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Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300338 >>23300354 >>23300374 >>23300406 >>23300781 >>23301261
Have you ever met someone in your life that you never got to know who they truly are, yet still wonder about to this day?
Anonymous (ID: 9sJttKWi) Chile No.23300354 >>23300372
>>23300338 (OP)
I think for some I might be that "someone"
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300372 >>23300394
>>23300354
Mind explaining Doremy fan?
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300374 >>23300378
>>23300338 (OP)
kinda yeah
but when you DO get to know people, their personality can grate on you, and you tend to stop wondering...
it's a paradox
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300375
but yes, there was this artist girl in my highschool i really regret not talking to more
i think we both liked each other alot
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300378 >>23300384
>>23300374
This is less of knowing their personality and more of who they actually were as a person.
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300384
>>23300378
hmm..
Anonymous (ID: 9sJttKWi) Chile No.23300394
>>23300372
Well, honestly I doubt that most people I've met is wondering about me in the present. But what I'm sure is that none of them managed to know me in a big extend. Primarily because I don't like to talk about myself, and when I do, most people judge me as if they had a superior morality or something. That's why I don't expect nothing from anyone, and just let the time do its thing, and so I never talk to people I used to again, and they also never try to reestablish contact, and honestly I can't blame them

I wouldn't stand myself either if I were someone else
Anonymous (ID: eavuPF9R) Australia No.23300406 >>23300410 >>23300416
>>23300338 (OP)
Yeah.. luckily atleast one person I have in mind still messages me on occasion but it does seem like there will always be a barrier there. Both a physical and metaphorical one.

I wonder though, how do you know when you actually know someone though?
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300410 >>23300448
>>23300406
>I wonder though, how do you know when you actually know someone though?
i think normally it has to do with shared experiences, but these days those barely exist, everything is preset and expected so no one really knows each other
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300411
i don't know...
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300414
i can't word things right, i should sleep
good luck everyone
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300416 >>23300448
>>23300406
>how do you know when you actually know someone
In my case, it's when you actually get to see their face or their real name. There's one person in my life that has always been a mystery.
I can share if you want
Anonymous (ID: eavuPF9R) Australia No.23300448 >>23300462 >>23300481
>>23300410
I'm not sure if this is what I would measure knowing someone with.

Thoughts of people I've worked with for years and never met outside of that space come to mind.
Similarly other hobby groups I socialize with, I can't say I know them despite experiencing so much alongside them.

>>23300416
I would love to listen.
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300462 >>23300575
>>23300448
>Similarly other hobby groups I socialize with, I can't say I know them despite experiencing so much alongside them.
yeah
i can't really find the words
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300481 >>23300521 >>23300575 >>23300668 >>23300733
>>23300448
Buckle your fuckle because this is a long one.
It all started one night on TF2. I met a "girl" who was pretty nice to chat with on vc, and despite the admins saying she was trans, I added her based on music taste. Fast forward a couple months and we began to chat actively on Discord. We would play games together as well as talk about interests in stuff like Touhou or Yume Nikki and just niche things. Despite enjoying talking with her, she always had a mysterious aura around her. From the sound of her voice, to her music, to the way she spoke about herself, it was something completely foreign to me and I wanted to know them more. I regret this.
One day they said they had a broken jaw and from the sound of it, it was clear. She said she got it from a worker beating on her at her job, and that she was struggling to take care of herself at the age of 18 while living on her own. She was in Cali. She started to become closer to me and eventually one day said she wanted to help me overcome my anxiety.
This is where the grooming started.
(1/3?)
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300521 >>23300539 >>23300575 >>23300668 >>23300733
>>23300481
The same day she said she wanted to help me with my anxiety, she offered me a place to stay. I took this offer, without knowing what this entailed. The next day she said she "loved me". This was the first time I had heard this, so I fell for it.
There was a lot that happened over the month we chatted but to summarize, the feeling of being cared for as well as her immense expectations for me led to depression, which in turn led to her to try more manipulative tactics like "you should only listen to me" or shit like that. It even extended as far as having sexual dreams about me. This was despite the fact she mentioned she had a boyfriend, and even introduced me to him one day.
As the manipulation got worse and her promise of someday meeting up became less and less, she just gave up one day. Before blocking me, she told me a story of her "dead best friend" and how she had met up with them irl before she was murdered on call.
Upon doing research, this person doesn't exist. Not only that, the person she talked about who was dead and herself had the same first name. She had mentioned she was psychotic and would see shadow people, but to me, it seemed like she was completely insane and was fictionalizing her younger self.
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300539 >>23300556 >>23300575 >>23300668 >>23300733
>>23300521
Sometime after that, because of the pestering of a friend, she readded me. I was still really mentally scarred, but accepted it because I was lonely.
A lot of the same things happened only her delusions and anger kept continuing.
Eventually I hit a low point in my life and she blocked me. Her current boyfriend then DMed me saying how much of a shit person I was, and how she's obviously a liar but was his property.
It was interesting to learn she had been dating him at the same time as the other boyfriend and the two didn't know each other, e dating right?
After this I took my loss but I always wondered who she actually was. Given the photos she had posted of her room on her twitter as well as to me, it seems she was lying about owning her own place. She also never told me if she was trans or not, just saying it "wasn't important"
Eventually I was able to find the job she claimed she worked at and called to see if she worked there. The person on the other end responded with "No one under that name has worked here in 13 years"
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300556
>>23300539
that was 3-3 btw thats the end
Anonymous (ID: eavuPF9R) Australia No.23300575
>>23300462
That's ok. Words often fail in these sensitive circumstances.

