Well shit, i got asked when i'm gonna get a girlfriend by my grandma of all people for the first time

This is gonna become a recurring thing ain't it

yhou can just cut your family off

When are you going to get a girlfriend

I was married once if I could you have no excuse

probably shouldnt though

>>22899307
i don't think it's like a milestone or achievement to be chased, that's the wrong way of looking at it & defeats teh whole fucking point of a relationship

>>22899307
Not a matter of "can/can't", i straight up don't wanna. If i were to get into a relationship i'd want a partner who'd at the very least accept my views, and that's currently more or less impossible given my views often go against the mainstream

Call it high standards or whatever but i ain't gonna budge

>>22899313
it's something which should take care of itself if you're living properly, whatever that means
you shouldn't need to be in a relationship, but you shouldn't close yourself off to the idea either
also stop thinking about how objectively high/low your standards are, that also defeats hte point
if you meet someone who you get along with & who makes your life better, and they feel the same way, try to honor it
the superficial "views" shit shouldn't get in the way

>>22899303
This is already becoming VERY annoying lmao

>>22899314
>also stop thinking about how objectively high/low your standards are, that also defeats hte point

That's something i say as a sort of irony because i don't think someone being accepting of my views is that high of a standard on paper but it becomes retroactively one given that few actually meet such a simple requirement

>the superficial "views" shit shouldn't get in the way

Not exactly superficial, that's the catch. If it was something like idfk music taste that was different i wouldn't give a fuck, that's minor and can be tolerated without issue. I'm talking straight up goals in life

>>22899324
>I'm talking straight up goals in life
oh i see
>but it becomes retroactively one given that few actually meet such a simple requirement
stop worrying about statistics
people cant contend with that shit anyway, it's just a death cult

horrible way of looking at these things in particular

>>22899334
>stop worrying about statistics
>people cant contend with that shit anyway, it's just a death cult

Alright that's a fair point, you got me there

im trying to htink of other things to say, idk though
as you navigate towards your goals & become a more defined person, the pool of girls who wouldn't want to be with you will be repelled more strongly, and the pool of girls who would will be attracted more strongly
i think people are afraid of being or doing ANYTHING, because it's always gonna put someone off, and that feels like shaving away your already low odds of ever getting a gf, but that shit is retarded
there's nothing wrong with being polarizing in an attraction sense, in fact i think the best relationships tend to come to polarizing people

>>22899344
>i think people are afraid of being or doing ANYTHING, because it's always gonna put someone off
Oh yes i completely agree that's why i just fuckin' do it anyway that shit is peak retardation. My main concern here is that from my experiences in recent years everyone just seems to have the same common opinions, views, goals, etc. so when i show up with different takes it's usually not recieved very well

>>22899351
ah ye
>from my experiences in recent years everyone just seems to have the same common opinions, views, goals, etc. so when i show up with different takes it's usually not recieved very well
it sucks navigating that
i hate how easy it is to make people uncomfortable
i think you can get away with alot if you just "don't take yourself too seriously", are otherwise likeable, and don't bring up those takes out of the blue
idk

>>22899372
>i think you can get away with alot if you just "don't take yourself too seriously", are otherwise likeable, and don't bring up those takes out of the blue

Yeeeaah about that. I tend to be quite hot-blooded regarding some of them. It just makes me mad seeing people do really stupid or even outright insane things sometimes. Things that are considered "good" by them

>>22899382
>It just makes me mad seeing people do really stupid or even outright insane things sometimes. Things that are considered "good" by them
yeah
that's how life is, it seems, or maybe just in some modern contexts
it's draining having to put up with those stupid and insane things, having to tolerate it & avoid starting any shit, but that's why you gotta be selective with the people you spend time around
gotta find the people worth putting up with and hold onto them

the purpose of anger is so that we uphold boundaries, whether physical or psychological, our property or people we care about, etc
when someone in your social circle is talking some insanity, you get angry BECAUSE you care about that person and what they say, and now all of a sudden they're saying insane shit
but you always have to remember, the anger is there so that you may fistfight the demon/insanity inside that person, not the person themself

idk

>>22899291 (OP)
my mum does this too. she’s always asking when I’m gonna get married and have kids of my own, dispite how she spend the first 24 years of my life doing everything she could to make sure I don’t get a girlfriend.
my dad doesn’t seem to care though, or has given up as, since he knows I pretty much only date girls with low self esteem, low IQs and massive tiddies and break up with them the second they start to nag me.

>>22899415
>when someone in your social circle is talking some insanity, you get angry BECAUSE you care about that person and what they say
it could also be because they're spreading the insanity in a place you care about, to people you care about.
doesn't have to mean you care about that person specifically, but it often means that.

>>22899415
>when someone in your social circle is talking some insanity, you get angry BECAUSE you care about that person and what they say, and now all of a sudden they're saying insane shit

Yeah, but sometimes i get sad thinking that so many people suffer out there simply because some retarded idea became popular. It's why i believe critical thinking could unironically do wonders if more people learned it.

In fact this is one of my goals. I'm not narcissistic enough to believe i can change the WHOLE world or anything like that but if i can get at least my people, my group of choice, to not be insane anymore, i'll be happy. And unfortunately it seems like, at least around here, no one else thinks like this

>>22899419
>dispite how she spend the first 24 years of my life doing everything she could to make sure I don’t get a girlfriend.

Holy shit man that sounds awful sorry to hear it. That's some narcissistic stuff right there

>I've been waiting for you to ask me out, grandma.

>>22899440
yeah, and she wonders why my sister doesn’t talk to her and my dad left her.

>>22899496
I'm gonna remember this one