Thread 941440582

>Awkward shy nerd in high school
>5'6 manlet
>Still get girls because cute face
>Drugs and depression and games, 20's disappear, best and only friend an hero
>3x college dropout
>28
>self maximize
>gym 6 days/week, quit drugs and cigs, reading a lot, learning guitar
>no friends, but getting lots of tinder pussy
>holding a good job for almost 2 years
>quit job during bipolar episode
>living in mom's basement surviving off savings
>make thick neet autist my gf
>quit gym and just goon/game/anime all day
>33
>cheat on gf with tinder hypersexual 41 yr old
>huge mistake
>move her in when she gets evicted, she doesnt work anymore
>keep talking to ex-gf, she finds out, now they both hate me
>get kicked out of mom's for fighting all the time
>spend all my money on airbnb and renting a house we cant afford, trying to get her to love me again because the sex is too good
>doing doordash but not enough to pay bills
>still fighting every day
>$40k in debt, credit cards maxed, havent paid rent in a year
>she kicks me out and I live in my car for a year living on food stamps and only showering when she invites me over for sex a couple times a month
>still fighting, sex stops, she starts seeing someone else
>38
>car breaks down

>successful brother helps get me a beater car to live in and start doordash again
>quit porn, weed, and games
>start therapy and meds
>begging girl to be with me again, give her my phone, she deletes all other girls and social media
>girl still hates me, but she keeps the phone or she won't talk to me at all
>bankruptcy to help keep her in the house
>2nd car breaks down in front of some random house
>being sneaky, still sleeping in it
>homeless, walking everywhere trying to blend in
>can't find local job
>food stamps stop coming
>donate plasma and stand in front of home depot with a sign begging for work to make a couple hundred bucks to survive
>spend all day every day at the library doomscrolling and on youtube and trying to talk to girl
>girl still has phone, reapply for food stamps online
>no response
>$40 left, no phone, no friends, no car, no work, girl still hates me, no sex for 6 months
>can't talk to anyone discord, tinder, facebook, everything requires phone verification
>seeing 20 yr old virgins on 4chan complaining about life
>thinking about going to sleep on the train tracks one of these nights

I doubt anyone here has any useful advice, but Idk what else to do with myself. Maybe I can save someone with my story.
Just remember, like Scarface said: Money > Power > Women. Not the other way around.

>>941440582 (OP)

LOL TOO BAD

WAAAAHHHHHHHH

>>941440582 (OP)
advice: GO VOLUNTEER TO HELP PEOPLE

stop focusing on yourself
and go VOLUNTEER
asking for nothing in return

and the universe will return the favor

AND IM NOT JOKING

go volunteer at a no kill animal shelter

go to a CHURCH
(I'm an atheist who can't stand Christians, but that's not important. what's important is YOU OFFERING TO HELP for free)

The way you treat the world is the way the world will treat you

keep feeling sorry for yourself and the universe will treat you like a punching bag

stop focusing on your own little problems
things could be much much much much much worse, I promise

You could be sitting in a prison cell right now, very easily... without even committing a crime, necessarily

OR STARTING TO DEATH IN THE MIDDLE OF A SHITHOLE THIRD WORLD NATION, a swollen stomach from the starvation with flies crawling in your mouth

YOURE ACTUALLY BLESSED

ACT LIKE IT

ACT GRATEFUL AND HAPPY
AND GO OFFER TO HELP PEOPLE

offer to help a little old man rake his front yard FOR FREE

OFFER HELP FOR FREE

and suddenly those people will turn around and help you, as well

The entire universe will start treating you differently

THAT'S THE BEST ADVICE YOU'LL EVER GET

>>941441079
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not starting

>>941440582 (OP)

You could have been born without arms

You could have been born with cerebral palsy

You could have been born a nigger in a mud pit in Ethiopia

You're actually lucky as fuck

Do you know how many people would gladly trade places with you?

