:

Is it possible to get rid of it? I heard paraphilias aren't curable, right? I can't understand why I have to rely on this to get hard, it's a living hell.

First of all, as I mentioned before, paraphilias are within you; you simply discover them as you live and observe different things (music, books, the internet, social life), so you can't eliminate them, and I don't recommend you try.

Society imposes norms and restrictions (moral, legal, etc.) on paraphilias that they believe could be detrimental to the advancement of society. Often, we intuitively harbor this inner disgust toward certain things that later become laws or universal immoralities observed in almost every country.

Incest would be detrimental to the future of the species, since, although familiarity is attractive and guarantees security and survival, it also produces all kinds of genetic problems, eliminating the diversity that enhances and strengthens us.

As I said in previous comments, if you believe that this paraphilia, or any other, is a living hell, the solution for you is to redirect your philias toward others equally powerful within you, but normative, culturally, and legally accepted. Deep down, you'll always want to taste the honey, but your brain will settle for equally strong alternatives.

>>937915960
Another comment that caught my attention:

I find that attractive in a woman, but not as a mother, as I feel the need to protect innocence rather than take advantage of it. It seems like with mothers, all the initial fun gets skipped over.

Secondly, this comment relates to my previous comment in a slightly strange way. Your sexual desire to protect innocence and ignorance is actually your desire to protect society.

Current reproductive freedom causes women to have too much experience for their own good, and they follow their more or less hypergamous nature (this topic has been misinterpreted many times today and is not as radical as I often read on the internet, in addition to often overlooking the materialistic nature of man, which also entails problems). This hypergamy leads to the destruction of the human being as such, since if the tendency is to reproduce with few men, incest would be much more common in the future, and this leads to malformations and a lack of genetic diversity.

Human beings must have realized this at some point in history, or those tribes with radical hypergamous models simply did not prosper. Thus, society creates moral and legal norms (in the past) based on restricting this sexual freedom of women because, ancestrally, we all know where it leads.

I digress. What I mean is that your desire for innocence, which is really a desire for women's lack of experience, or their lack of understanding of the world around them or of human nature, stems from your hatred or detachment from modern society. In some ways, you seek stability not only for yourself, but also for society as a whole, something you perceive we lack today. Note that men who only care about themselves, who don't care about what happens in society, also don't care about body counts or anything for that matter.