>>21405873 (OP)There are fat-soluble, water-soluble, and alcohol soluble compounds, so is it truly pretentious to cook with wine? Not at all, and any foodie will want to experience their food to their fullest at most sittings, doing the best they can to cook well, and enjoy their bounty.
So, that said, all assertions about alcohol in your food making you drunk is garbage, abut rather is simply to avoid triggering uncle so-and-so who has a drinking problem or is a recovering alcoholic. Whether you eschew alcohol in your family, it will be based on religious beliefs or to avoid introducing minors to the alcoholism gene others struggled to overcome elsewhere in the gene pool. Religious people who abstain are to be pitied since it barely scriptural, except to cults. Some people have on-call status with work, and if you answer a phone call drunk, you can't then consciencely or ethically prescribe meds on the line, now can you, let alone leave your house now in an emergency. There are reasons not to drink every day other than medical reasons.
I like to deglaze most fond with alcohols, from fortified wines like sherry to bourbon to whisky.