HAPPINESS IS A BEHAVIOR

If you start behaving optimistic and happy, offering to help people, asking nothing in return...

while you are helping them, they will ask you to tell them about yourself

And that's when you can share the situation you're in

Tell them you decided instead of focusing on your own problems you thought this would be a good time to volunteer to help other people

trust me....

they will help you

And they'll give you a lot more than you would have asked for

but DO NOT initiate any conversations that by starting off with your problems

That's the total wrong energy

FOCUS ON HELPING THEM
they will definitely find out about your situation

they'll actually be very impressed
that you're not sitting around feeling sorry for yourself

THE WAY YOU PRESENT YOURSELF
IS THE WAY THE UNIVERSE WILL TREAT YOU

best fucking advice you'll ever get regarding this topic

I've done it myself
It works

I wouldn't have given you the advice if I didn't know for a fact that it works

>>941440582 (OP)
oh yeah I forgot...

NEVER CONTACT ANY OF THOSE GIRLS AGAIN

FORGET YOUR PHONE

NONE OF THAT MATTERS ANYMORE

FORGET THE CAR

LET GO OF EVERYTHING

I would start by going to a church
and asking them if there's any help you could give them

moving boxes or helping clean up

Tell them you just want to help
And you don't want anything in return

(And do not have any expectations in the back of your mind)

Fake and gay

>>941440973
I had this idea. A few churches around but they always seem to have nobody there. It's weird like they way they are portrayed in the movies where you can just show up and pray and some priest will just be hanging out asking what's troubling you is just not real life. I always thought they were just scams for real estate and tax write offs.

Not even really feeling sorry for myself. I realize I am a retard who did this to myself. Still think I would do most jobs better than most people, still think I could get girls... but that stigma of being seen as a homeless bum is some strong shit. No wonder most people get stuck that way.

>The way you see people is the way you treat them, and the way you treat them is what they become. -Goethe

>>941441646
No u

>>941440582 (OP)
First, stop talking to the girl. And you're not getting the phone back.

You still talk to her because you're lonely and desperate for normalcy. But talking to her hasn't done anything to change that you're lonely and desperate. You fight all the time. You're homeless and she's not taking you in (maybe for good reason, maybe not). She should decline your help, but she doesn't. She doesn't owe you for anything you've done to help her. That was your choice. But it's not a reciprocal relationship.

You might think you are, but you're not allowing yourself a real opportunity to get over it. You need to focus on anything and everything else.

Get a cheap phone however you can. Just something that works. Get a minimal data plan and rely on wifi when you can. Only use it for YouTube and shit when on wifi. Even then, limit usage or avoid it entirely. It's a distraction.

Normally I understand anyone needing just a little reprieve from life with distractions. You can't afford it.

1. Stop talking to girl.
2. Get a cheap phone.
3. Call your Mom and tell her you love her.
4. Get a cheap gym membership (maybe a YMCA or something). Shower and work out. Exercise is a great distraction that serves a purpose.
5. Get some decent clothes. Anything. Maybe Mom will help.
6. Get a job, nearby if possible. You spend time at the library. The library is a resource , not just a refuge the way you've been using it. Apply to jobs. Go door-to-door applying. Whatever it is, something is better than nothing. And it's easier to get better jobs when you're already employed.
7. No drugs or alcohol. You're poor and prone to putting shit off.
8. Get a beater car.
9. Etc etc etc

But there really is no step-by-step. Shit happens, plans change. But the one thing you can plan on every day is doing something. Do something. All day, every day. Keep moving.

You know you keep repeating the same things and shit just gets worse. You know it. So stop.

That is a rough one. No address, phone, or working car can really screw you.
Talk to local churches and shelters about your situation.
There are many online videos of people trying to go from homeless to success / rich / owning a home. Give them a look.
Look into daily labor, food banks, community aid, local charities, social services, health an human services, and homeless / poverty programs.
211.org

See if you can get a free phone. https://www.truconnect.com/plans
Get an email if you lack one. https://mail.proton.me/
Get a temporary email if you need it to make a real email. https://www.sharklasers.com/ grr.la

I suggest looking into online banking. sofi.com
Money in your hand is money decreasing in value. Consider practicing investing money. Power, attention, freedom are the traits to look for. The more a company has or gives the more likely they will bring a profit. Old companies for stability. New companies for potential great wins or losses. Look into what Vanguard and Blackrock both invest heavily in is my advice.
I don't like chatgpt but it can be good for many questions. Beware of it lying.

