I want to move on but canโ€™t - /bant/ (#23046005) [Archived: 11 hours ago]

Anonymous United States
8/3/2025, 6:15:51 PM No.23046005
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I first met this girl at work
We became good friends over our love of horror movies
She has ADHD and I have Autism so we basically get along great
I found out she had a ex girlfriend and straight up asked her what her sexuality was
She said
>I dont really know what I am I might be asexual but Im not sure I just like who I like
We became close but I didnt know her feelings towards me so when I asked her if she wanted to date she said no panicked and told me Im a great guy but she wont date me or anyone
Then I I fucked up my wording and panicked and said it was just that we hang out a ton and its a little weird and
we then had a call the next day where she told me she felt uncomfortable by my comment despite it being true and I apologized to her which she accepted and told her that I still want to be friends and Im just awkward and nervous at times and she told me she needed some space right now which I accepted
I then fucked up by contacting her for a dumb reason which I later apologized for
I then helped with a event that we planned that I couldnt back out of and despite me spending my entire day helping her and being chill with her friends she still wanted nothing to do with me
Our last talk was back in November where she got mad at me on the phone for not understanding her apparently and not getting it despite me telling her I truly care for her
She later texted me apologizing for being harsh but still wanted nothing from me anymore
This is all despite the past year of spending time together and me doing so much for her
>I contacted her months later and saying it was my fault completely just saying how I wish we ended on better terms and she still wasnt over it and told me to not contact her again despite not having me blocked
Maybe cause she cant believe someone like me actually likes her and cares for her
Maybe cause she has tons of issues and I accept her
What should I do?
I really miss her
I need to accept this and move on
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Anonymous United States
8/3/2025, 6:17:04 PM No.23046006
>>23046005 (OP)
Nigger take this to >>>/b/ or >>>/adv/
Stop shitting up /pol/
Anonymous Poland
8/3/2025, 6:18:08 PM No.23046007
Sheโ€™s vaxxed, and full of STDs -discard her
Anonymous Kuwait
8/3/2025, 6:20:21 PM No.23046008
>>23046005 (OP)
She's a dumb slut, move on, retard
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sage United States
8/3/2025, 6:21:51 PM No.23046009
>>23046005 (OP)
1 post by this id
very off topic
boring as fuck
Anonymous United States
8/3/2025, 6:27:54 PM No.23046010
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>>23046005 (OP)
>She has ADHD and I have Autism so we basically get along great
How does that make sense? Also autismos can't understand or care about other people so no clue why you think you're in love.
In reality you're just a loser zoomer and she wants a big dick chad. Next time, don't be a pussy.
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Anonymous United States
8/3/2025, 6:56:53 PM No.23046011
>>23046008
>>23046010
Why is she mentally ill though?
Why does it seem like girls like this have a million issues?
>What causes this?
Anonymous Pakistan
8/3/2025, 6:59:29 PM No.23046012
>>23046005 (OP)
>She has ADHD and I have Autism
Crackkkas love their stupid made up bullshit
Anonymous United States
8/3/2025, 7:25:56 PM No.23046013
>>23046005 (OP)
>I need to accept this and move on
You already said the answer. You should have ditched her as soon as she started pulling the "asexual" shit. As soon as she does that you move on to someone else and then she can figure out if she really wanted you or not and reach out to you asking you to come back. And if she doesn't you saved yourself the time and have already moved on.
Anonymous Netherlands
8/3/2025, 7:42:12 PM No.23046014
>>23046005 (OP)
i am not reading all that, you'll need to move on and find a new girl.
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Anonymous United States
8/3/2025, 7:50:03 PM No.23046015
>>23046005 (OP)
I fell for an autisma. She's perfect but she says she's not and after telling her how I feel she's distanced herself from me. She used to chat me up with sexy talk so it's not like this was all in my head. I've got other prospects but I'd be settling. I want an autistic tomboy waifu gf and I'll never be happy until I do.
Anonymous United States
8/3/2025, 7:54:53 PM No.23046016
>>23046005 (OP)
sounds like shes leo and ur virgo maybe.. let her chase you obviously, let her talk, play adult, let her pounce on you, service her when its needed, open up when the air gets quiet in wise way.. its tug of war frendo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ldjbjwim4k
Anonymous ID: 3mgmxDKeUnited States
8/4/2025, 2:29:12 AM No.23047879
>>23046014
Been trying itโ€™s just hard to get over someone who you spent all your time with
Anonymous ID: DokuwKM5United States
8/4/2025, 2:30:03 AM No.23047888
/adv/ post on /pol/ gets sent to /bant/
Anonymous ID: rJfUQHSvChile
8/4/2025, 2:53:56 AM No.23048083
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>>23046005 (OP)
>ADHD
>"Asexual"
Many such cases, and many annoying people I've met has those characteristics
>Maybe cause she cant believe someone like me actually likes her and cares for her
And who are you anyway? what do you mean by that? are you saying that you are caring and respectful, something she is not used to when talking about a partner?
>Maybe cause she has tons of issues and I accept her
As I said up above, she might be not used to it
I can't help you that much, OP. But thinking about moving on is the right decision whatsoever. Work on yourself, grow up and meet more people. Not as a "placebo", but rather as a way to indeed move on. I've been there before, it's the best. I've also lost many people many times, and barely had any contact with few of them many years later to finally be in good terms. Maybe this will happen to you, maybe not. Just accept what's coming and so be it

