>>938168222>the one that told everyone I abused her is hard to not hate. it's a complicated mess of emotions. I lost basically all my friendssimilar thing happened with my ex wife
she apparently decided she had gotten married too young, hadn't gotten to take enough random dick, didn't like living with a budget, and spent a few months alienating our mutual friends from me
i don't know what she told them, but it must have been bad, because they all went no contact with me
it hurt particularly with one woman we were really close to who used to come stay with us and was close to our kid, who even referred to her as aunt
since the divorce, she's had a string of failed relationships and a ton of casual sex, and now she's in her 40s, fat, and probably too broken to have a strong pair bond with a good partner
she idolized a friend of hers who was a stronk independent womyn who didn't need no man, who ended up getting accidentally killed by a methhead loser during a hookup gone wrong
i do wonder whether any of our former mutual friends came to the realization that they'd been hoodwinked by a bunch of bullshit stories from her about how i was an abusive monster
i did hate her at one point, but there's no point in it today
i don't hate the college girlfriend i broke up with, i just miss her; she won't have anything to do with me and i suspect she has told our mutual friends not to tell me anything about her life, so i don't even know how she's doing
i hope she's happy, though
i don't even hate the BPD ex gf who made my life a misery for 6 months until i grey rocked her into fucking off
i've just had to come to terms with the fact that i've made a lot of mistakes, i'm a broken person, many people are broken, and broken people do stupid, hurtful things
whatever hate i used to have has been replaced by sadness, i think