Thread 941132062

>there's this girl
>friend for 2 years
>been sleeping like in the same bed for almost 1 month for various reasons
>I'm obviously attracted to her and made these flirty jokes
>can't seem to break that invisible barrier between us
It's like not even a single touch, even tho we would sleep way fucking better, if we would be able to at least cuddle or spoon.
We both know if something happens, this can't be emotionally involving AT ALL because we both have projects. Places to visit, common friends, and various goals, and we can't stick together for so long.
But like none of us makes a move and I feel like we're both smart enough to just enjoy something casual.
This weekend I'm visiting a bitch in Spain I met while on a trip to Vienna i don't even know if i break it to her, bc this grey area.

So what do I do?

>>941132062 (OP)
She's not sexually attracted to you.
If she was, you two would have already fucked.
Move on.

>>941132149
I'm not sure.
Because she plays into it pretty significantly (flirt).
Allusions, jokes, touches. This isn't standard "friendship" behavior but I won't really be sure until someone has the balls to make a move.

>>941132277
>Allusions, jokes, touches. This isn't standard "friendship" behavior but I won't really be sure until someone has the balls to make a move.
Those are all mechanisms trying to get your attention and affection which is manipulative but that's the way some people are. Men and women. Your best bet is to cut ties now. If you insist on continuing, I'd straight up ask her if she can see being with you.

Otherwise you're just pissing into the wind.

Watch out, I heard stories of people just living like that as flat mates without anything extra going on. Maybe this is one of those cases.

>>941133069
You're right. Partially, at least. I strongly feel like we're 2 smart people who trust each other, are looking for the same casual thing especially in this context but have had no opportunity to cross that line.

If I'm gonna cut ties you're right, I might as well make a move to figure it all out but we have too many common interests in each other which is why I've been afraid to check.

>>941133663
You've been starved of affection, so you're trying to hang on to the bit of affection you have.

I think that if you'll do anything you'll ruin the friendship you have. What you could do is just honestly and openly talk about it. You could ask if she thinks you're just friends. This is respectful and can't explode in your face.

>>941133755
You might dig a deep too much into this.
She's just hot as fuck physically and we're both missing out on good sex with each other.
And we've both withdrawn from sexual market willfully, because yeah we've both been drowned into dramatic and all-consuming romances in our past.

Long term is unattainable, but short term...

>>941133840
Yeah but we've talked about this as well.
She made it clear she's open to casual sex if it "fits the vibe."
But, from my standpoint the vibe would have to shift completely in most our time together to achieve that...

>>941133884
If she thought that, she would have already fucked you.
You're living in a dream world my guy.

>>941133925
Then idk what your problem is. If she's dtf then what are you waiting for?

>>941132277
Cute cope

OP is in the friendzone

Sweet words might just earn you my attention.
...

>>941134054
You might be right but I believe her.
Because she has it all, she's the 1%.
Maybe I'm naive.

>>941132062 (OP)
Does she pay rent? How financially beneficial is your current friendship to her? How much of your pay check do you end up giving to her?

>>941135745
Is her name Izzy

>>941135829
0.
I host her at my parent's home like maybe 5 days/week
She hosts me at her mom's home like 5 days/week

No money is involved. only convenience

>>941135829
>>941136722
I don't even pay money to eat at her place.
Like her mom's rarely there so we eat for free
Same at my place