Maybe the right experience can lead to knowing.

>>23300481
>>23300521
>>23300539
It sounded at first like a typical friendship, and finding common ground is good.. but..
>grooming
Here it is..

I say the following with care and respect..
This is one person with horrible mental illness taking advantage of you.
I am doubtful you were the only victim as well.
Perhaps it's better to never truly know a person so thoroughly deranged. Moving on is the only option left to you I think, as all other options will be harmful to you in the end.
Anonymous (ID: BWzZaivR) Saudi Arabia No.23300629 >>23300640
This one is gonna be short but when i was 16 years old it spooked me. Its probably not exactly what op wants but here we go.

I was alone at home i think. Someone knocked on the door, and i opened up. I believe i was waiting for someone to knock at the door at that point so i thought it was who i was waiting for. Turned out to be a guy whos in his 20s. looked dirty, withba pretty awful car. The kind of looks you expect from a drug addict or something.

He specifically asked if I knew someone living around in here with a name he had who was around the same age as me and where he lives. I told him i didnt know him, then he proceeded to pull up his phone and show me a picture of him?? I didnt know him either. But even if i did i wouldn't have told him back then. I quickly just made up an excuse and closed the door as quickly as possible.

I am left wondering what that guy was about. I can only think of an Online stalker and a groomer.
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23300640
>>23300629
woah..
Anonymous (ID: 7W9QIJjI) United States No.23300668 >>23300700
>>23300481
>>23300521
>>23300539
holy faggotron
Anonymous (ID: 3mSLOxNi) United States No.23300700
>>23300668
bro joined and contributed nothing to the thread
Anonymous (ID: BWzZaivR) Saudi Arabia No.23300733 >>23302174
>>23300481
>>23300521
>>23300539

I am sorry this happened to you. As i keep on living i start to realise that lonely people tend to give off this aura about them that screams "I can be manipulated with no consequences!" to the wrong people and those people love that and take full advantage of this... I've been in the same place. Its not your fault for having this loner aura i just talked about.

> The next day she said she "loved me". This was the first time I had heard this, so I fell for it.
> she had been dating him at the same time as the other boyfriend and the two didn't know each other

She is a sick person with some sort of fetish, youre far from the only victim, she love bombed you knowing you're lonely and therefore would 100% accept. she must've been doing this on daily basis to everyone around. And i am not sure how people live like this.

We are told Monsters under the bed dont exist, and that might be true. Just the "under the bed" part.
Anonymous (ID: FqwP7gMs) Switzerland No.23300781
>>23300338 (OP)
Not really. It's their choice to share as much as they share so I never pay it too much mind.
Anonymous (ID: HI4xJfWV) Brazil No.23301261
>>23300338 (OP)
Yes, me.
Anonymous (ID: Fp8nslSF) United States No.23302170
mmm no i'm really cold
Anonymous (ID: TLP/VX8h) United States No.23302174
>>23300733
it's sad