>>233039
You should verify before making conclusions. Create a low-stakes scenario requiring empathy or compromise. Set up a situation where your wife is asked to prioritize someone else’s needs or feelings over their own in a minor way, ideally in a group setting to avoid direct confrontation.
For example, you’re planning a casual group outing (dinner or a movie). Suggest a plan that slightly inconveniences the person (a restaurant they don’t prefer or a time that’s not ideal for them) but benefits the group. Present it as a collaborative decision and ask for their input. If they prioritize themselves in front of the group, she’s cooked. Cut your losses and move on.