Thread 22869713

can a man in his fourties be a good father?

>>22869713 (OP)
As long as his wife is under 14

>>22869713 (OP)
yes

>>22869713 (OP)
Yes, but probably not for long.

>>22869713 (OP)
He’s probably a better father than a 25 year old.

>>22869713 (OP)
That dude does not look forty. Also yes.

>>22869713 (OP)
Yes, it's normal for men. Stay fit and play with your kid.

>>22869713 (OP)
>that's 40
now compare that to a sam altman 40

>>22869713 (OP)
You can be a great father at any age but curdled seed guarantees retarded and defective children no matter how young you pick the womb.

>>22869717
He's a great dad.

>>22869713 (OP)
Studies suggest peak father performance is 55 - 65

>>22869718
consequences of being a drug addict kek

>>22869714
>As long as his wife is under 14
FPBP
Get them before the psychological abuse of 'dating' takes their soul.

>>22869713 (OP)
yes my dad was 40 and had 3 kids no issues. I think its better than a absent father whose 25 or 30? If he dies when the kids are 40 themselves that isnt bad ether since they get the inheritance right when they become adults themselves and start to live for themselves instead of having to take care of him for too long if he kids at say 18 or something.

Yeah, i mean think of it this way; what difference does it make if you're having your first rn vs some guy whose having his third or fourth at your age? You're financially stable, mature, all that. Not going to lie you that its better earlier than later, but that's life. The only issue is if your wife is older than 35, if shes 30 or younger thats perfect, if shes 31-35 still its fine but you're pushing it, and up to 40 is rough but still able. Anything after 40 with a female is just not going to happen the kid turns out autistic.

white boy summer

>>22869725
this is the realest shit ever said on the subject. women, when left to their own devices, will choose men that ruin them

>>22869724
Shit, what kind of drugs do that? Asking for a friend.

>>22869713 (OP)
Depends on the guy honestly. Men are more individualistic than women

>>22869714
Probably true, the older the man is the younger the woman has to be to balance the ages.

>>22869713 (OP)
No, sperm quality is greatly reduced past 30 just like eggs

>>22869713 (OP)
My father was 41 when I was born, he was a great father but not as energetic as I am with my children, I had the youngest when I was 36.

There is nothing wrong to be a father after 40, but personally I won't do it.

My dad was 45 and my mom 35 when they had me. I'm going to say no.

>>22869720
What a Chad

>>22869713 (OP)
I hope so. Im about to be a father in less than a month and i am 42. I have never been as nervous as i am now, its an emotion and feeling i find hard to describe. And i killed a man.

>>22869734
>My father was 41 when I was born, he was a great father but not as energetic as I am with my children, I had the youngest when I was 36.
My parents had me pretty young, and my dad spent the majority of his free time lounging around, drinking, and sleeping because he worked all kinds of blue collar and manual labor jobs and was absolutely drained. If he'd had me older, but had an established career and decent income to compensate, then I honestly believe he'd have given me and my brother a lot more attention.

>>22869722
>>22869717
>No! Gary, why?!?

>>22869713 (OP)
I'm 43. My kids are ages 7, 5, 3, and 8 months.
What's supposed to be the problem here other than I'll probably die before they're 30?

>>22869713 (OP)
As long as your not beating your family and not an abusie addict or gonna molest your kids youll be fine. No father better than one thatll traumatise you. So bars set pretty low desu
The fact you ask this question you will be alright

>>22869739
You know why.

>>22869721
No, because men and women are different you stupid retard.
Women are born with all of the eggs they will ever have. A woman's eggs were all produced while she herself was still in her mother's womb. A 40 year old women is trying to produce a baby using a 40+ year old egg.
Unlike women, men constantly produce new sperm. A 40 year old man is trying to produce a baby with sperm that are no more than a few months old, which is also true for an 18 year old man.
Pretty much every study that shows a significant correlation between a father's age and birth defects or other issues is flawed because it fails to account for two crucial issues:
1. Older men who have kids are usually doing so with older women. A 40 year old man is more likely to produce kids with birth defects because he is probably producing those kids with his 40 year old wife. If you only look at older men who have kids with younger women in their early 20s, it becomes statistically non-existent.
2. The amount of birth defects and pregnancy issues in women eventually hits a limit due to decreasing fertility and menopause. At some point, older men are more likely to produce retarded kids, because the women their age can't produce any kids at all.

>>22869713 (OP)
I fathered 4 children after 40. Life is good.

>>22869720
I can't really say anout his personal life, but he does provide.

>>22869713 (OP)
I didn’t think so until I became a father myself. Working long hours. It didn’t matter I was young enough to run marathons and wrestle and box. I just had time or money to do that shit anymore and I might as well have been 50. It all becomes about money. Money granting you freedom. I was young but I was a shit Dad because I was poor.