You know? something like you story happened to me this years, although backwards. The autistic girl and I had a little disagreement for something I consider important, but she just can't understand the whole spectrum. Long story short, I exposed to her my arguments, reminded her that I'm not trying to convince her or anything because it's up to her, and finally warned her that I'll be busy for the coming months, and so don't mind me if I don't reply soon
It's been months, and I know that she has been messaging me several times once in a while. I'm still busy and without motivation, in fact, I'm kind of different from the last time we talked. I don't want her to see me like this, so I'm trying to improve a bit before talking
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Anonymous ID: 9E3RPHVrCanada
8/4/2025, 3:21:46 AM No.23048266
I skimmed over most of what you had to say and I'm sorry to say that you are a hopeless case son I can't help you
Anonymous ID: 9E3RPHVrCanada
8/4/2025, 3:23:53 AM No.23048281
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>>23048083
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Anonymous ID: DokuwKM5United States
8/4/2025, 3:26:20 AM No.23048300
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>>23048281
?
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Anonymous ID: rJfUQHSvChile
8/4/2025, 3:35:40 AM No.23048369
>>23048281
What's the matter?
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Anonymous ID: 9E3RPHVrCanada
8/4/2025, 3:37:33 AM No.23048385
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>>23048300
>>23048369
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Anonymous ID: rJfUQHSvChile
8/4/2025, 3:40:46 AM No.23048411
>>23048385
Well mate, say something. Disappointment without feedback is as disappointing as the defect
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Anonymous ID: 3mgmxDKeUnited States
8/4/2025, 7:29:47 PM No.23051756
>>23048083
Thanks Anon
I think I was the only man in her life that actually gave a shit about her
Her so called friends ignored her the whole time at a event I helped her out
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2ulius ID: FbEWMYZaCanada
8/4/2025, 7:33:53 PM No.23051764
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>>23048411
>>23051756
Anonymous ID: rJfUQHSvChile
8/5/2025, 12:23:39 AM No.23053777
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>>23051756
Something like that happened to me with an ex. She talked ill about her "friends" at high school, and I was always there for her and stuff. However at her birthday she seemed to "forgive them" somehow, to not say that she only played along to receive their gifts. Even in the present I don't like birthdays, so I just returned home to not spend time with her and those "friends". We broke up when she returned from a school trip, and I was ok with that. After all the love faded away, and the fact that she claimed to have had a great time on the trip, with those "friends", after all the shit she said about them, and of course the issues they had with her, made me take the right decision

So yeah, OP, don't think that you're "special" to someone, until that's proved with facts and time
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Anonymous ID: 3mgmxDKeUnited States
8/5/2025, 8:36:13 AM No.23056062
>>23053777
I miss her so much anon
I even tried to reach out last month and she canโ€™t forgive me whatsoever
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Anonymous ID: rJfUQHSvChile
8/5/2025, 10:10:02 AM No.23056230
>>23056062
Mate, just stop it. You will get over it