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>> How do you actually decide who tops or bottoms?
>> For those who only top/bottom, do you stay that way your entire life?
Don't worry too much about topping and bottoming. Really. Do what feels good, and don't get caught up in that kind of thing. If you want to top, top. If you want to bottom, bottom. If you want to do niether and just roll around and frot, do that. If you like one thing, but get a mood to try the other, do that.
>> Who goes first if you do both? You play rock paper scissors?
Again, just do what comes naturally and don't worry about it too much. The one who takes a role first should be the one who wants to fill that role more.
>> I know we need to use lube and a douche... but any other practical tips?
>> It's both our first time so is there any specific advice for that?
For lube, make sure you get it in there, you're using more than just the entrance of your anus. Use application of it to stretch and warm up the ass of whoever is going first.
For cleaning, get a proper enema kit, don't diy something until you know what you're doing. Cleaning is important unless both of you have zero problem with shit happening.
Shit may happen either way, be prepared for it.
Don't rush, take time doing it and setting it up. Find comfortable positions, practice angles, practice what feels good.
You almost assuredly won't both cum together like in your pornography. One of you is gonna probably finish out of sync, and need to help the other finish. This does not mean something has gone wrong or either of you have failed, sex is an open ended experience that ends when both parties are happy, not when you cum together and fade to black.
>> Are the condoms even necessary
Strictly speaking no. But condoms are very convenient for lubrication, and make it easier to do, set up, and clean, especially if you're new. They're not necessary, but they are convenient and nice even if you're 100% confident you don't have to worry about either pregnancy (lmao) or STIs