>>22869713 (OP)
What's with the recent dick of "it's over at 30 just give up and kill yourself" type shit? Perfectly fair to rag on retarded women that want 30 to be the new 20s and then seething men don't want them as much.

But for men? Why the meme of "dystopian dating after 30, you've had your time just give up if it hasn't happened yet" type shit?

>>22869747
poisoning the well so they expand their own personal harem most likely

I've accepted the fact that fatherhood wont come to me for probably at least a decade

>>22869713 (OP)
sure, so long as his kids are in their teens

>>22869713 (OP)
Sure but if it's a white female just make sure you have enough saved for the divorce rape when, not if, it happens. Be prepared. You know how shallow and vapid they tend to be.

>>22869713 (OP)

>47yr old new dad here

I didn’t want to wait this long but at least I have financial stability and own a nice home with my wife (40). Our kid is 3 weeks old and while it’s a beating change of life, it’s what we wanted for some time and the boy is healthy and beautiful

>>22869713 (OP)
>can a man in his fourties be a good father?
yes
my brother divorced and got another woman at 50
he had a kid with her at 51
he's now 62 and doing great with his 11 y.o. daughter
however
he was healthy and athletic all his life
exercised daily, never overweight, etc.

>>22869728
this is a great twist we should pervert the definition of age-gap relationships to be basically orgies for laughs

>>22869713 (OP)
Depends on the woman

>>22869713 (OP)
I became a father at 22. I just welcomed my most recent child just before my 39th birthday. I can sneak in one or two more.

>>22869737

You're golden until 50, just because I think would be cool to live the kid reach 20 or so, but at 16 he will prob have a good foundation with the stuff you'll teach, gl fren enjoy the ride.

>>22869747
>But for men? Why the meme of "dystopian dating after 30, you've had your time just give up if it hasn't happened yet" type shit?

its literally the huge majority of 30+ men realizing their dating options are less attractive and have more baggage

>>22869713 (OP)
are you retarded? id argue 99% of all men who have ever been fathers were fathers during their 40s. what the fuck even is this question

My dad had me in his 40s and he was a great father.

>>22869717
>>22869722
letting another man rape and kill your daughter does not make you a gread dad, makes you a shitty one actually

>>22869760
then why are you here faggot

>>22869728

Based, and poly life for the win. Pro tip, let your wife pick your girlfriend. Women can weed out the crazy women better than most men can.

>>22869713 (OP)
Some men, yes, but probably not OP.

>>22869713 (OP)
Not according to his white wife, no.

>>22869762
To laugh at shitskins.

>>22869713 (OP)

What race is he?

>>22869713 (OP)
Working on knocking my missus up and we would love a kid. She is 41, I am 45. The maths ain't on our side but it is a joyful effort trying.

>>22869713 (OP)
Kids at school will ask why grandpa is picking you up

>>22869713 (OP)
can a man starting in his 40s? yea its possible, all you need to do is live 20 or more so years and leave enough money to get them started properly in life.

>>22869768
Go no fap for 10 days before ovulation day. Shettles method. Boy.

>>22869767
white

>>22869752
Damn man you're going to be like Atom Heart Father.

>>22869752
>having a kid with a 40 year old
Hello Chris Chan baby

My father was 43/44 when I was born if my math is correct. He was able to provide while my mother stayed at home.

I genuinely appreciate everything he did when me and my sister were children because truth be told, I was incredibly fortunate to have the things we had.

>>22869747
>But for men? Why the meme of "dystopian dating after 30, you've had your time just give up if it hasn't happened yet" type shit?
lol This is a site chock full of terminal losers, who hate anyone doing better than they are...which is everyone.

>>22869768
let her take Clomifen

>>22869714
fpbp and mohamed-pilled

>>22869713 (OP)
looks like valkyrae

>>22869713 (OP)
Sure, but treat that kid well. You're gonna be pushing 60 right when they're turning 20. Younger parents have trouble keeping up with their kids, your body and mind will be on a ten year decline already.

>>22869713 (OP)
He can if he's been taking care of himself, in good shape, still has energy and mental acuity. In this case he can be an exceptional father because he's matured and gained wisdom through life experience.
If he's a fat lazy do-nothing with back pain and itchy nuts he's going to be a bad dad.

>>22869743
telomeres tho

>>22869713 (OP)

i'd have a retirement plan in place by then. If she's whoring around me at that age, she wants money. And if she's willing to let that sweet juicy pussy go to waste to entrap me, then I'd just place my estate in trust so that my beneficiaries would be the ones getting the money. I'm not long for this world, I'll not let some whore take my children's inheritance.

>>22869713 (OP)
he looks 50

>>22869713 (OP)
Yeah, he can

40 isn't old enough to where his age will actively limit his abilities to be a father, probably has more life experience than a younger father too. As long as he's a decent person he can do a good job