Survey platforms for money.
Prolific
Qmee
Swagbucks
Earn money by sharing your internet connection.
Honeygain
Pawns App
If you get a working car consider the following.
Rideshare Driving (Uber, Lyft)
Food Delivery (DoorDash, Uber Eats, Grubhub, Instacart)
Package Delivery (Amazon Flex, UPS, FedEx)
Local Deliveries (Roadie, Postmates)
Car Advertising (Carvertise, Wrapify)

>>941444323
Not OP. I get where you're coming from, but anon is desperate. Homeless/poor people have immediate needs for resources, stability, and security. Investing for long-term means shit when you need the basics to get through the next week. Maslow's Heiracrchy of Needs.

Online banking is a good idea though. OP, your credit is surely fucked. Some banks have hybrid CC/debit cards. They're basically secured CCs that pull from your bank account. Not a huge boost, but if you're going to spend the money anyway you might as well help your FICO.

>>941444323
Public libraries will likely let you use their phone if you tell them you are looking for a job.
There are online programs that let you use the computer as a phone. They are called VoIP Phone services. Most are sadly blocked by a google account which needs a phone number. Perhaps a stranger will help if you ask.

Look into workforce programs and employment programs. Look into housing assistance. Look into rapid rehousing.

>>941442326
back

sorry but I was helping my wife clean the kitchen up
>seen as homeless
lol I was written up in a newspaper article as a "wacko crazy homeless guy"

we were AND weren't homeless at the time. we had paid a month's rent deposit and the first month's rent on an apartment, our landlord being a deputy from the local sheriff's department

But after she got the money, the deputy had workers come in and removed the refrigerator and stove and start ripping the kitchen floor out

And we didn't have a refrigerator or a stove and the kitchen floor was gone straight down through to the crawl space, and she wouldn't listen to us, wouldn't give us the money back, and told us to sue her. she said it was a civil matter.

there's no way we could stay there, so we really had no choice but to get the fuck out of there

we chose to rough it out for a month until we had money to start over again somewhere else, and she was right, it turns out it was a civil matter, because we spoke to some of her colleagues at the sheriff's department thinking they would help us.... they didn't

anyway, I was arrested during that interval, and listed as homeless, and it's still online. lol so I'll always have people accusing me of being a 'druggie homeless bum', even though she and I quit doing hard drugs a year prior

so....

here's the secret: FUCK WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

and RE: CHURCHES yes these days the world has changed but if you persevere, you'll find them there (I hate religious people, but THEY WILL DO GOOD DEEDS because they think there's a god watching

but not if you ASK them for help... these days there's too many bullshit artists

so approach it differently... the way I recommended
that's exactly how to get help: let it be THEIR IDEA™

you CAN and WILL conquer this

you're smart
but more importantly
you know YOU ALLOWED THIS TO HAPPEN

most people live there entire lives never accepting responsibility for the fact that WE ALL CREATE OUR OWN PROBLEMS FOR OURSELVES

>>941442326

also.... I normally don't say this in here, but >>941444286 is also absolutely correct

mix his advice with mine (stop focusing on you and offer to help others)

his advice was great

>>941444596
I know he is in bad shape but its a direction he needs to go in if he wants a good life. Better sooner than later.

phones are cheap as fuck

big deal

>>941440582 (OP)
there's one thing I know for sure:

no matter what happens
you can handle it
you WILL overcome this
only to find yourself in the next quandary
such is life
it never ends
and it never stops changing

Buses may offer free rides to and from job interviews. Job employment and homeless programs may offer free bus and laundry tokens or tickets as well as toiletries if they are asked.

>>941442326
>The way you see people is the way you treat them, and the way you treat them is what they become. -Goethe

The way you perceive yourself is the way the world will treat you - ME™

I wasn't suggesting that you're feeling sorry for yourself, I'm suggesting the way you PERCEIVE YOURSELF should be different

percieve yourself as being optimistic and stoic, and not looking down your nose at yourself

when people feel glum
THAT'S EXACTLY HOW THE UNIVERSE WILL START TREATING YOU IN SHORT ORDER

conversely... the reverse isomer is equally as efficacious

>>941444954
Homeless people freeze to death every winter. Don't give false hope. You would have done better by telling him to become a youtuber that does political grifting like Tim Pool.

