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Yeah, I’ve seen incels who basically describe their formative years as being raised by single mothers who they, whether justified or not, then blame a lot of their own problems on.
To Didi’s credit as a mother, she made exactly the correct move by getting a gist of what was going on, and turning to Hank for help. Anything she could have done to try to correct GH past a certain point was just gonna reinforce his belief that women are terrible. GH needed a positive male influence and Didi correctly remembered that Hank fit that bill. Hank had already gone through that song and dance of rejecting misogyny when dealing with Cotton on multiple occasions, after all, and Didi knew that.
Another important part of Didi’s characterization is that: she was an abuse victim. She and Cotton had a bad relationship where he constantly put her down, and she just kinda took it. It’s hard to say if she was ever gonna nut up and leave him the way Hank’s mom eventually did, because Cotton died before she could reach that breaking point. But then when GH enters a rebellious teenage phase and starts mistreating her, probably her go to coping method there is what she used to use with Cotton: ie, just sitting and taking it. And then, like what happened with both of Cotton’s abusive relationships, that just encourages further abuse until finally there’s a break somewhere.
But GH is Didi’s son and not her husband, he’s healthy and he has his whole life ahead of him, and she is responsible for him. So she can’t leave him, and she cant put up with it and wait it out, and she can’t discipline him. So she has to find some kind of support to help her and to help GH.
