Thread 938265677

What is it like to have a father? What did i miss out on?

>>938265677 (OP)
not that much IMO. MY dad was emotionally distant and pretty much gave me imposter syndrome. And he taught me that the best thing to do is to demand as little of other people as possible.

That and don't be a little bitch

>>938265677 (OP)
>What is it like to have a father?
Instructive, safe, loving, challenging, cheesy, constructive and cooperative.
>What did i miss out on?
Being able to regulate your emotions, knowing when anger and physical force is merited and what level of either is a proportional response to what another person has done to you.
The knowledge that yapping like a chihuahua in someones face while calling them a coward, is a feminine display of aggression which is more likely to make you look like a little bitch than it is to make you appear intimidating.
You also like missed out on the sense of brotherhood and camaraderie that men with fathers can form with each other.

>>938265803
Where was his father in his childhood anon?

>>938265952
oh my dad was always around, but I think he had issues. I want to say unresolved PTSD, but that could just be from being in the Army.

My dad pretty much taught me by example and that was to be stoic and self reliant

>>938265939
Oh. That explains my gigantic anger issues.

>>938266033
>oh my dad was always around, but I think he had issues.
I was asking where your fathers father was at when your dad was a child.
>I want to say unresolved PTSD, but that could just be from being in the Army.
Well those two do tend to be connected often.
>My dad pretty much taught me by example and that was to be stoic and self reliant
That is not the worst thing to be taught, although it can be kinda lonely to live by.

>>938265677 (OP)
Guess what /b/ isn't?
A father.
Move along faggot.

>>938266109
Yeah i see /b/ as more of an older brother with bpd.

>>938266092
The good news it that you recognize that it is an issue and that you can fix it with perseverance in the practice of regulating your emotions.

>>938266136
By the looks of it you see /b/ too often.

>>938266141
How would i even begin practicing regulating my emotions?

>>938266170
No :(

>>938266275
You're the person at the party that refuses to leave. In real life you'd just be thrown out, but on the internet you can't be thrown out physically so you just sit there and be annoying despite no one wanting you there

>>938266232
You feeling mad, sit down and feel it thoroughly while not reacting, really analyze the anger and what caused it, then once you know thoroughly, practice on turning it off.
Essentially if your emotions are too strong for you to form a coherent sentence, sit down and practice on forming a coherent sentence while feeling that strongly.
Shits hard by the way, especially if you weren't guided into it while you were a small child, but if you want your life to treat you better, you need to practice on that regulation.
Like if you are angry go "Great, you're angry, that's valid, now what are you calmly going to do about it" in your mind.
You likely also need to find your boundaries, because if you have the experience of suddenly being super mad on a regular basis, you've likely let things slide that you shouldn't have let slide.
Don't allow people to step on you and then you won't suddenly explode from having been stepped on so much.

>>938266431
Oh shit i forgot i made the thread and left. Thank you, pretty helpful reply.

>>938267503
No worries, I'm just happy you got to see it.
I also wanted to add that learning how to regulate your emotions isn't complicated, toddlers do it when their fathers coach them towards it, it's just hard because emotions can be so visceral.

>>938265677 (OP)
Father's are important. At least for me it was because I'm 26 now and I'm pissed as fuck everyday I have no family name. I have no empire to maintain. Haven't seen my dad in nearly 10 years. It's really unfortunate not having a dad.. All I wanted was a dad. Now I have to live everyday in misery

>>938267813
>Haven't seen my dad in nearly 10 years.
What circumstances caused that?

>>938265677 (OP)
I'm 37 and my dad has barely spent any time with me. I even called him and said he can talk to me any time, he just said I sound stupid. This makes me feel worthless. And why would a woman like me if my own father doesn't like me?

>>938269017
Did you ask him how you were sounding stupid to him and what he thinks you should do and say instead?

>>938267813
i don't know what it's like

>>938265677 (OP)
What's with the picture? Looking like you have way more problems than you thought you did. I'm assuming you're the one with the ears.

>>938272190
They both have ears anon.
But you are right, that image does indicate that there is something wrong with op if he believes what it states.

>>938269017
your father is damaged. his opinion has zero effect on the world, his opinion of you is purely based on him, not on you, and it cannot affect any foids you hope to get with. remember that.

>>938272190
>>938272454
I'm the one with black hair :3

>>938274222
gay

>>938274858
It's not gay if the socks stay on :3

>>938265677 (OP)
You missed out on getting a glimpse of your future, and now you have to just blindly walk into all of the mistakes and regret that a Father would have helped you avoid.

>>938275684
It's inherently gay and you know it.

>>938275684
This is true. Straight guys even fuck women with their socks on! HOW? I get overheated too easily.

>>938276422
No lol i'm definitely straight. Why would it be gay

>>938276708
>Why would it be gay
You post two dudes in bed, dressed as cats while you are obviously terrorized by some peoples height. Oh SURE. Sounds straight to me, right? Aren't you the guy that lays in bed at night and worries to death about me being 5'7"?

>>938278536
>Aren't you the guy that lays in bed at night and worries to death about me being 5'7"?
I'm 5'8 but i wish i was 4'11 :(

>>938276708
The only important thing in life is the creation of a family

Without my father I wouldn't never know about Age of empires

>>938280045
I can kind of relate to that, my mom introduced me to Alone In The Dark.

>>938280367
Well my parents including mom introduce me ps1

>>938280501
Neat, the first gaming system my parents gave me was a commodore 64 with a cassette tape attachment. That thing taught me a type of patience that no loading screen in any game and on any platform could ever get near to needing. Getting a game to boot up on that thing could sometimes take an hour and a half to achieve, which included winding a cassette tape with a pencil to a very specific point, putting it in the machine and waiting for approximately 30 minutes.
I still loved playing games on that thing though, it was great.