This is a slightly different topic, but it still applies, you'll still understand what I'm trying to convey...

no, I'm not talking about you
(Not necessarily)
because your situation isn't about being depressed, but just try to read between the lines...

DEPRESSION IS A BEHAVIOR
everybody gets depressed
Just watch the news
If it's not depressing to you, you're a sociopath

however, humans are funny creatures because when we feel down in the dumps, we have a inclination to begin BEHAVING DEPRESSED

all know the way depressed people behave, and soon enough, we will adopt that behavior.. It reinforces our inner self-perceptions, and creates a snowball effect very quickly

however..... fortunately enough
HAPPINESS IS ALSO A BEHAVIOR

no matter how depressed a person might get, If they simply begin BEHAVING LIKE A HAPPY PERSON, suddenly everybody starts treating them better...

It's pretty much instantaneous, and it's palpable.. when we see optimistic happy people, we treat them accordingly

And when we see people who are down in the dumps, we might offer insincere sympathy, but that is very short-lived

That's obligatory

people don't want to hang out with Captain bring down, so that sympathy only lasts for a short fleeting moment

PERCEIVE YOURSELF AS BEING OKAY
And the universe will perceive you as being okay

And it will increase your odds of success

people will be impressed by your outlook, especially after they dig a little deeper and learn the situation you're in

let them be the ones to find out
Don't offer it to them

>>941445180
DO NOT EVER FUCKING INTERRUPT ME AGAIN

Do you understand me?
I'm going to pretend it didn't happen this time

But don't let that happen again

>>941445180
I just got done explaining that my wife and I temporarily experienced homelessness, even though we had just paid first and last month's rent at an apartment, and our landlord was a fucking sheriff's deputy (Who turned out to be quite the scam artist)

I'm pretty sure he won't be freezing to death this month

brisk? Yes... frostbite? unlikely

HE'S GOING TO BE FINE

He actually got some really fucking good advice in here tonight

and everybody did their very best giving him honest brutal sincere heartfelt advice

which is exactly what he was looking for

He's going to be fine

FORGET THE WOMEN
FORGET THE PHONE
FORGET ALL OF THE PREVIOUS ATTACHMENTS

and face the world with a new SELF PERSPECTIVE

(basically, be the complete opposite of the average person in his situation)

Your advice was excellent, as well!!

I'm not even OP, I would like to thank everyone in here for actually giving him sincere answers, instead of treating it like a joke

(admittedly, before giving him the real advice I started off with my classic TOO FUCKING BAD WAAAHHHH image board response)

He's going to be fine

He's a lot stronger than he thinks

>>941440582 (OP)

Do you want to hear the weirdest part?

although it sounds a bit counterintuitive..
One day you're going to look back at this
AND LAUGH YOUR ASS OFF

in life's fabric, we quickly forget the satin smooth shimmering segments

and in retrospect.. It's always the ROUGH BUMPY HEMLINES we look back on most fondly

the hard times...
the scary moments

That's The shit that makes me smile

looking back on those hardest times

>>941445180

btw homeless people freeze to death
BECAUSE THEY JUST LAY THERE LIKE A LUMP ON A LOG

He's not going to do that

Get your hole stretched by giant juicy nigger cock

>>941440582 (OP)
have you considered letting Andy Sixx defecate down your throat?

Let the poop in

OK, when I was 16-20, i abused women.

I lied to them, manipulated them, physically assaulted one, and wouldn't take 'no' as an answer when I would force them to do what I wanted sexually.
>women loved me
>women wanted me

I had a love triangle, I had many casual flings and a woman who stood by my side despite my shitty mentality. Because I didn't give a fuck about 'love' or even respect for them. I was a man.

Then I went into a coma after a traumatic brain injury. And then emotion took the forefront of my mind. I started to respect women and try make them feel special. I sought love more than sex and conquest.

I've spent the last 7 years looking at women as equals. And although I have been able to sleep with many since I'm. It ugly or outright autistic, no woman stays around me for too long, since its clear that women don't want to be respected.

Women want to be put in their place as submissive holes and looked at as a non equal.

Women want to be abused