>>60783004 (OP)
>keeping the illusion of working with family
>he doesn't just quietly slip away from his family entirely shiggy diggy
PRO-TIP: just tell your family you got this great job somewhere far away that they would hate or simply not be interested in at all, like working as a research assistant in Africa or managing a MacDonald's, and tell them how excited you are, and how you're moving all the way out there for this new job!
Tell them all how you've found this house out there you wanna buy as an investment to live in and save money instead of burning it on rent and just working to barely get by.
Imply that if a few of your kin or your entire family threw in to loan (or gift, like a mitzvah) enough money to help you make the downpayment on the mortgage for this house (or just buy it outright), like if they collectively dollar-matched whatever you had in cash, that you'd have no problem, and pay them all back in a year...
...but, if you couldn't find the money, you'd be stuck doggy-paddling to barely pay rent, never building a nest egg, just grinding as a McManager at McD's in order to barely maintain survival level while *hoping* for a promotion so that you can *finally* start saving money...
...but, hey, that's what *you* -- yes: (You) -- really wanna do, especially in *that* particular city/town/wherever!
...so, of course, your family won't help you AT ALL.*
>*: if anyone in your family *does* help you, write their name down in your "nice book" -- these are the family you'll look after, include in your will, help without hesitation the moment they ask, just don't let even *them* know the truth about your money
...so, when you "move away" to the other side of the planet or wherever, make sure to post on your socials or send to your family pictures of "you living there," doing your work, etc.
>it's easy to pay a mcd manager $100 and put on a $100 mcd uniform and pose for photos "working" on the line while it looks busy
>Let the family naturally alienate.<